Anal only orgasms
Posted: Sun Apr 10, 2022 7:12 am
First I've already had success and I'm not really "anal only" but this seems like a good group to exchange ideas with given the common interest. I will give my background and advice then see if others have further insight.
First, anal is a somewhat fetish for me and not at all for my wife. She is also not a "giving" lover. For example, blowjobs are a chore. She has anal entirely because it feels good. Second, we are both tall and I am moderately well endowed (7.5"), information shared because I think it's relevant to why something might work differently for me than others. Third, after a clitoral orgasm she has a long refractory period and rarely can have a second but can continue to have essentially infinite vaginal orgasms.
How the anal only orgasms happen: we work up to anal and she cums clitorally quickly. After she's warmed up, multiple positions work for anal orgasms but they have a common theme: I have my dick pointed up toward her vagina as far as I can, I am as deep as possible, and I am going at least moderately fast. I essentially adjust slightly from that starting point until she says something like "oh there" and don't change anything about what I'm doing until she starts cumming. She has described it like there is some narrow window and any change makes me miss it again. The easiest position to make this work is missionary with her butt propped up and feet by her ears. While she has cum from just anal (no hands/toys on clit) with more shallow or differently angled positions, there has always been some contact where my body is rubbing against her clit.
Why I think this works: anal sex can stimulate the inside of the vagina by causing the walls to rub together and deep anal sex catches a spot below the cervix that a lot of women who have vaginal orgasms seem to enjoy. I also noticed she cums more easily when she has to pee as well. This combined with missionary position pushes the back of the vagina/cervix further down and makes it easier to reach.
What I'm curious about: are other people getting anal only orgasms another way? I understand rare people can orgasm from things like nipple play or even just mental stimulation so in the same way exclusively stimulating only the anus or penetration pointed away from the vagina might result in an orgasm but otherwise I don't see how it would work. I suspect at least some of the examples of clit denial leading to anal orgasms are actually just getting the clit so sensitive that the woman cums from subtle unintended rubbing. What do the people of this board, who obviously are very focused on this issue, think? I'm especially interested in female perspective but open to all.
First, anal is a somewhat fetish for me and not at all for my wife. She is also not a "giving" lover. For example, blowjobs are a chore. She has anal entirely because it feels good. Second, we are both tall and I am moderately well endowed (7.5"), information shared because I think it's relevant to why something might work differently for me than others. Third, after a clitoral orgasm she has a long refractory period and rarely can have a second but can continue to have essentially infinite vaginal orgasms.
How the anal only orgasms happen: we work up to anal and she cums clitorally quickly. After she's warmed up, multiple positions work for anal orgasms but they have a common theme: I have my dick pointed up toward her vagina as far as I can, I am as deep as possible, and I am going at least moderately fast. I essentially adjust slightly from that starting point until she says something like "oh there" and don't change anything about what I'm doing until she starts cumming. She has described it like there is some narrow window and any change makes me miss it again. The easiest position to make this work is missionary with her butt propped up and feet by her ears. While she has cum from just anal (no hands/toys on clit) with more shallow or differently angled positions, there has always been some contact where my body is rubbing against her clit.
Why I think this works: anal sex can stimulate the inside of the vagina by causing the walls to rub together and deep anal sex catches a spot below the cervix that a lot of women who have vaginal orgasms seem to enjoy. I also noticed she cums more easily when she has to pee as well. This combined with missionary position pushes the back of the vagina/cervix further down and makes it easier to reach.
What I'm curious about: are other people getting anal only orgasms another way? I understand rare people can orgasm from things like nipple play or even just mental stimulation so in the same way exclusively stimulating only the anus or penetration pointed away from the vagina might result in an orgasm but otherwise I don't see how it would work. I suspect at least some of the examples of clit denial leading to anal orgasms are actually just getting the clit so sensitive that the woman cums from subtle unintended rubbing. What do the people of this board, who obviously are very focused on this issue, think? I'm especially interested in female perspective but open to all.