Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by fascinum » Wed Nov 06, 2013 8:18 am

French Lover wrote:
fascinum wrote:
French Lover wrote:passion becomes contagious.


If she was into SM, I am not I could get into this... So basically we all have limit. I can understand her limit is there.
She accepted to try. Once. It didn't work, and she prefers to quit trying. That's her choice, and even with my long-time effort (we're together since 4 years), I couldn't convince her to make another try.


I agree Marcus. I can not believe she has refused even a second try during 4 full years.
Try a game. Try to seduce her like if you both were in a romantic first-date... A romantic dinner, some candles, flowers. Reserve the motivation of the dinner for the conversation... probably she will laugh about your strange way to ask her for Anal, so similar to ask her for marriage. But maybe she will try....
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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by French Lover » Wed Nov 06, 2013 11:40 am

Well... my girlfriend is not the topic but... if I can make a lot of girl into anal, and sometimes into AO, that means I do have a talent to generate the passion.
She has just a particular mind, a manichean mind. Things are either good forever, or bad forever. I have almost never seen her change her mind on anything, not just on sex. She had no idea about anal, she wanted to try but was too impatient, I was too confident. I have failed the first try, and thus "anal is bad": it hurts, why would you want to do it? I had to quit touching her anus, since she wouldn't like the feeling of me wanting something she wouldn't give to me.

Things are stuck, for now. But anal sex is a very common topic in our discussions. She often jokes when I take her in my arms from behind: "so you are fucking my ass... again!" She knows how I like it, and this "anal atmosphere" let me hope that someday I could have another try... Who knows?

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by Anal Pervert » Wed Nov 06, 2013 9:43 pm

In the days when porn was viewed on VHS videocassettes, I would estimate that about 1 in 5 engaged in anal sex. Today, thanks to the inernet, that number has increased somewhere better than 1 in 3.
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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by marcus » Sat Nov 09, 2013 8:31 am

Anal Pervert wrote:In the days when porn was viewed on VHS videocassettes, I would estimate that about 1 in 5 engaged in anal sex. Today, thanks to the inernet, that number has increased somewhere better than 1 in 3.

This is undoubtedly true, though I would think the 1 in 3 may even be a conservative estimate. But that has no bearing on the frequency people will engage in anal (or the ratio to other sexual acts) nor if they are willing to engage in AO.

But I think we are getting off track with the discussion (I'm as at fault as any) in that it is about meeting people interested in AO. My own feeling is that this just isn't often a realistic proposition. I think AO can only be achieved through an existing relationship.

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by Prince Albert » Sat Nov 09, 2013 12:59 pm

marcus wrote:
Anal Pervert wrote:In the days when porn was viewed on VHS videocassettes, I would estimate that about 1 in 5 engaged in anal sex. Today, thanks to the inernet, that number has increased somewhere better than 1 in 3.

This is undoubtedly true, though I would think the 1 in 3 may even be a conservative estimate. But that has no bearing on the frequency people will engage in anal (or the ratio to other sexual acts) nor if they are willing to engage in AO.

But I think we are getting off track with the discussion (I'm as at fault as any) in that it is about meeting people interested in AO. My own feeling is that this just isn't often a realistic proposition. I think AO can only be achieved through an existing relationship.

I agree that most AO arrangement are created through an existing long term relationship, as is my case. I do beleave that there are women who are AO but are very rare compared to men who are/want to be AO.

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by French Lover » Sun Nov 10, 2013 1:28 pm

That's clear that if you want to speak about the fantasy of being AO in the first months of the relationship... It won't last long :lol:
You have to hide! ;)

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by marcus » Mon Nov 11, 2013 7:02 am

French Lover wrote:That's clear that if you want to speak about the fantasy of being AO in the first months of the relationship... It won't last long :lol:
You have to hide! ;)

That's because, for whatever reason, anal sex is still associated by many with some kind of deviancy. So, yes, talking about wanting to go AO early on is tantamount to saying you're weird or creepy. Time is needed for your partner to see that this isn't the case.

Then again, the hiding isn't good either tbh. Especially for those who value honesty in a relationship.

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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by assman99 » Tue Nov 12, 2013 12:16 pm

Since we are all in agreement that women who are interested in (or even potentially open to) a strictly anal sex life are extremely rare. The matter I'm not seeing mentioned that seems of vast importance to me is that of narrowing ones options to an unreasonably small pool of available partners.

To a single man who is holding out on finding a relationship with one of these women: I wish you good luck, but the odds are highly in favour of your going through life never finding what you're looking for or. Less likely is that you will find a girl who is into this, but ultimately the relationship won't have been built on the kinds of things that long-term relationships must be built on. And so you will have a fling that might give you memorable sex, but you'll be back to trying to find the perfect mate again which you're likely never to find.

The odds are exceedingly more favourable that you will find long-term happiness if you find a partner who you connect with physically and emotionally whereby you build a bond of love and trust. If you can really get that far and have a healthy, active sex life with a woman who feels adored and comfortable with herself in bed, then I dare say it's a very easy next step to introduce some anal play. From there, take it slow and work on it and if you truly found the right partner, you're either going to get exactly what you're looking for, or you're going to get the next best thing.

Frankly I think anyone on here who claims to be willing to go solo indefinitely because of inability to find AO-agreeable women is full of shit.
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Re: Meeting people interested in an anal only relationship

Post by marcus » Tue Nov 12, 2013 12:52 pm

Beansman, I think a couple of us have mentioned how next to impossible it will be to meet people specifically for AO.

As you rightly point out, it takes a real connection and time to get there.

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Re: Meeting women interested in an anal only relationship

Post by myttia » Fri Nov 15, 2013 10:23 pm

anallova wrote: She had perved on her best friend get her ass destroyed by a huge cock. It was the visual appeal that got to her (as she later on told me).

Can you elaborate on this? Her friend talked to her about it, or showed her (you said it was visual)?

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