Update - change

[Canassman]

Well this morning my wife told me that we r having the best sex & orgasms of our life together (married 27 years, AO for 1 1/2 years) - however she does miss riding me cowgirl style with my cock in her pussy. She'd like to do that occasionally but still finish in her ass. While I'm a little sad to lose this amazing AO streak we r on - she's the love of my life & has been so amazing about this that I feel this is a small compromise to make,

[mardobolo]

Well this morning my wife told me that we r having the best sex & orgasms of our life together (married 27 years, AO for 1 1/2 years) - however she does miss riding me cowgirl style with my cock in her pussy. She'd like to do that occasionally but still finish in her ass. While I'm a little sad to lose this amazing AO streak we r on - she's the love of my life & has been so amazing about this that I feel this is a small compromise to make,

This is what my wife and I do: We do vaginal most of the time but always finish in her ass. It's nice to have the variety and contrast I think. A favorite food ceases to be so incredible if you eat nothing else; I think the same can apply to sex. Fucking her pussy for a while will make you truly appreciate the unparalleled sensation of anal. Congratulations Canassman, your wife sounds like one in a million.

[LuvMyWifesAss]

...she does miss riding me cowgirl style with my cock in her pussy.

Canassman,

This was my wife's favorite anal position for the longest time. I'm assuming your wife's tried it anally? Has she said what she perceives the difference to be? Have you tried it with clit stimulation or a toy (dildo or other) in her vagina at the same time?

As well, after 18 months of anal only, she very well may be disappointed when she does. Don't be surprised when she regrets it as much as you do.

[Canassman]

his was my wife's favorite anal position for the longest time. I'm assuming your wife's tried it anally? Has she said what she perceives the difference to be? Have you tried it with clit stimulation or a toy (dildo or other) in her vagina at the same time?

As well, after 18 months of anal only, she very well may be disappointed when she does. Don't be surprised when she regrets it as much as you do

My erection is very stiff and doesn't have a lot of flexibility and I also have a lean to the left. these issues, perhaps combined with her own internal make up make anal cowgirl painful at worst and uncomfortable at best. She has done it a few times to please me, but as its not enjoyable to her we rarely do it.

I am curious as to how it's going to feel after all this time. We won't have the opportunity to try till next week as it happens, so we shall see.

[LuvMyWifesAss]

My erection is very stiff and doesn't have a lot of flexibility and I also have a lean to the left. these issues, perhaps combined with her own internal make up make anal cowgirl painful at worst and uncomfortable at best. She has done it a few times to please me, but as its not enjoyable to her we rarely do it.

Well then, the only suggestion I have to try and make this more comfortable, if you guys want to try it again, is to have her squat rather than sit, as the illustration below shows:



As cowgirl generally allows deep penetration, it's important things are properly aligned. This position (with her legs up like this) will allow her rectal valves to relax and align with her rectum, allowing you to pass into her colon more comfortably.

For several years, my wife pretty much always finished in this position.

I am curious as to how it's going to feel after all this time. We won't have the opportunity to try till next week as it happens, so we shall see.

Of course, as you said, you need to try and accommodate her. But I'll bet it won't live up to her expectation and she will realize how much more satisfying anal sex is. Please keep us updated. I'm eager to hear what she thinks after a go or two.

[Canassman]

Of course, as you said, you need to try and accommodate her. But I'll bet it won't live up to her expectation and she will realize how much more satisfying anal sex is. Please keep us updated. I'm eager to hear what she thinks after a go or two.

Have not tried yet. She was out of town 4 a bit, and is on her period - we've had sex every night since she's returned and due to her period it's been anal - but spectacular anal! Hopefully this helps her remember how good it is living AO after we try this vaginal session

[LuvMyWifesAss]

Have not tried yet. She was out of town 4 a bit, and is on her period - we've had sex every night since she's returned and due to her period it's been anal - but spectacular anal! Hopefully this helps her remember how good it is living AO after we try this vaginal session

Ah yes, another joy of anal; you can still have sex with Aunt Flo staying in the next room. For that matter, Aunt Flo has been the reason many a couple have tried anal.

Ideally, she will decide she just enjoys anal too much to go through with it. If she decides to do it, I really think she'll be disappointed and, either finish anally, or not desire to do it again.

Of course, you can use subtle positive/negative reinforcement. As I'm certain you already do the positive reinforcement with anal, I won't go into that. However, during vaginal sex, you can utilize subtle negative reinforcement to help direct her away from vaginal sex. During vaginal sex, give her less feedback, whether that be eye to eye contact, fondling, etc. The key is not to make it appear you are doing this on purpose, If done really well, she won't even realize the difference, she'll just know she doesn't fell the same stimulation as she does during anal sex.

Good luck!

[Canassman]

well tonight we tried out vaginal sex for the first time in a year and a half. A variety of foreplay and mutual oral sex to prepare and then she rode me cowgirl style. I had determined to make it as pleasurable for her as possible. It would have felt manipulative to act different to her or lessen my passion. She rode me for quite awhile - till she cramped up and got uncomfortable and just was not able to cum. Eventually she asked if we could do it our regular way - anally. I offered to lay her down and do the work, but she wanted to try the suggestion we had for anal cowgirl. She rode me again until I came - and she certainly appeared to like it more than usual in this position. But due to her exhaustion she was not able to cum that way. After my turn she lay down and played with her clit while I fingered her ass and pussy until she came hard.

[LuvMyWifesAss]

well tonight we tried out vaginal sex for the first time in a year and a half. A variety of foreplay and mutual oral sex to prepare and then she rode me cowgirl style. I had determined to make it as pleasurable for her as possible. It would have felt manipulative to act different to her or lessen my passion. She rode me for quite awhile - till she cramped up and got uncomfortable and just was not able to cum. Eventually she asked if we could do it our regular way - anally. I offered to lay her down and do the work, but she wanted to try the suggestion we had for anal cowgirl. She rode me again until I came - and she certainly appeared to like it more than usual in this position. But due to her exhaustion she was not able to cum that way. After my turn she lay down and played with her clit while I fingered her ass and pussy until she came hard.

Canassman,

Although I know you are disappointed to have broken your streak of anal only, this seems really positive. If she can't orgasm vaginally in what used to be her preferred position, she almost certainly will want to return to anal only. Afterward, did she give any indication of what she thought?

She may have been feeling a little disappointed and confused as to why she wasn't able to orgasm vaginally, which may also help account for her inability to enjoy cowgirl anal as much. This position provides some of the deepest penetration possible and puts her in control. Sometimes it takes a few tries for a woman to learn what works best. Hopefully she'll give cowgirl anal this way a few more tries. If there is a position a woman preferred vaginally, I've generally found (in speaking to others) they seem to prefer that position anally as well. Of course, everyone is different.

[Canassman]

Well I'm happy to report that we fully resumed our anal only lifestyle & things have been great for both of us. We have had some great pillow talk after sex - reaffirming that we are having the greatest sex of our lives (the other night she had the longest orgasm she's ever had - the waves of pleasure went on & on - she's never been capable of achieving multiple orgasm - but that may have changed).

It's not uncommon for us to watch some porn together as part of our foreplay warmup. She told me that she only gets aroused by anal porn now too! She fast forwards through any Pussy sex until she gets to the assfucking. It's usually all it takes now till she's begging me to put my cock in her hungry little ass.

We are more affectionate, forgiving & accomodating to each other in all aspects of our daily life. It's hard to believe but she tells me she's more in love now with me than in our almost 30 years together - and I feel the same way.