How to transition from regular to frequent anal

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How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by canadianbuttluvr » Thu Feb 03, 2022 4:02 pm

My wife and I enjoy anal sex. On average we have anal sex about 1.5 teams a week. My wife always orgasms and has no problem taking me balls deep, in fact, being in our forties my wife never orgasms multiple times anymore unless it’s anal.

I love my wife’s ass, anal is the highlight of my sexual adventures with her. But I am jealous of those who are having anal sex much more frequently and would like advice on getting in my wife’s ass more. I’ve asked my wife about this and she says that our current frequency gives her a few days to reset as she sometimes has mild stomach discomfort the day after and she typically has to go to the bathroom more in the day or two after. Of course, I don’t want my wife to have anal sex if she isn’t comfortable, but I’m not sure what else we can do to help her insides settle after anal so she is ready to go sooner.

Anyone got advice?

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by hasani2222 » Thu Feb 03, 2022 7:11 pm

It's impressive that she has multiple orgasms through anal. The fact that she likes anal is a big plus for you. Honestly, I would try to work on figuring out what small things you could do to assist her in aftercare. Perhaps a warm water bath. Perhaps applying a cream or fingering her gently so her ass doesn't tighten up after a day. Maybe get into a routine of watching a show and lightly fingering her ass to "massage" it. Also, make sure she's getting enough fiber to evacuate and not worry about emptying. The rest would have to be on her terms for her to allow you access in with your cock. haha

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by AnalJay » Fri Feb 04, 2022 4:11 am

You can't go wrong doing regular Kegel exercises. You can have a very accommodating ass and still have a toned sphincter muscle. This may help her not need the loo so often. If she has an ass full of lube, this may also make her poop, try a little less lube maybe and one that doesn't last as long. If you are still having vaginal sex (and I do sometimes), try cutting the frequency down so anal becomes the more prevalent act, even if for a period you find you have less sex in general, it is just to make the switch and make Anal the main sex act in your relationship. Be sweet and sexy to your wife so she gets horny and increase the regularity of sex, but if you are then having less vaginal sex, having made anal prevalent, it may naturally follow that the rate of anal will increases, the logic being that if you are both feeling horny more often, but the occurrence of vaginal sex is dropping off, then logic dictates that anal should increase. Maybe have a talk with her and see if Anal can be officially the main act. So when one of you says, lets have sex, you know it will be anal, unless otherwise requested. We did that, out on a walk one day the conversation came up and we just decided that sex meant anal sex and vaginal would just be an optional extra sometimes. Was great ever since. If she orgasms from anal, then the mindset would be, well lets just make anal the norm then. If she has stomach discomfort maybe you are bruising her colon. It's lovely to feel your cock passing into the colon, it makes my wife groan with pleasure, I love to hear her, but that sharp bend means it can maybe get bruised, especially if there is poo in there that you are pushing back or past. So go easy in the colon if you are that deep in until it relaxes and you can fuck harder. Maybe use a toy to depth gauge her colon, see where it is and use that as reference, though you should be able to feel it with your glans, depending on her depth and if you reach it or not during sex. Maybe use a toy at colon depth to gently open her up before sex. Try to be positive, a sore stomach isn't much fun, but if maybe she says the has an achy ass hole, don't say you are sorry, tell her you love it when her anus is all tender, you know you've done a good job ass fucking her (don't be shy using direct terms like ass fuck, if you don't already start bringing in erotic and direct Anal sex terms into your sex talk) . The same if she needs the loo more often for a day or two. If she says, I've had to go to the loo again! Give her a hug and a sweet kiss. Thank her for telling you and whisper in her ear that she is a good girl, your sweetie pie, and that you love it when her ass is destroyed like that. and tell her not to worry, she knows it will be fine in a day or so, like it always is. If you don't already, see if you can start using some erotic dirty talk. Depending on her personality, don't talk about destroyed ass holes if she is likely to smack you one(!) though. But if she sees that that is a thing, she can have a great sex session, have a great orgasm as she gets her ass destroyed by her loving, horny, hot husband. And then take a day or two to tone back up, remind her about the Kegel exercises and tell her that, if you are around and she has to go to the loo an extra time or even if she has a little accident, she is to come and tell you, nicely, and you will kiss her and tell her how good she is. I know it sounds a bit kinky, and it is. But this approach worked for us when we started having so much Anal that my wife's ass was destroyed for a day or two. I even instructed her to carry spare panties in case she/we were out of the house and cum or anything else came out. Now it is a fun thing for us. This isn't all the time, it's just when we have maybe been on holiday or off work and have had chance to have some seriously good anal. She will come to me in a shopping mall and whisper to me that she has been to the loo and been a good girl and I will give her a hug and a kiss and tell her how I love her ass when it is all tender. @Buttwoman talked about how she liked to feel cum dripping out of her ass, but not so much when she was out shopping - We were like that but then when we realized to make it a fun kink, that changed things. Anyway, that may all be a load of nonsense to you; but I hope it gives you few ideas - it's great to be able to have anal whenever you want and for it to be the default form of sex.

