Asking hubby to try anal..

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Kinkychemist87
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Asking hubby to try anal..

Post by Kinkychemist87 » Sun Jan 03, 2021 3:49 pm

I've been anal active with another partner in the past. I would really like to bring that into this relationship... after my hysterectomy I don't orgasm the same as before and don't get much physical pleasure from vaginal. Anal on the other hand blows my mind and I love that submissive mindset it puts me in!

So the question i am asking.... how did you introduce the idea to a husband?

We are an exclusive male/ female relationship. We haven't ever played in the power dynamic but I'd definitely be open to that and him being a more aggressive and dominant partner.

SydneyAussie
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Re: Asking hubby to try anal..

Post by SydneyAussie » Sun Jan 03, 2021 7:44 pm

Kinkychemist87 wrote:
Sun Jan 03, 2021 3:49 pm
I've been anal active with another partner in the past. I would really like to bring that into this relationship... after my hysterectomy I don't orgasm the same as before and don't get much physical pleasure from vaginal. Anal on the other hand blows my mind and I love that submissive mindset it puts me in!

So the question i am asking.... how did you introduce the idea to a husband?

We are an exclusive male/ female relationship. We haven't ever played in the power dynamic but I'd definitely be open to that and him being a more aggressive and dominant partner.

Well I think there are a couple of things you can do...
Firstly a lot of men are turned on by anal, so your husband might have a history of anal just not with you. I also suggest not bringing up your past anal experience with your husband, that's a turn off for a lot of guys.

Next is when having sex, you can give him a bit of encouragement... say if he spanks and you like it, you can say "Oh yeah, do it again" , give him a sexy face say biting your bottom lip and express "ohh..." when he does something you like. Personally I know a lot of guys feed off that kind of encouragement.... for example you could say if you think it's right... "fuck me as hard as you like... give it to me real hard" etc.

Afterwards... something like "I love it when I feel you that you are so strong, you are incredible" etc.

Next you can ask him... "have you ever though of having anal because it's something I think I would really like to try sometime with you that is if you are up for it" (said with a smile)

Depending on you and him, you can either do all this gradually or rapidly.
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Re: Asking hubby to try anal..

Post by notnice66 » Thu Jan 14, 2021 7:33 pm

Hmmm, tough one Kinky! In my experience, most guys are not into it. They might get all excited at the idea but they don't really want to do it and revert to vaginal as soon as they can and never want to go the back door route again. It can be a real disappointment. So I suggest an intimate dinner, lots of wine then a frank discussion. Feel your way a bit before broaching the subject - you must know him well enough to judge the right time. Another bit of advice, maybe gratuitous - if he doesn't respond the way you want, then don't push it. Wait for another occasion.

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Re: Asking hubby to try anal..

Post by Pluggedkitty » Fri Jan 15, 2021 7:36 am

I have a similar experience... Partner and I are mostly vanilla but I'd love if he was more dominant sometimes. It's tough for him because it's not really his nature.

Totally agree that an open discussion of what turns you on is the best way to experiment and get what you're after.

At least for me, my partner wants to do what I like (same goes for me for him) so discussing and fantasizing/sharing porn together helps with introducing ideas. Now my partner is willing to get a little more dominant at times, even if it does sometimes seem a little like play-acting. He's trying. :-P

As for anal, he likes it but didn't think it was worth the effort (lubing, etc.) most of the time. I told him how much I liked it and started plugging regularly so that it was easier to jump into. Now it's a much more regular occurrence. (Still not AO... He's not into that switch (at least yet) but it's far more frequent and satisfying.)

Good luck!

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