Just yesterday I remembered that I had set up an account here, so this looks like the only place to be now. The short version is that my husband and I started having anal sex during my second pregnancy, which really changed everything, not that either of us knew it at the time. Both super busy and tired, emotionally drained, with me being most effected. I felt like I had lost something and feared I was suffering post partum depression. If you're interesting I think it's all in the blog archive.
I hadn't given much thought to an update or follow up on the progress we had made as I've been much too busy. Finally finding a little more time now, even though back to work. Day care for our number two has made so much difference.
Now I come to what most of you will want to know, and yes we have been having lots of anal sex. For those who don't want to read the blog archive I had felt really mixed up after giving birth and missed the special time my husband and I had during pregnancy. We had such a close connection then, I was off vaginal and after years without finding myself thinking about and enjoying anal lie never before. My husband loved it too. Later, he didn't want to go back and I felt confused, guilty and a kind of alienation to sex in general. I had thought that every would go back as before. Well, we learned you can't put that genie back in the bottle.
I have to say that most of the effort required was on my part. Initially it just didn't feel the same at all. My husband didn't want to push, he noticed the change. but at the same time I could tell and now know that introducing anal sex to the relationship had opened up a whole new dimension for him. I think that he had a very hard time admitting to me and himself that that was now his very strong preference.
What we have learned together is that it takes time, patience and perseverance to work through difficult times to get to where you want. I didn't feel the same initially about the anal sex as I had when I was pregnant but keeping at it as a loving team I've been able to rediscover the magic. Eventually it has become what feels the most natural thing in the world.
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It is a shame about Tumblr, but our community is still active and healthy even without it. Between the forum, our Discord server for realtime chat and the new blog that's no longer hosted on Tumblr (but which still has all the old content archived), things are looking up.
If you'd like to make a followup post for the blog as well, feel free and I'd be happy to post it. The archive of your past messages is here, and you can submit a message here.
Have you checked out whether your experience is akin to PPD? There might be lots of resources and services available to support you while you're going through this complex time.