Husband isn't into anal

[evanie]

Hi all, new here.

I really want to be AO, but my husband isn't into anal, at all. That's fine, I've accepted it, and I don't want to ever bring it up with him.

Because of that, it's something I only indulge in during my personal time. I do vaginal for him, but it doesn't turn me on in the same way.

What I'm asking is, what are some ways I can still fulfill my desire for AO and have fun with it, without crossing the boundaries of my relationship.

Curious if there are any other women here in this situation.

[Backdoorlover]

Can I adress the elefant in the room ?

If your husband is totally not willing to at least meet you half way, your marriage will not last. You will slowly slide into a relationship based upon polite understanding and common sence, totally deprived from passion.

So now some questions:

Is he totally opposed to anal or would he, for example, fuck you while you are plugged ?

Is he, in any way, at least willing to help you with your desire ? Let’s say fuck your ass with a dildo while you give him a blowjob.

I am trying to figure out his position towards the idea of anal.

[AnalWizard]

Start with dirty talk.
"Do you want to fuck my ass"

"Do you want to cum inside"

Also you could give him pussy with dildo up bum... Then after the act tell him it could have been him up your bum.

Make jokes about anal. Say something like "it's tight warm and degrading to women.... But since I'm your women you can degrade me as much as you want."

Sounds to me like you just need turn on the switch.

[semi-normal]

The comments above are excellent but it requires you talking with your husband. Only you know how much effort you have put in, but obviously more is needed. If he is absolutely opposed and you will not speak with him about it, then you can continue what you are doing, which does not appear to be satisfying. Or you can have your needs met elsewhere which many would not consider wrong. Many in this world save vaginal virginity for marriage but other types of play (oral, manual, anal) are fair game. Or open serious communication with him. Who knows how long this may take, but you are in a committed marriage and no topic should be avoided if it is important to one of the partners.
Like @Analwizard stated, you may just need to flip a switch. It is very hard to imagine a man not interested in anal, but we are all different.

Also, I find it interesting that the wife is into anal and the husband is not (yet); typically it is the reverse.

[Colt1911]

As @semi-normal suggested, you need to talk with him. Tell him it’s important to you. I wish I had done this earlier with my wife. She never orgasmed during vaginal penetration but discovered she’s anally orgasmic five years ago. Tell him his sexual experience will improve when he’s able to give you anal orgasms. No idea how long you’ve been married but it’s worth giving it a try before having an anal affair. Maybe try anally masturbating in front of him. If that doesn’t turn him on, he truly isn’t interested in anal. Give it a try and let us know if he changes his mind.

[AnalWizard]

As @semi-normal suggested, you need to talk with him. Tell him it’s important to you. I wish I had done this earlier with my wife. She never orgasmed during vaginal penetration but discovered she’s anally orgasmic five years ago. Tell him his sexual experience will improve when he’s able to give you anal orgasms. No idea how long you’ve been married but it’s worth giving it a try before having an anal affair. Maybe try anally masturbating in front of him. If that doesn’t turn him on, he truly isn’t interested in anal. Give it a try and let us know if he changes his mind.

I like the idea of giving him a show.
"Honey I have something to show you. Just watch"
>Put dildo with suction cup on surface.
>Put lube on it....wank it a bit.
>Then position yourself in squat position Infront of it. Giving him a show
"This could be you if you want it".
>Put dildo in ass.
>Ride dildo.
>Start slamming dildo.

[Colt1911]

@AnalWizard it doesn’t take very long before I remove the dildo and give her the real thing.

[Backdoorlover]

Guys. You’re all forgetting that just maybe (they dó exist) her husband is repulsed by the idea alone. I once even knew a guy who didn’t want a blowjob from the girl he also kissed, cause he didn’t want to taste his own cock. I kid you not.

So as long a @evanie doesn’t give us more insight on his reasons, we can only gamble.

[Anal Pervert]

Why not just divorce him and look for a man who would love to fuck your ass every night?

[DirtyWife]

Hey there sorry to hear about your issue...
My man just prefers piv. He is willing to fuck any hole I got but I want him to want my ass more lol.

You got to figure out why he isnt into it...
Is it dirty?
Is it religious?
Bad experience?

Were you into anal befor him? Or just surprise him with it lol?