About clitoris and female orgasm

[sana]

I have done some research about the female orgasm and clitoris. Evidence points to my assertion that both are not needed.

I joined my bf and his wife today. It was mostly about them. I gave them both oral to finish them off. My bf was satisfied after he ejaculated. His wife was not; still needed a lot of hugging kissing and stimulation long after.

Prompted me to think about this and do some research.

The clitoris and vaginal contractions helps create a pump to pull sperm into the cervix. But not essential. It doesnt look like it was meant to a release like a mans orgasm.
So girls trying to cum like a man seems to make less sense because its always going to be a false expectation. They simply cannot.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psycho ... asms%3famp

https://www.statnews.com/2016/08/01/org ... reproduce/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/ritarubin/ ... 6c85053b33

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1910295116

https://www.news-medical.net/news/20191 ... toris.aspx

https://news.yale.edu/2019/09/30/female ... happy-gift

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyl ... r-pleasure

https://www.unsw.edu.au/newsroom/news/2 ... -does-it-a

[NoVagAnal]

@sana you are absolutely right. A female orgasm can aide in impregnation, but isn't required. On the other hand the male orgasm is required. This does mean a female orgasm is only optional.

I know there are females out there who swear by their vaginal orgasms, but maybe if they took part in denial they too might understand the power of it. How much their sexuality can be heightened. How closer they can feel to their partner. I'm sure it's not for everyone, but for those it is right for, it's very right. And some don't realize it would be right until they actually commit to it for a while.

I'm hoping all the curious women reading this and other similar posts will be motivated to commit themselves to it a lot more. They are here reading this for a reason, maybe this will give them the courage to let go their pussy and fully embrace their ass and mouths as their sex organs.

[aNewFrivolity]

Female orgasms may not be necessary for procreation, but I would argue there's more going on in us as a species than simple mechanical biology.

Human beings are social creatures by design, and thus, both social bonds and communication is incredibly important to us and our evolution. Both the group of hunters that communicates better as well as the gatherers who can better communicate their findings / coordinate their efforts will have a clear caloric advantage over groups that communicate worse. They would extend less calories for their work and bring home more.

As people here know, communication is also key for mutually satisfactory sex The couple that communicates effectively in bed has another arena in which they can hone their skill of communication. The mutual pleasure would also be a way of creating a stronger social bond, making the group as a whole stronger.

I'd argue, basically, that empathy and caring about each other's sexual pleasure can be an evolutionary advantage. This would even work if the women wanted to make sure they'd receive no clitoral pleasure.

As for the clit being unnecessary: Well, it IS a homologue of the penis, so from an anatomical / hormonal point of view it is necessary in human development so you can have genitals eventually.

[Backdoorlover]

I don’t care if nature intended women to orgasm. If I see my sweety cum while my cock is in her ass, it makes me happier then my own orgasm. She cums hard and with her whole body involved. She needs clit stimulation but I absolutely love it and would never take that from her.

Why ? Because I have been with a woman who had so much trouble to let go and cum, that it drained our sexlife a lot. It took the pleasure out of it.

Now that I’ve experienced different, I will keep feeding it.

[Curiousaboutbutts]

I one hundred percent agree! I feel like fixacting on my orgasm just cheapens sex and ruins the whole flow of it. Like obviously i dont want to judge women who want to orgasm during sex but I just think a healthier more natural approach is to focus on getting your man off. There is guienenly nothing more satisfying to me then feeling my boyfriend cum inside me and knowing that im what made him feel so good

[ChrisW]

I agree with @Backdoorlover that it's great to see your woman orgasm. At the same time I can acknowledge that men and women are made differently. For men, sex without the orgasm is frustrating and disappointing. On the other hand, women often have satisfying sex even without an orgasm. In a way I kind of envy that.

[Backdoorlover]

Well, my girlfriend is often happy with just making me cum hard. She tells me the whole experience is what makes her happy.

Feeling me enter her asshole, having her ass fucked deep and sturdy. Then suck it straight from her ass and doing some fantastic deeptroat, while she’s at it. Back to fucking her ass in a different position, hearing her moan is mesmerizing. And when she feels I am approaching my orgasm, she gets all exited too and start doing little thing like pushing back on my cock or squeeze her asshole around it. Making sure I will cum as intens as possible.

Then, when I shoot my load, I ofter get some sort of cheer from her. Like she feels she’s a very good girl for making me cum so hard again.

I can honestly say that she is my lifelong dream come true. For decades I fantasized about a women like her in my life.

[ChrisW]

Thinking about it some more, the whole biological purpose of sex being to stimulate the man into ejaculation with as much quantity as possible. That's what both are working towards so its no wonder that female orgasm isn't necessary. Given the goal that would explain why women still have satisfying sex when only the man orgasms - but I think there has to be an emotional connection first for that to be true. Sex still has to be pleasurable as an incentive to engage in it, but ultimately the "payoff" is the male ejaculation.

[sana]

Thinking about it some more, the whole biological purpose of sex being to stimulate the man into ejaculation with as much quantity as possible. That's what both are working towards so its no wonder that female orgasm isn't necessary. Given the goal that would explain why women still have satisfying sex when only the man orgasms - but I think there has to be an emotional connection first for that to be true. Sex still has to be pleasurable as an incentive to engage in it, but ultimately the "payoff" is the male ejaculation.

Most women these days don't want to admit this is true.
I spent years trying to get off like a man but never fulfilled. i could have had sex with 8 guys in a night, and still gone home masturbates by hand then sybian and still unsatisfied. Its because my orgasms just dont give the same effect as a mans does. Mans ejaculation is an like a mission complete. Its not the same with a vaginal orgasm. It actually does not give much if any benifits.

Focusing on helping my bf cum in my ass does give me satisfaction however. Feeling him pull me closer and deeper. Listening to his groans of pleasure makes me boil over like a volcano. Its really changed my view of sexuality completely. Total surrender.

[ChrisW]

Most women these days don't want to admit this is true.

I think it's hurting women not to admit this. Also hurting men too because they are stuck with women trying to chase the same goal as them, which just doesn't work for either.

Focusing on helping my bf cum in my ass does give me satisfaction however. Feeling him pull me closer and deeper. Listening to his groans of pleasure makes me boil over like a volcano. Its really changed my view of sexuality completely. Total surrender.

That sounds a lot like my GF. She's often said that when I cum in her ass, she feels like she has too. Not the exact physical feelings of course, but the same high and sense of accomplishment. That makes a difference to me too. I'm almost ashamed to admit that when we used to have vaginal sex it got to the point where I didn't care anymore but now I'm so happy for her after anal sex. I'm seeing a different her than I used to and that's a good feeling.