Boredom / How do they do it?

[DanishCouple]

BBells understood exactly what I meant. It's perfectly OK if you find vaginal sex boring, that is your private opinion, but I don't like the way you conclude, that the reason why people look for ways to spice up their sex life is that they are bored with vaginal sex. And I don't like the anti vagina mentality.

I read and post here because we like anal sex, and if it was possible, we would probably be 99% anal only. But I love her pussy, it is an important part of our sex life even if we don't use it for intercourse!

[analsexonly]

I absolutely agree that suggesting people who prefer vaginal sex are wrong is just as bad as other people suggesting people who prefer anal sex are wrong. There is no anti-vagina "mentality" here in a general sense, other than the fact that some people are uninterested in them or dislike them on a personal level. There are multiple approaches to anal only, and some may enjoy non-penetrative vaginal play while others prefer to avoid anything to do with the vagina either because of a lack of interest or for denial purposes. You may personally dislike those approaches, but they are just as valid and welcome here for discussion as people who do enjoy vaginas and vaginal play. They are all under the scope of this website.

Some people do dislike vaginas and find them unappealing. I am not one of those people—I love how they look, I love performing cunnilingus and combining clitoral stimulation with anal penetration—but I understand that some people do and that there is no reason to scorn them for it. They may have a difficult time finding a compatible partner, but there are women out there who are just fine with that. A dislike of vaginas does not suggest a dislike of women or that people who dislike vaginas are being misogynistic. Again, the idea may not be compatible with your own views and preferences, and that's totally fine. If you love pussy, that's wonderful. Not everyone is the same, however. And the reverse as well, of course.

I'm leaving this thread open for now, but if it continues to devolve into hostile language, I'm going to lock it.

[marcus]

And I don't like the anti vagina mentality.

All I'm seeing is a bunch of stuff nobody ever said:

• "Let's hate vagina's"
  "My body disgusts you"
  "Anti-vagina mentality"

The worst that was said was that they found vaginal sex boring and wondered if others felt the same.

Now, I don't happen to like the taste of marmite. Does that mean that I'm anti-marmite, that I hate it, hate the people who eat it and that it disgusts me? No. But I do often ask myself how they can bring themselves to eat the damn stuff.

I read and post here because we like anal sex, and if it was possible, we would probably be 99% anal only. But I love her pussy, it is an important part of our sex life even if we don't use it for intercourse!

Well that's fine and you're entitled to your point of view, just like everyone else here. I'm not going to attack you and say that you must be wrong for thinking or feeling that.

[KeepItReal]

More women than we realise have never enjoyed vaginal sex.

Very true - but I would guess this is more to do with the man not being a particularly good lover lol!

I did not expect anal sex to ever be a replacement for vaginal sex. I was resigned to a life-time of dying of boredom during sex while the guy was clearly in seventh heaven. All I wanted was to feel as motivated as he clearly was. With anal I found that. Going back to vaginal sex, I felt more enraged at the pointlessness of it. What am I? A martyr for someone else's pleasure?

Dang! It's good to see the opposite end of the spectrum!

Like I said above, do you feel this is due to past partners not fulfilling your needs - or purely due to you being a genuine 100% natural born Anal Only goddess?! (By the way, I'm in London too - we gotta meet up sometime lol! )

Sex for me is far from boring but that is because I have cut out what was boring for me, vaginal play.

Double Dang! You don't even like oral sex or clitoral masturbation or anything?
Does this mean you actually beg for Anal and even get angry when your ass is not being fucked?
THAT IS HOT AS HELL! Hallelujah, Praise The Lord!

I'm gonna pray that you're the next stage in human evolution Miss AOLE!

[KeepItReal]

No its bullshit posturing. Look at the title of the thread. "how do they do it? How do people tolerate pussy." I get that guys may prefer anal sex, I get that they find it feels better or more aesthetically pleasing. Hell, I even get that you only want anal sex, but the idea that vagina's are gross or boring or disgusting, or a chore is ridiculous. Sorry my body disgusts you. Are you bored of blowjobs too? Are guys grossed out by the teeth and having to put it in there? I thought this was a pro anal forum not an anti-pussy one.