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by jedojo3860 » Sat Feb 05, 2022 11:02 am

canadianbuttluvr wrote:
Thu Feb 03, 2022 4:02 pm
she sometimes has mild stomach discomfort the day after and she typically has to go to the bathroom more in the day or two after.

If you have cum into her ass the sperm may cause stomach upset and you can't do with that anything. Your girl must poop out all sperm and probably take a small enema (100-150ml) to clean rectum.
I cummed many times into into my girlfriend asses without condom and many of them complained that they have luquid turds on the next day.
But they really have been enjoyed upon taking my load into rectum

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by canadianbuttluvr » Sat Feb 12, 2022 7:06 pm

@Analjay (Analmostly)

What lube would you recommend. My wife and I use Wet Platinum Silicone for a few years now as we love how slippery it is but doesn’t dry out.

My wife always orgasms when I fuck her deep. She screams so loud. But I don’t think I am hitting her colon as I don’t feel anything at the tip of my cock. I’ve read that entering the colon feels amazing for both partners. We usually have anal in spoon cause it’s relaxing, I’m 7 1/4 erect but not hitting her colon :( need to try some different positions as I would love to her my wife scream even louder.

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by Backdoorlover » Sun Feb 13, 2022 3:55 am

We switched to coconut oil and will never go back to lube. Coconut oil has nothing but advantages. It’s natural, smells and tastes good, is very cheap and the lube effect is very long lasting. Another advantage is that the skin absorbs it when it dries.
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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by AnalJay » Sun Feb 13, 2022 9:34 am

@canadianbuttluvr
We tend not to use lube for anal now, preferring a bit of spit. In the past we have used ID millennium silicone - very long lasting and slippy, but my wife found it a pain to wash off herself. Coconut oil is another we have used, it is antibacterial. Also Boy butter original (Coconut oil and boy butter are oil based and though great for anal, may cause yeast infections in some people if also used vaginally depending on an individuals body chemistry. They may also react with latex toys). For toys, fisting etc, we currently use one called Spunk hybrid cum. It is a silly name and unlike something like Sliquid orgnics, which has much more subtle labelling and can be left discreetly on a bedroom shelf, Spunk has very in your face labelling. However, Spunk is a silicone hybrid. It lasts quite well, but not as long as pure silicone. However, when it dries out if you wet the area, it lubes up again. So it works with your bodies secreted fluids or spit you add along the way. I forget sometimes and add more lube, but really I could have just added a little spit. It feels nice on your skin, my wife never complains when we have used it. She finds water based ones go 'tacky'. But this stuff acts more like moisturiser afterwards and will wash off easily. It also washes out of sheet and clothes just fine, so doesn't stain. It looks like cum as it comes out of the bottle, hence the name. It isn't too runny either, so You can apply it to your toy or your cock and it doesn't just run off all over the place, you have time to position yourself. :shock:

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by amaizeg » Sun Feb 13, 2022 6:15 pm

It may be different for different people, but FWIW my lover and I never use any artifical lube and I don;t think I have ever cum in her ass ... either all over her or in her mouth.

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by AnalJay » Mon Feb 14, 2022 1:53 am

amaizeg wrote:
Sun Feb 13, 2022 6:15 pm
It may be different for different people, but FWIW my lover and I never use any artifical lube and I don;t think I have ever cum in her ass ... either all over her or in her mouth.

You don't cum in her ass? That's interesting. Do you just prefer to see your cum as it comes out? My wife loves to watch me ejaculate, on myself or on her body, face or into her mouth; though I love cumming in her ass. My first anal experience, as a teenager, I saw my cum drip from my lovers ass, I guess that made me think, that is where cum should be. It is hot though, when she puts on a pair of glasses and asks me to end by cumming on he face. Didn't think she had those thoughts in her, but it seems she does :D

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Re: How to transition from regular to frequent anal

Post by amaizeg » Tue Feb 15, 2022 11:50 am

AnalJay wrote:
Mon Feb 14, 2022 1:53 am
amaizeg wrote:
Sun Feb 13, 2022 6:15 pm
It may be different for different people, but FWIW my lover and I never use any artifical lube and I don;t think I have ever cum in her ass ... either all over her or in her mouth.

You don't cum in her ass? That's interesting. Do you just prefer to see your cum as it comes out? My wife loves to watch me ejaculate, on myself or on her body, face or into her mouth; though I love cumming in her ass. My first anal experience, as a teenager, I saw my cum drip from my lovers ass, I guess that made me think, that is where cum should be. It is hot though, when she puts on a pair of glasses and asks me to end by cumming on he face. Didn't think she had those thoughts in her, but it seems she does :D

It's mostly that she is very hungry for cum and when things aren't quite squeaky clean enough for ATM she like to feel it on her skin. It's her preference and I am more than happy to oblige my sweet anal-only nymph.

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