Dating and sex

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by tom » Sun Nov 22, 2015 3:14 pm

Oh, BTW, I wanted to address the part about a lady you would take home to meet your family. For me, I would be proud to take an anal only woman to meet my family. To me, an anal only woman is as feminine as it gets. I would never bring up our sexuality, of course, but what is the worst that could happen? We are at my parent's house and my mother or a sister walks in on our having anal sex. The first thing they would say is, “Oh well, Tom has always been a little different.” If my father or a brother walked in they would say, “Wow, that lucky duck.” My father would probably say something about being discrete and locking the door but I would apologize and all would be forgiven. In every scenario, I would have nothing to fear. Again, while guys like me are not the most common, I can't be the only guy who thinks and feels this way. Please don't give up.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by analonlylondonebony » Sat Nov 28, 2015 4:17 pm

Hi Tom,

Thanks for your posts although I don't understand why you took the anal out of your name. :)

When I said about the kind of lady not to introduce to the family, it isn't about the family's perception. We never discuss our detailed sexual preferences with family anyway. It isn't that.

It's just the insecure douche bags raised on a diet of porn who associate anal sex with a woman being a slut. And a slut is just to be picked up and dropped again at will, not for a relationship.

I discussed this today with a friend and he agreed that it was true, a lady who can't or doesn't want to have anal and brings it up first with a guy loses his respect because his immature mind is conditioned to believe that a woman loving anal is wild. Women should require coaxing, but not initiate it.

Anal only men like you are very rare. Same as anal only women. Half the men here that claim to be anal only still consider a bit of pussy sex as part of the deal. If pussy is off the menu, they feel stumped.

I do understand your position of accepting pussy as better than nothing. I'd rather have nothing. So the strategy of getting together with a guy just because he's casually mentioned he loves anal sex is one I'll never settle for again. Fortunately, I'm not desperately in need of intimacy.

tom wrote:Oh, BTW, I wanted to address the part about a lady you would take home to meet your family. For me, I would be proud to take an anal only woman to meet my family. To me, an anal only woman is as feminine as it gets. I would never bring up our sexuality, of course, but what is the worst that could happen? We are at my parent's house and my mother or a sister walks in on our having anal sex. The first thing they would say is, “Oh well, Tom has always been a little different.” If my father or a brother walked in they would say, “Wow, that lucky duck.” My father would probably say something about being discrete and locking the door but I would apologize and all would be forgiven. In every scenario, I would have nothing to fear. Again, while guys like me are not the most common, I can't be the only guy who thinks and feels this way. Please don't give up.


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Re: Dating and sex

Post by Dreamer » Mon Dec 07, 2015 1:21 am

analonlylondonebony wrote:Hi Tom,

Thanks for your posts although I don't understand why you took the anal out of your name. :)

When I said about the kind of lady not to introduce to the family, it isn't about the family's perception. We never discuss our detailed sexual preferences with family anyway. It isn't that.

It's just the insecure douche bags raised on a diet of porn who associate anal sex with a woman being a slut. And a slut is just to be picked up and dropped again at will, not for a relationship.

I discussed this today with a friend and he agreed that it was true, a lady who can't or doesn't want to have anal and brings it up first with a guy loses his respect because his immature mind is conditioned to believe that a woman loving anal is wild. Women should require coaxing, but not initiate it.

Anal only men like you are very rare. Same as anal only women. Half the men here that claim to be anal only still consider a bit of pussy sex as part of the deal. If pussy is off the menu, they feel stumped.

I do understand your position of accepting pussy as better than nothing. I'd rather have nothing. So the strategy of getting together with a guy just because he's casually mentioned he loves anal sex is one I'll never settle for again. Fortunately, I'm not desperately in need of intimacy.

I am totally fascinated by this. I am relatively inexperienced, so I have never been in an anal only relationship, but I know a couple of guys that either have been or would like to be. As you said, although most guys obsess over anal, they still feel stumped if vaginal is left out altogether, but I know at least one guy for whom this is not the case. On the other hand I have never met a woman, online or otherwise, that would rather have no sex than vaginal. Except people with certain medical conditions of course. I often find myself wondering if I was in a no vaginal relationship how would I feel. I do know that I would rather vaginal than nothing (but then again masturbating only keeps me from going insane for a short while), but the vagina generally bores me, and I cannot come during vaginal without fantasizing that I am actually fucking her ass (same for masturbation). Am I a true anal only man? I guess I will have to convince my other half to try one of these Anal Only November things and find out. XD

