Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

[analsexonly]

For those out there who require anal only in their relationships, how have you found people willing to do this right off the bat? Are you up front when you start dating? Do you flat out refuse to have vaginal the first time you have sex and say you'll only do anal? Share your experiences and advice on the subject.

[Edit: Changed wording to make gender neutral. This question very much applies to women looking for willing men as well.]

[MikeyR]

Good question. I've been anal only since college (I'm in my 30s), and social media has made it a lot easier. Yet, it's not altogether easy. Before social media, I'd get hot and heavy with a girl, usually encouraging her to give me a hand job and head, and they always seemed impressed that I wasn't trying to fuck them. Pretty quickly, however (cause I love to fuck a lot), I'd have to ask questions about how "adventurous" they were and ultimately ask if they were into anal. Most weren't and reacted badly when I told them I don't believe in vaginal sex being the natural sex for couples not looking to have a baby, but some didn't. Those were the girls I dated and we were strictly AO, which in my book means they can't play with their pussies either. (All masturbation and sex takes place in the female rectum. Spraying from their vaginas from anal stimulation is good.)

Today, I either bring it up quickly if we've met on a dating website or, if I'm really into her, I'll take her on a date and wine and dine her before explaining. Fortunately, there are women out there into anal only, and they are worth the dry spells.

When it comes to AO, I think I'm stricter than most cause I don't see it simply as a choice but as the way sex is supposed to be between men and women to be healthy and fulfilling. I also think that men and women instinctively gravitate to it but that society and religious institutions have propagandized us into not knowing anymore how great sex is supposed to be.

I'm curious to hear from others, too.

[anallova]

Im in my mid twenties and ive been in an anal only lifestyle since I turned 20. Before I never really cared about anal or even thought about it. It was during college that a girl I really liked introduced me to anal. She had perved on her best friend get her ass destroyed by a huge cock. It was the visual appeal that got to her (as she later on told me).

Since that first time ive been addicted to it. Like MikeyR rightly, ive firmly believed that the vagina is like a release vent for a good orgasm...a good orgasm that originates deep within the mind and body of your partner when she feels pain, excited, stimulated and full.

Its us anal addicts opinion that makes us look all distorted...thanks to society. In my quest to seek women who are are anal addicts as well...so far I havent come across many. Out of 10....2 would be willing to "try" if you've done your tasks right....3 might just like it but not prefer it....4 are against it or have had a terrible first time experience...(thank you you impatient douche bag) and there will be maybe 1 who likes it a lot but still would occasionally want it in her pussy.

I have been with only 2 women so far that have regected their pussy completely and have always begged to get fucked in their ass. My occupation unfortunately keeps me really occupied and busy so I havent had the time to go out there and seek such women. ...but I believe the world is changing...anal is becoming more mainstream and more women are opening up to it. All it takes is that great first powerful explosive orgasm via anal sex that will tuen her away from vaginal.

My quest continues though.

Others please share your opinions and or experiences!

[MikeyR]

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" thank you you impatient douchebag"

Haha... So right!

Women are certainly the key to this and they're slowly coming around. I think most guys of all ages want a lot of, if not all, anal. I find that we can talk about pussy like men but become giggling, excited schoolboys when we think about anal. The hormone levels just skyrocket within us. I wonder if social media is going to help younger people go the anal only route a lot more quickly? Maybe a movie will come out in which a Laura Croft-type heroine will get in bed with her male costar and when he reaches for the condom, she'll stop him and say, "no need. I hope you are man enough for anal only." Every guy in the theater would probably cum in his boxers at the same time, and women's magazines and talk shows would be flooded with discussion of the new vogue trend in hot sex.

[taylork]

Mikey i also think most guys prefer anal. They always talk about pussy which is annoying as it just makes me feel awkward. But i'm sure if they were honest about it most guys would want just anal.

