How can I give my boyfriend the best anal possible?

[Curiousaboutbutts]

My boyfriend and I have been together since high school and up until now I've only ever given him blowjobs but recently he told me he really wants to try doing anal. I've read a lot about anal since then and I'm a little nervous to take it up my butt but I also really want to impress him by doing a good job, so I was wondering if you could give me any advice on how I can give him the best experience possible and make sure it's as pleasurable as possible for him? Thanks!

[Backdoorlover]

I think you are forgetting something here. It needs to be pleasurable for both of you.

So instead of asking this question here, maybe you can have an in dept talk with your boyfriend about you willing to make anal as good as possible for him. Cause any decent boyfriend will then return that favor and try to make it the best possible experience for you. Believe me, if your boyfriend hears you say you not only want to do anal, but you want to give him great anal, he will surely be in heaven.

Talk to him.

[Colt1911]

@Curiousaboutbutts I don’t think you need to worry too much about your boyfriend enjoying the anal experience. As @Backdoorlover mentioned, he should be more concerned about you enjoying the experience. Most of us on this forum, including my wife, love anal sex. It’s most important you as the receiver are ready to make sure you enjoy it. My wife’s anal orgasms are spectacular and I hope you can orgasm from anal.

I suggest you spend time alone and get to know your ass. Gently touch it and insert a finger with lube. Invest in some anal toys and start small. To help you get used to the feeling and experience anal pleasure, rub your clit or use a vibrator. Gradually increase the number of fingers or size of toy. Be patient. It can take some time to get used to the feeling.

When you’re ready for him to penetrate your ass, have him go slow and make sure you use lots of lube. Relax, take deep breaths, and push out like you’re having a bowel movement when he starts to penetrate you. Initial penetration is so erotic Evan after 5+ years of anal only for us. He’ll love it and I hope you do too. Many of us here are happy to offer the advice you need to make this as pleasurable as possible for BOTH of you. Anal sex is the most erotic and pleasurable form of sex I’ve ever experienced. Best of luck on your anal adventure.

[Canassman]

Excellent advice so far. I can’t imagine adding much, perhaps reiterating that if he’s a decent boyfriend he will want to do what it takes to help u enjoy it as well.

[Colt1911]

@Curiousaboutbutts many people know their body and simply bathe or shower before anal play and sex. If you’re new to this it might give you more confidence if you cleaned out with a saline enema or bulb of water.

Ask your boyfriend to engage in anal play for a while before he attempts penetration. Small toys or butt plugs help warm and loosen you up. Pleasure can help your sphincter relax and take something thicker. This is a unique muscle and it can make you and your boyfriend very happy with a little experience.

[semi-normal]

I agree with all of the comments above and will add to them. My lady has never done an enema but always cleans up before play as we both enjoy it when I rim her. Also, play with some toys and lube and it will ease your mind. After years of practice we have learned which toys go first and are useful, and have gravitated towards coconut oil as our favorite lube. Explore before introducing it to your boyfriend; you'll blow his mind.

[Peachy V]

I think this is a journey you two should take together. You can practice on yourself but it's still not like the real thing. Prep together, work together, maybe get some toys, good lube, and see how it goes. No rush. Lots of communication. And work on stretching yourself open so you both can enjoy anal when you are ready.

It's your body, you want to do this the right way.