Edit: and of course I totally agree, the way society continually shames women for their sexual choices and body is disgusting.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by analsexonly » Mon Dec 07, 2015 10:07 am

I'm somewhat mixed, myself. I'd prefer an anal only relationship with zero vaginal sex at any point, but I also recognize the relative scarcity of women who are already anal only and that for most people to get to that point it's a process, so I feel that if I met someone who was compatible with me in other ways and was sexually open minded but not anal only, I would consider vaginal sex—but more for their satisfaction than for mine, as I do think I personally would also prefer nothing over vaginal—while trying to work towards being anal only.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by Dreamer » Tue Dec 08, 2015 12:34 pm

That is quite amazing to me. I know by experience that if I spend over two months without having sex with someone other than myself I start hemorrhaging sanity. So, at that stage, it doesn't particularly matter which hole is being used.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by tom » Fri Dec 11, 2015 2:10 pm

There is some great writing in this post. I have to agree with Dreamer. When having vaginal sex or masturbation, the only thing on my mind is fantasizing that I am having anal. It is the only thing that keeps me sane when doing something I consider less than anal. But it is impressive seeing Ebony's ability to understand the men who want to keep vaginal on the table. Unfortunately I think you are right about why men would keep an AO woman in the FB zone and not introduce her to family. Ebony, if you are not in some profession that requires behavioral analysis like marketing, law enforcement, therapy, medicine or the like, you have missed an opportunity. You are like a laser that pin points exact motivation in behavior. You make it look easy, but I can tell you that your assessment skills are not easily acquired. I also understand the idea about satisfying a partner who wants vaginal. Unlike some men, I am not into anal for some sadistic bend but instead am into it for the opposite. If you know what you are doing you can give a woman more pleasure than she ever thought possible. Don't get me wrong, there are selfish reasons for doing it too, but sex is no fun to me if my partner is not into it. Thanks everybody for your insights.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by Billy Van » Sat Dec 12, 2015 12:37 am

I am going to have to agree with Tom. There are men out there who prefer anal sex and would choose it over the more "traditional" option. Regardless of medical or preferential reasons, I would be thrilled to locate such a woman in real life. My own marital situation is not at all conducive to anal play at any level and the lack is felt very keenly.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by tom » Fri Dec 18, 2015 5:46 pm

Hi Billy,
I'm sorry about your marital situation. I have had times in my life where it was very difficult to convince a partner to go anal. You have probably tried every argument in the book over all these years but there may be an ingredient or two that you might not have known that would help convince your wife. There was once a post that I cannot find about the benefits of anal. It had things like more intense orgasm and increased libido. You might be able to find information like this with an Internet search, but if you are patient you can read through many of the posts on this site and many of these ideas will reveal themselves. Bottom line is that you need ammunition if you are to sell anal to your wife. I have found the anal sales job to be incredibly challenging. The sad thing is it shouldn't be. A big part of the problem is that women spend a lot of time and effort to be attractive and they feel that the possibility of feces will destroy all of that. It seems illogical to you and me because whatever happens with anal, we are anything but not attracted. The reality is the woman who gives us anal becomes a fond glue in our mind that can never leave. I constantly have warm reminiscence of the women who quelled my anal desires. Anyway, there are those with physiological problems who can't do anal effectively, but statistically they are few and far between. So long as things are eased into and not shocked, the wide majority of women can have the full enjoyment of anal they didn't think possible. I am hopeful you can find a solution without parting. It seems like you have both invested a lot in this relationship. However, I also understand how things go south. Notice how I speak of women and not a woman in my life. I wish that weren't the case but I have to be honest. Thanks for contributing and good luck.

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by LuvMyWifesAss » Fri Dec 18, 2015 11:27 pm

tom wrote:You have probably tried every argument in the book over all these years but there may be an ingredient or two that you might not have known that would help convince your wife. There was once a post that I cannot find about the benefits of anal. It had things like more intense orgasm and increased libido.

I thought this was posted on here someplace, but I didn't find it, so here's a link to it on my BLOG.

http://analonly.blogspot.com/2007/09/i- ... -anal.html

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Re: Dating and sex

Post by LuvMyWifesAss » Sat Dec 19, 2015 12:15 am

Here's the link to the post here, which contains more information.

http://www.analonlylifestyle.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=5

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