My wife and I have been incorporating more and more anal in our sex lives. Butt loving (not so much asshole loving) is a huge turn on for her. As she put it, her asshole isn't first or second gear, but third or fourth.
Unfortunately, she has some anal trauma. She was raped anally as a teenager and anal has come from a NO 4 years ago to her thanking me for being persistent and patient with her. She loves anal now! However, I haven't been able to get her to orgasm anally. And our anal encounters are always so short.
I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman. And I want that life spent AO. But she is convinced her vagina is her primary sexual organ. She was primarily with women before me (she's pansexual) so all of her sexual life before now has been all about her clit and vagina.
I got my vasectomy last week. I don't have any hope of AO any time soon, and I'm tired of condoms and pulling out. But as we talked about me getting a vasectomy, and with some sexy talk during sex, I think she is going to be more willing to let me cum in her ass. I guess she has been deathly afraid of my little swimmers.
Next Wednesday is my birthday. And I got her 2 backless panties and a new bottle of water-based lube (she has sensitive skin). I'm really hopeful my birthday night could be the night I can cum in her ass (since this has this far been more my kink than hers, I finish quickly. But, since this is such a powerful kink of mine, I can easily keep on going), and keep on going so she can have an anal orgasm.
I know there is no hope of AO so long as anal orgasms are hard to achieve. Wish us the best everyone that my birthday night can be a watershed encounter bringing us closer to an Anal Only Lifestyle!!
Yesterday was my birthday, and my wife had made is vaguely known that she planned on having Anal for my birthday. I got her a butt-less underwear, and she responded by buying a teddy that was butt-less AND crotch-less. I think there was a message in that. Assuming that was the case, when she asked what I wanted her to wear, I said the teddy first. She could tell I wasn't extremely into it, especially when she saw my much stronger reaction to her wearing the butt-less underwear I got her.
Her Ass opened up quick to my tongue, but she wanted vaginal... for a while. Even though I strongly prefer Anal, I still love having sex with my wife. We hadn't had penetrative sex for 2 weeks (I had my vasectomy on the 22nd), and it was hard not to cum. But eventually I did. Only THEN did she want to switch to Anal. We had Anal in the piledriver position (I think that's what it's called, we were facing each other with her legs above my shoulders). I started slow and shallow, just my head. After a few minutes, she began to press herself against me and pulling me deeper by grabbing onto my hips. Soon, I was pounding her Ass as deep as I could, per her request. Several minutes later I unloaded in her. I guess I unloaded all the tension and sexual frustration over the past 2 weeks into her Ass. At first, she begged me to keep on going, but I guess I filled her to the brim; she felt like she had to go poo and rushed to the bathroom.
When she came back, I was ready for more, but she wasn't. And that was it. It was amazing Anal loving, especially since I saw and felt that she wanted it and wanted more (in the moment). But these are our Anal experiences: really fucking short. And I can't help but feel a little negatively toward myself, perhaps I should cum outside of her. But interrupting the rhythm like that doesn't always work out. I guess I need to just be patient. But who knows when we'll have Anal again.
Over the past year, our affections have oriented more and more around her Ass. He loves it when I grab or spank her Ass - and she sees how much I love looking and touching her Ass. Sometimes, she pulls down her pants, presenting her bare Ass to me, and sways about - only for a few seconds (we have kids and our niece is staying with us during distance learning). When I say I wish my face could be buried into her Ass, she says she wishes the same. A new kink we both adore (she asks that I do this at least twice a day) is me spreading her Ass and inhaling the intoxicating scent of her sweaty Ass crack.
She loves using plugs and my thumb while we have vaginal. But when it comes to penetrative sex, she is really focused on vaginal. Every time we have Anal, she enjoys it more than the last. But our Anal loving is always so short.. too short for her to orgasm. Sometimes, she begins to orgasm, but me feeling her Asshole open even more from the pleasure, and hearing her quickening breathe, makes me cum inside of her; and like last night, feeling all my cum in her (and I cum A LOT, especially in her Ass - her Ass seems to suck all the cum I got out of me) she feels the need to poo and the Anal sex is over.
I guess what I'm trying to say is our Anal journey is slow, which is frustrating; but it is moving along consistently toward more and more Anal affection and loving, which gives me hope. But to be honest, I am tired of vaginal. But I can't and won't rush her. She is stubborn and willful, any pushing or prodding in any direction will more than likely backfire (and it has). But I guess that is what this forum is for? For those of us who desire to live an Anal Only lifestyle can share our journey, express our frustrations, and share our testimonies. I will be posting more in the future, I've found this forum to be very therapeutic.
Also! She is intrigued with the thought of plugging her Ass during the night, keeping all my cum inside her. I say she is intrigued, because after last night she said she is not ready YET. I guess I just cum waaay too much for her novice Asshole. And, I think the infrequency of our Anal loving probably has a hand with how much I am releasing.. Perhaps.
Anyway, thanks for listening (whoever you are). If there is any correlations between my journey and your own, please share. Because I am the only one who fantasizes and actively desires Anal, I frequently feel lonely in my sexual relationship. I am grateful I have such a fantastic life partner, but when it comes to sex, I often feel alone. I have vaginal to keep her happy, but I am imagining having Anal. I love her, so I know without a doubt she is worth the wait. But fuck... sometimes it's really hard to always want and hope for Anal but so often go to sleep disappointed.
Anyway.. thanks for listening.