How to explain him ?

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tom
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by tom » Tue Nov 01, 2022 4:42 am

Hi Megara. I have to agree with what people are saying here about him respecting your wishes or he is out. You can always find another lover. If you think it is hard to find a man at your age, you are wrong. I date women your age all the time. Your boyfriend obviously only watches porn and does not think about what happens behind the scenes. It is sad that he lacks the intellectual curiosity to research it. If he did, he would know that the actresses have full control of what is happening. If they do not like what an actor is doing, then he is out. There are plenty of males with a big penises who want to do porn which is why male actors are paid much less than the females who are harder to find. This scenario is a metaphor for real life. If he does not comply to your wishes, you need to move on to someone much better that will treat you right.

Rimmer
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by Rimmer » Tue Nov 01, 2022 5:25 am

Megara wrote:
Fri Oct 28, 2022 9:47 pm
He’s immature and selfish yes
I am almost 50 years old and he 44 .... I’m pretty curvy and I’ve never had a complex with it but it ended up making me feel ugly by force

There is nothing wrong with curvy, many men prefer it, that is why there is a film category for BBW, I don't know if you fit into that or not, but curvy does not equate to ugly in any way. You will read the odd thread about feeling certain ways, dirty talk or name calling - there was one recently about feeling slutty - but this is for people that like it. It's not about just being a dick and making someone feel bad about themself.

Megara
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by Megara » Tue Nov 01, 2022 5:59 am

Thank you all for your support and reading you has done me a lot of good and has allowed me to see more clearly . I had a discussion with him and even if he did not agree at the beginning he understood I think our last relationship was based on mutual respect of our desires and what was acceptable for both of us and I confess that the experience was of rare intensity for me and that he finally enjoyed much more than he thought
I even set up a very stimulating little game I send him by message my naughty thought of the day .. in a few very explicit lines I tell him what would make me want what makes me fantasize about a little direction to which I thought three lines a bit daring and believe me it stimulates him to be much more careful and to give me really pleasure .

Rimmer
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by Rimmer » Wed Nov 02, 2022 2:02 am

That's good. we send messages to add an 'edge' to the day, often on a Friday.

Megara
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by Megara » Wed Nov 02, 2022 3:56 am

Rimmer wrote:
Wed Nov 02, 2022 2:02 am
That's good. we send messages to add an 'edge' to the day, often on a Friday.

Hope you enjoy it 😁

Colt1911
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Re: How to explain him ?

Post by Colt1911 » Wed Nov 02, 2022 12:42 pm

Juliet wrote:
Sat Oct 29, 2022 10:54 pm
In anal sex the one who receives should call the shots. Anal is about exploring that hidden orgasm for a women plus other kinks. Never do painal unless you have a kink for painal. It's not worth it. Put your foot down, says this is how anal with me going to work. I don't think with that kinda attitude you have mentioned, there's no other way to tell him.

You’re absolutely right. A good anal lover should WANT their partner to also enjoy the experience! The stronger her anal orgasm, the better my orgasm is.

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