After sex...

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Robert
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After sex...

Post by Robert » Fri Apr 04, 2014 9:26 am

Does anyone have any tips about making it easier for my gf after we have sex? Naturally I love to cum inside her, but this can often cause complications later in the day or morning after etc. She'll get a loose bowel movement or be caught out by a sudden desire to expel what's inside. We can't be the only ones with this problem but I don't often see it mentioned on anal discussions.

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Re: After sex...

Post by the2beans » Fri Apr 04, 2014 9:53 am

Robert wrote:Does anyone have any tips about making it easier for my gf after we have sex? Naturally I love to cum inside her, but this can often cause complications later in the day or morning after etc. She'll get a loose bowel movement or be caught out by a sudden desire to expel what's inside. We can't be the only ones with this problem but I don't often see it mentioned on anal discussions.

I've never understood all of the fuss about this and assumed most people who talk about the 'hours of leaking cum' were actually people who never or rarely had anal sex and were just making assumptions. I'm not saying this about you, I'm just saying that it's something we never had a problem with from day one and so I guess we're lucky.

I only ever finish inside my wife and afterwards we will lay and caress for a little while before I pull out and then she gets up and goes to the toilet to eject my gift. I will usually accompany her for a wash-up myself. She sits on the pot for a couple minutes and almost everything gets left behind. She will actually look in the bowl afterwards to identify shapes like in clouds. She's quite a lady.

Anyway, that's what we do. She wears panties afterwards just in case, but we've never noticed any issue of fluid leaking out later. The asshole tightens back up very quickly after sex. We have also never noticed any connection between this and loose movements the next day, etc. As with most things in life, however, it is probably specific to each individual.

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Re: After sex...

Post by amorous945 » Fri Apr 04, 2014 2:37 pm

I don't think that it's so much about "hours of leaking cum" that he's referring to here, but about loose bowel movements sometime after anal sex. When left inside, most of the ejaculate is going to be absorbed in the colon, so the idea of it leaking out days later is very doubtful. It is a fact, though, that "some"people experience lose bowel movements sometime after anal sex. My wife also has this issue at times. Not every time, but often enough. Personally, I would be interested to know if other women experience this. My wife usually goes to the toilet afterwards, but it can still happen. I'm curious as to what actually causes this reaction in the first place. It doesn't make much sense to me. I can only guess that maybe "some" people's systems are more sensitive to those millions of swimmers inside the colon, while others are seemingly "immune" to it.

Robert, for us, we just see this as a minor downside to something we otherwise love, but it would be nice if it never happened.

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Re: After sex...

Post by the2beans » Fri Apr 04, 2014 3:21 pm

I would wager that it has little or nothing to do with ejaculate and has instead everything to do with the activity of anal sex causing the bowel to become active. The thing that causes us to have harder or softer bowel movements is the rate at which the colon is absorbing the water from the waste passing through it. When diarrhea occurs, either the colon is inadequately absorbing water for some reason (various health issues can cause this) or else the system is currently over-active and so the waste is moving through at a rate faster than the colon can extract the usual amount of water from it.

From what I have read, it is not at all unexpected for penetration and activity in the rectum and sigmoid colon area to cause the bowels to start to become more active (it doesn't understand what is going on and probably assumes there's a problem at the end of the system and so it's doing a flush).

I'm not a doctor, nor even a med student so take this with a grain of salt, but for reasons not related to anal sex, I've had to understand a fair bit of the human digestive system. It's theoretically possible that some chemical in the ejaculate is what activates the bowel, but I find it far more likely that it's simply the physical activity which is not usual for that part of the body.

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Re: After sex...

Post by marcus » Fri Apr 04, 2014 4:51 pm

My wife used to have a little of this. I would guess those who push it out won't have any issue, for obvious reasons. What causes it? Who knows, perhaps 2beans is on to something but I've a hunch it may be changing the chemical balance of the bowel. Different pH of something like that, or perhaps an allergy. The solution we found actually provided itself - as we had more frequent anal over the long term the problem for the most part went away. Perhaps the body gradually begins to recognise semen and doesn't react in the same way, or else her bowels stop responding to the stimuli. So give it time and it may sort itself out. Hope that helps.

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Re: After sex...

Post by the2beans » Fri Apr 04, 2014 5:23 pm

An easy way to test this would be to experiment with having anal sex but not ejaculating inside her (either condoms or externally). Then see if the issue continues over numerous trials. If it continues, then it's very likely related to the stimulation. If it ceases, then very likely to do with the ph/chemical theory. That the issue seems to reduce or disappear over time also seems to indicate a higher likelihood of stimili as the reason. In any case, someone else will have to do the experiments because I don't do condoms or pullouts and my gal doesn't seem to have an issue.

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Re: After sex...

Post by Robert » Sat Apr 05, 2014 4:56 am

Thanks for all the responses. I'm glad to hear we are not alone, though that probably won't help my girlfriend feel better about it.

To make things clear, I never meant she was leaking for hours afterwards. And it doesn't always happen so it it difficult to see any pattern. Could it be related to brand of lubricant? We use KY if that is any help.

As we (fingers crossed) get to have more anal I'll see if the symptoms clear as Marcus claims.

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Re: After sex...

Post by amorous945 » Sat Apr 05, 2014 10:01 am

the2beans wrote:An easy way to test this would be to experiment with having anal sex but not ejaculating inside her (either condoms or externally). Then see if the issue continues over numerous trials. If it continues, then it's very likely related to the stimulation. If it ceases, then very likely to do with the ph/chemical theory. That the issue seems to reduce or disappear over time also seems to indicate a higher likelihood of stimili as the reason. In any case, someone else will have to do the experiments because I don't do condoms or pullouts and my gal doesn't seem to have an issue.

Haha....I'm in complete agreement with you on this one. Someone else will definitely have to do the experimenting, because I don't do pullouts or condoms, either. Once my penis goes inside that lovely treasure, it's stayin' there until the deed is done, and then some. :D

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Re: After sex...

Post by Marquis » Sat Apr 05, 2014 9:16 pm

My guess would also be that it is most about the stimulation of the anus than the cum itself.

I do think there are lots of unfamiliar sensations for women who are new to anal and many of these are minimized with more frequent anal sex. Famous anal porn star Asa Akira is known to say that anal only hurts the first 20 times. That's a high bar to cross for some women, but in my experience it is true. No matter how opposed to anal a woman may be at first and how difficult and uncomfortable it may be, eventually it becomes very natural and acceptable. The key is just to get past that hump.

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Re: After sex...

Post by taylork » Sun Apr 06, 2014 9:29 am

Same thing happened to my gf too. It does get better i promise you. What also really helps is if you ejaculate deep beyond her rectal valves as it is more absorbed in the colon.

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