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Maybe this seems not in the right place, but still important

Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2024 6:32 am
by Backdoorlover
These are red flags when it comes to female to male interaction. Of course I know the other way around exists, but I feel that since years, the focus is always on manipulating men. Although women do it too and get away with it a lot more.

All the points listed here, are what I experienced with a woman in a previous relationship. She even manipulted me into marrying her.

At first I was the best, kindest and best looking man she even had and she couldn’t adress it often enough. And then, all sudden, she pulled back every compliment about me and replaced it with toxic treats like “you make me do this so you feel better, you’re a psycho”.

One of the things she did was offer anal sex herself, very soon in the relationship. Then be very acceptive and recceptive about the quantinty and her availablity. Till some day were she started to tell me I was an in closet gay, I hurt her when assfucking her, I was selfish for wanting her asshole. She really made me feel like a perv and that did held me back in my next relationship. Luckily the next woman is the sweetheart I am with now and she doesn’t have one toxic treat.

Anyway, here’s the list. Keep these things in mind when starting a new relationship:

Six (6) darkest manipulation Tactics women use to control you.

Understanding these behaviors can help you recognize and address them in your relationships.

Let's get started

1). Emotional Blackmail: Emotional Blackmail is one of the most insidious forms of manipulation. It involves using guilt, fear and obligation to control someone for example a woman might say if you loved me you would do this for me.

I can't believe you would hurt me like this. these statements can make you feel responsible for her happiness or distress leading you to comply with her demands to avoid guilt or fear of losing her

2). Gaslighting: gaslighting is a psychological tactic where the manipulator makes you doubt your own perceptions and reality. A woman using this tactic might deny events that you clearly remember twist facts or accuse you of being overly sensitive or paranoid over time this can erode yourself confidence and make you more dependent on her version of reality giving her more control over you.

3). Playing the Victim: playing the victim
playing the victim is a manipulation tactic where someone portrays themselves as helpless or wrong to gain sympathy and control.

A woman might exaggerate or fabricate stories of how others have mistreated her to elicit your pity and support. This can make you feel compelled to protect and care for her often at the expense of your own needs and boundaries

4). Silence Treatment: The Silent treatment involves refusing to communicate or acknowledge your presence as a form of punishment, when a woman uses this tactic she creates a power imbalance by making you desperate for her attention and approval. This can lead you to apologize or concede to her demands even if you're not at fault just to end the uncomfortable silence and restore communication.

5). Triangulation: Triangulation is a tactic where a woman brings a third party into your relationship to create jealousy, competition or insecurity. she might flirt with someone else talk about another person's interest in her or compare you unfavorably to others. this can make you feel inadequate and drive you to go to great length to win her approval and keep her attention focused on you.

6). Withholding Affection: Withholding affection is when a woman deliberately denies you love attention or physical intimacy to punish you or get her way. By withdrawing affection She creates a sense of emotional deprivation that can make you more compliant to her wishes. This tactic exploits your natural Desire for closeness and approval making you more likely to submit to her demands to regain her affection.

these are the six darkest manipulation Tactics women used to control you. Know it and know Peace.

Re: Maybe this seems not in the right place, but still important

Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2024 8:45 am
by Canassman
I respect your experience and am sad u went through it. So without any denial of your experience I want to agree that those are all signs of a toxic person, and I’d like to point out that men also do those same tactics - some more than others. As a person who has assisted abused women escape such relationships, I’d say they are common tactics from men and women.

Re: Maybe this seems not in the right place, but still important

Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2024 10:00 am
by Backdoorlover
I fully agree. But untill I was a victim of such a woman, me, a fearly intelligent, know it all, can fix everything kinda guy. I was really astonished that women do this too but on an emotional level.

For example she used the victim thing throughout all her life. Even her kids took over her house shores because she keept using the victim card untill they did. Her coworkers had seen her cry multiple times over her past, making it seem she was always the victim of mostly situations she created herself.

When I suggested a therapist she got mad and yelled she wasn’t a lunatic. She didn’t want to get rid of those feelings, it had to much levarage value to her.

Re: Maybe this seems not in the right place, but still important

Posted: Sat Jul 13, 2024 1:25 pm
by FarmerDan
I went through the same thing, and it took a long time to heal. Take care of yourself.

Fact is women hurt men at least as often as men hurt women. It's just that the scars they leave are usually invisible.

This is not the place to go into detail but feel free to PM.

Let's be grateful that this forum is a peaceful place :D