I like hard, pounding, intense sex. Being fucked into a soppy mess. But not being hit, slapped, or called names, that isn't cool. Men and women-- we exist for one another, even those of us who enjoy playing with someone of the same gender. Even as I am submissive to my man I am an equal in our relationship. He cannot be in charge if I am not there to follow. Biology made me submissive in sexual play but not in discussing family finances or our children's college prospects.
I submit in love and affection. He pounds me in love and affection. My head floats on a cloud as I type this 42 minutes afterward...
Go on the journey with your partner and find out. It will benefit you both.
I used to be a bit scared of going too rough or becoming too dominant until i met a woman who really loved it and is asking for it. This way I learned how to take charge of the situation and "make" her take it. I wouldn't try the same thing with another woman though, because it's a flow I have developed together with her over months and even years by now. My other lover enjoys hard anal sex too, but she is the opposite of a submissive. For her it is "I am fucking you with my ass" not the other way 'round. For her being an anal slut is something like running in a marathon. Just as intense, but with a completely different dynamic.
That's true for sure. I've been the one to instigate and push boundaries. I've found that especially younger girls I fuck are still learning their limits, so if I go rough on their ass, they find out they actually enjoy it! Of course, I'm not going 0 to 100. It's more like 40 to 60 to 80. Definitely a lot of stretching over time before I can ram my cock with some intense speed and force. You have to feel the girl out of course, but I'll get rougher and evaluate her response and pull back if I need to. Nothing beats jackhammering some nice ass and making her grow to love it.
It’s always crazy good after an ass is tongued, fingered, toyed, and nice and relaxed & dilated/open. At that point lube is optional, right?