Danishcouple perfectly pointed out the problem with this thread. This is not about what you like, this is about discussing how boring vagina's are and how wrong people who like pussy are. You could have titled it something differently, you could have worded your post differently. But you did not. You chose those words for a reason and it was because you want everyone to get on board this anti-pussy mentality. Now, asking it is not a crime at all, and you have the right to do so, but don't be surprised when people respond to you aggressively or even angrily. And in calling you out I am not committing a crime either am i? I'll remind you just in case you forgot.

Firstly, we'd all agree that sex is fun and this forum is purely about sex so it should also be purely fun!
Lets not take things too seriously so the place stays light-hearted and jovial!

Secondly, unfortunately I gotta agree with every word you said - and I think many male members and probably most female members would also agree with you too!

Your sentiments are my main worry about the direction this site seems to be taking - not this thread per se, but the overall perspective of the place and perhaps the general image of what it means to be Anal Only and how it is approached.

As you are a glorious Anal-Lovin woman, I hope you don't take things to heart because female opinions on Anal are much rarer, and far more interesting than anything us Ass-hungry males could ever say!

[KeepItReal]

I don't understand why it is supposed to be humorous to suggest people have said thing's they never did.

It's a shame you don't understand but it's okay bro - let me come to the rescue and fully explain!

Things don't have to be said explicitly to give a certain "perception" - it can be given indirectly or form an impression or be seen by reading between the lines etc...

For example, let me give you an analogy:

A dude may not categorically say he hates homosexuals... however if he says that he tries to avoid gay people at all costs etc... then the "perception" is invariably that he is indeed homophobic...

As you're a Moderator here, perhaps you could answer a couple of quick questions to clarify where we are headed:

1) Would it be better if this place had more female members or would it be better if it had less?
2) Would it attract more female members if it was perceived to be Pro-Anal or would it attract more if it was perceived to be Anti-Vagina?
3) Judging by some of the reactions on this thread, do you think the perception is purely Pro-Ass, or potentially showing elements of Anti-Pussy?

[KeepItReal]

There is no anti-vagina "mentality" here in a general sense

You're right, not "generally" but if we ain't careful, it could end up that way!
I'm sure you'll keep us on track though, and threads like this are fascinating to explore so thanks for keeping it open.

A dislike of vaginas does not suggest a dislike of women

Gotta disagree with this bro - if a woman said she disliked my dick... I'd be pretty irate!
(Even if she said she liked me, which I wouldn't believe now lol!)

[FarmerDan]

I think everyone should take a chili pill. There as many flavours of sex and sexuality as there are people on this planet, and criticising other people's needs or choices - perceived or real - doesn't do anybody any good, let alone the hard working site admin!

[DanishCouple]

I have not written anything in this tread that was meant to offend anyone. I just pointed out that Marcus, in concluding that everybody gets bored from vaginal sex, is wrong, and I also said that I don't like the anti vagina mentality that Marcus often express in his posts. I think it is OK for me to have an opinion on that, and also to express it without anyone getting offended. I never said that he can't think that way or express his thoughts.

[marcus]

I don't understand why it is supposed to be humorous to suggest people have said thing's they never did.

It's a shame you don't understand but it's okay bro - let me come to the rescue and fully explain!

Things don't have to be said explicitly to give a certain "perception" - it can be given indirectly or form an impression or be seen by reading between the lines etc...

For example, let me give you an analogy:

A dude may not categorically say he hates homosexuals... however if he says that he tries to avoid gay people at all costs etc... then the "perception" is invariably that he is indeed homophobic...

If what you say is true, it still fails to explain why it was being humorous. I'm just not laughing.

But your basic premise is flawed - I've already given you an example (marmite) but here's another one: I try to avoid soap-opera's, so by following your logic I must therefore hate them, which is of course absurd. I am uninterested, indifferent to, and bored by them.

I do not understand how it is possible to debate with you when you base your arguments on things which people have not said but instead your own subjective assumptions and an unshakable conviction that everyone must conform to a specific and rigid way of thinking that fits with your own personal world view and experience.

Can we please turn this around, back to what people have said, rather than what we would have preferred, or imagined that they said.