[Doctore]

When I was 24y/o I had an 18 y/o GF who just started having sex. I was her third guy. I asked, but she was too chicken. After that, I forgot about it for years. Then something happened a few years ago and each woman after that, I started asking for anal. Last month I met a woman on vacation and she actually let me do it with her.

I showed her some anal movies on TV and told her that it must be easy if those girls can do it. Then we got a dildo, and when I was in her pussy I inserted the dildo and lots of lube in her ass.

I have realized with practice with women, that the easiest way to get in the rectum is actually in missionary. So I put her on her back and told her to play with her pussy. I inserted the dildo in her pussy while I slowly, over about 20 mins, eased into her ass.

Unfortunately she wouldnt let me stroke and called it off. I am hoping to see her again next month.

I do have a porno sized penis which makes women more reluctant, and I have been refused many times.

[marcus]

Having been married years I'm probably not qualified to comment. But, wouldn't it make more sense to just meet people, form a relationship with the goal of moving towards AO and not making it a requirement? Otherwise I'm sure people will be in for a lot of disappointment and frustration trying to find someone into AO. Sure, they exist, but how to find and communicate that common interest?

[LuvMyWifesAss]

Having been married years I'm probably not qualified to comment. But, wouldn't it make more sense to just meet people, form a relationship with the goal of moving towards AO and not making it a requirement? Otherwise I'm sure people will be in for a lot of disappointment and frustration trying to find someone into AO. Sure, they exist, but how to find and communicate that common interest?

Being married to a woman that prefers AO myself, it's hard to say how I would do it again if I had to. We had been having sex for about four or five years before trying anal. I just don't think I could ever go back to having vaginal sex, unless it culminated each time in anal, as my wife and I did for years (until we both admitted vaginal sex didn't do much for us). I would hate to get too involved with someone only to find out they are not open to anal sex. I could never be sexually fulfilled having vaginal sex, making anal sex a requirement of any sexual relationship.

This said, I don't know when it would be appropriate to bring it up, or how... "Hi, nice to meet you. Would you be interested in only having anal sex?" If it were a relationship in which we didn't have sex right away, but built up to it, you might be able to ask if she would be willing to try anal sex and gauge her response. I think that would freak some women out though.

Maybe it would just be best to gauge how willing she is to please you in other ways to try and determine if she would be willing to try anal sex to please me, then bring it up in the bedroom?

Before my wife and I had anal sex, I thought about it, but I wouldn't say I was obsessed with it. Once we did it though, I could not have cared less if she sewed her vagina shut. Luckily, she felt the same way. Due to social conditioning, it just took a long time (15 years) for her to be able to admit she only wanted anal sex and accept it. What's funny is that we would almost always start out with vaginal sex, but always ended up having anal sex. I should have known her preference would be to have AO sex, as every time she had something to drink, she wanted it straight to her ass with no vaginal penetration whatsoever.

I can't really remember how it happened, one day we were talking about sex and how much we both enjoyed anal sex, and she asked me if I cared if we no longer had vaginal sex. What's funny is that she has now admitted she really didn't care about vaginal sex anymore after we had anal sex the first time! She said it was like she just knew this was how she was meant to have sex.

I just don't know how I would go about it if I ever had too again. I certainly hope that's never the case, as it seems my wife and I were just made for each other.

[prettypink]

I find that men will usually bring anal up if I don't. And most men are interested in having anal sex, at least from my experience. On the whole they seem to enjoy it more than vaginal or oral sex.

Perhaps some of you who are perhaps a little older are thinking how things may have been 20+ years ago. That is certainly not the situation now.

I suppose the issue really is whether it occurs to people to think a life of only anal can be possible.

[tryhard]

I've only had one anal partner, my ex.
We were only together a short time, but the sex with her was very intense. She enjoyed anal, although not to the exclusion of vaginal - for me it was a different matter!
Since then, I can't imagine not having anal with any future partners. I guess being open about what I'd like sexually from the start is probably the best policy?