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Hello everyone.

My wife and I don’t have much of a sex life anymore largely because she is terrified of getting pregnant despite the fact that we use condoms and I pull out every time. She refuses any hormones or inserts. I told her there is basically a zero percent chance that she will but she insists she needs her tubes tied. I asked her if we went that route would she be ok with me not wearing a condom or pulling out and she was hesitant. I was obviously really upset because my wife seems to be ok with avoiding sex altogether than risk pregnancy. We’ve been married 7 years and we have amazing sex when we do come together. She comes every time and hard. And I should also mention every time she comes after I slip a finger in her butt. She likes it a lot.

The other night I blurted out after she said no to sex again that she should just let me put it in her butt and her response was “guys just want to stick their penis in something.” I said, “no, I just long to be close to you and because of your pregnancy fears I can’t have that.”

We’ve tried anal before and she was ok with it (it frankly felt WAY better to me than vaginal sex) then sort of freaked out because she had trauma surrounding it from a previous relationship and blurted out, “this is what gay people do!” I said- “well I’m not gay I love you.”


I really want anal with her. I have for a long time both her and I are very kinky- into water sports, lots of talk about anal centric things. She often likes to walk into my office, pull her pants down and spread her asshole telling me something like “you can kiss my big brown butthole” when we are pretend fighting. But when it comes to going for it she always says no. It seems like a perfect fit (no pun intended) for us given our natural proclivities and her complete aversion to having any more kids.

What do you think I should do?

Look up “brat behavior” cause she seems to fit that discription.

And if that is true, you’re behavior towards her needs to change in order to have fun again.

@Germanik I think @Backdoorlover might be right. Brats play games and she might be looking for you to take her and fuck her ass when she teases you.

Personally, I’d have a difficult time dealing with that kind of mind fuck, although there have been times I’ve converted her “no” into a “please fuck me harder”.

Look up “how to deal with a sexual brat” and you’ll find plenty of discussion on Reddit and Quora forums. One suggested you discuss this with her. You might find she’s playing a game and hoping you’ll turn her around, bend her over, and fuck her ass.

Hopefully, this is the case and she’s simply looking for you to dominate her anally. Her virtual refusal to allow vaginal penetration could be a hint she strongly prefers anal. If so, welcome to the club!

I hope members more familiar with the brat dynamic will chime in with advice. I also hope this leads to an intense, anal only relationship for you and your wife. Please let us know how it turns out. Good luck!

I tend to agree with the two comments above regarding "bratting". You mentioned she was ok with previous anal sessions so perhaps she NEEDS to be taken. Perhaps it is in women's DNA to test men and agree to be dominated by someone they respect and it appears she is hinting at that. Even if it is not your personality, be dominant with her; pull her hair, spank her, blindfold her.
You'll find out one way or the other and I wish you good luck.

So @Germanik any update ? It’s always a bit sad if people come here for advise and vanish after it’s been given.

These posts don't deserve a reply. 'Bratty behaviour"? 'Mind fuckery'? You guys are simply misogynists unable to see emotional complexity.

@notnice66 you surely picked the right nickname. I wonder what you’re even doing here ?

Yeah, I expected a personal attack. You should focus on the substance of my message.

I also wonder these days why I bother checking in. The site is becoming a refuge for incels and male supremacists. I'm not the only woman who has become uncomfortable here - you'll see lot of hints from other comments. You need to take a step back or you'll continue to drive away genuine contributors.

Yes I do have an update.

Regarding the bratty behavior. There is definitely something to be said that my (and I'd probably argue most) wives prefer a dominant male.
But our relationship isn't the type where she'd be ok with me outright controlling her and forcing something on her (her sister in law would be that person). She does seem to like me persisting when she says no and I "manhandle" her a little, but it's our relationship where I'd not disrespect her if she was truly uncomfortable with where things were headed. We had a rocky past that included separation for over a year and near divorce- so we have been rebuilding trust and part of that I think is being a strong leader but not forcing something on her that we aren't ready for yet.

I think she has become much more open to the act. We haven't gotten to full on anal sex yet, but she is more relaxed about the whole idea now. If I am horned up and sex isn't on the table- we have been waiting for a while until my vasectomy results come back A-OK, then she will entertain me by spreading/puckering her anus for me and letting me rub one out. I keep nudging her along asking her to finger her ass or let me lick it- which is progress even in itself that she doesn't outright refuse anymore. I think she is getting more used to the idea that it's not that big a deal and she gets turned on knowing it turns me on. We still enjoy vaginal and she basically always cums with a finger in her ass. I don't know if its because it turns me on and my cock gets bigger, it turns her on because it feels good, or both- but it's pretty standard for us now.



A step in the right direction!

notnice66 wrote: ↑

Sun Aug 04, 2024 9:53 pm

Yeah, I expected a personal attack. You should focus on the substance of my message.

I also wonder these days why I bother checking in. The site is becoming a refuge for incels and male supremacists. I'm not the only woman who has become uncomfortable here - you'll see lot of hints from other comments. You need to take a step back or you'll continue to drive away genuine contributors.

Pot blaming the kettle here. All you do is talk down to people. Your message doesn’t have a deeper meaning or something. You just love to trow a popular word around.

Anyway, have fun here.