Probably at this point in our relationship, she wouldn’t be on-board with the idea of wearing a butt plug throughout the day (which as an aside would be super hot-the thought of being on a date with her while plugged knowing what would happen at the end of the night is intoxicating) so to start it would probably be something she would insert as part of foreplay. Presumably I would perform oral on her and have vaginal sex while plugged, hoping that doing so would make her more aroused and of course, opened up before we get to anal so that she is also more comfortable with penetration.
Based on this, I am looking for recommendations for butt plugs for her. And, not sure if it matters but we always use silicone lube and never a condom as we are completely monogamous.
Lastly, If anyone has any advice on how to broach the subject of butt plugs please let me know! Also, anyone have any positive experiences of having their wife or girlfriend completely “turn the corner” so to speak in that they got more into anal as a result of butt plugs?
Thanks Anal lovers!
With silicone lube, stick with metal or glass plugs/toys. I happen to prefer silicone plugs, but you have to use water based lube with them. (Love b-vibe plugs... Particularly the snug plugs. They're high quality and comfortable) Would be fine if you had multiple lubes around but if not just stay away from silicone toys.
Njoy plugs are a great metal option and nicely designed for comfort. Princess plugs are pretty but I don't trust the not-super-large handle... Once you're into anal play I think a larger handle is the way to go to prevent mishaps.
Training kits are great if you're looking to move up in size and gradually take larger objects. But a quality dildo (sized appropriately) will help with stretching since many plugs have narrow necks that aren't designed to stretch. That said, the process of inserting and removing a plug will help train the muscles to relax, which is helpful long term, but not as much for the short-term need to open.
I think the best way to find anal pleasurable, particularly as you're starting out, is to make it more about the play than the sex. Starting with a finger to stimulate nerves and work up in size will help associate the stretch with pleasure. It may take time before anal sex is pleasurable and part of that is mentally relaxing and enjoying the feelings. Once it's pleasurable for her, she'll want it for herself, not just do it for you.
Plugs will stretch her, but they won't provide as much pleasure unless someone (you or her) slides it in and out. I'd definitely encourage anal masturbation as that can help her explore and find what feels good for her without the pressure of impending sex... But if she's not up for that, then at least be patient and try to prolong the anal foreplay beyond what's needed to open her up. Letting her experience the sensations on a small scale for herself will help her enjoy sex down the road. And if she enjoys it, she'll be asking for it... Win win.