Starting Starting AO with girlfriend - anal affirmations - scat - just normal people

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prettystrong
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Starting Starting AO with girlfriend - anal affirmations - scat - just normal people

Post by prettystrong » Fri Aug 23, 2019 6:56 am

Hello, dear butt maniacs!

I was in the mood to tell my story and let me tell you something about my sex life.
My relationship with my girl turned from 70% anal to now complete AO after I came across this blog!
It gave her the idea that the anus is really made for fucking, orgasms and insights about why women prefer it.
Thanks satan for this blog!!
Now i can deny her pussy like I want to. Such a kink. She is fine with it, after we spoke about the topic for a time.
She is not perverted in any sense or has fetishes. Pretty vanilla for a girl nowadays. Not an easy job for me.

I use affirmations for my everyday life and it really works for me to achieve any goal. So why not use it for my girlfriend to turn her into anal lover in a few months?
So I sat down and composed clever affirmations for her, which make her prefer anal over vaginal sex, to make her wet from thinking about it, to cum from anal and to deny her own pussy. All-in-one. Aaaaaaand to enjoy some scat. Took me a week.
Now, we tend to get a bit dirty while fucking. Extra bonus, if you ask me. I'm an animal and I can do nothing about it, so why not make a kink out if it. She reads the affirmations before fucking or while fucking, sometimes even before we go to bed.
Taking it ATM while decent dirty was a problem for her. Otherwise she has no problems with getting dirty. Only tasting it was something she couldnt enjoy. Since yesterday!
Her affirmations do great effect and she asked me this night if she could lick me clean after some midnight sex.
I cant tell where this AO lifestyle is going but since.. our bonding changed for the better and we have way more sex and are hungry for each other. It opens her up in any sense.

My concern: Her role as a sub is new to her and she is still not comfortable with it, but deeply wants it somehow. But cant turn her head off and just flow with it, which creates tensions.

Any advice? Any experience with affirmations?

THANKS! :twisted:

hasani2222
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Post by hasani2222 » Sun Sep 08, 2019 4:27 pm

Taking it ATM while decent dirty was a problem for her. Otherwise she has no problems with getting dirty. Only tasting it was something she couldnt enjoy. Since yesterday!
Her affirmations do great effect and she asked me this night if she could lick me clean after some midnight sex.
I cant tell where this AO lifestyle is going but since.. our bonding changed for the better and we have way more sex and are hungry for each other. It opens her up in any sense.

My concern: Her role as a sub is new to her and she is still not comfortable with it, but deeply wants it somehow. But cant turn her head off and just flow with it, which creates tensions.

I’m not into scat at all, man! But kudos to you on getting ass-to-mouth your way. Tell her to keep her ass clean if she doesn’t want to taste dirty slimey ass juice. But then again, you’re into that.

Anal literally and figuratively opens women up to a new world of sexual desire and new experiences. Some embrace it, some don’t. Glad it’s brought you two closer and the more sex, the better.

If she has tensions in her new role, remember to go slowly. You might be speeding things up too quickly (?). Also, aftercare whether it’s cuddling or talking about the sex and acts you/she performed should make her feel more comfortable over time. A good dom constantly assesses the sub’s skill and comfortable. If there’s a will, there’s a way. In time she’ll be writing about how much she loves being an anal sub on this forum. Keep your communication open with her.

Talking about affirmations, that’s a great idea to get her into the proper sub headspace. When fucking, tell her to say out loud “I love it when you fuck my ass.” Or tell her how you own her ass and will fuck it whenever you want to. Have her say “Fuck my dirty asshole whenever you want to.” Basically tell her how much you love a certain act and tell her to repeat how much she likes it. I’ve seen Rocco do it in many of his porn videos. He’ll tell a girl how much he “loves this” when she sucks his cock ass-to-mouth, and then says repeatedly “you love this don’t you, tell me you love it.” Hope this helps. What affirmations have you been using so far?

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Post by prettystrong » Mon Sep 09, 2019 7:27 am

Since my last post a lot of things changed!

I told her my intentions for our relationship and her/my role really clear. She agreed to all aspects in our new d/s lifestyle and she does seriously work on our new lifestyle :shock:

Our everyday is soaked with AO lifestyle topics. She has to read her own mantra out loud every evening before we go to sleep. I post it and translate it at the end. Im a verbal person so I'm also using verbal affirmations. She has to explain to me everything sexual we do and why we do it. Works.

After one week she told me that its okay for her to fuck her pussy only on special occasions. Like her birthday, new years or when I breed her.
Otherwise she instantly understood why AO is a gift for women. Her sex drive rose. She feels more mature. She feels more funny and alive. She has more intense anal orgasms than with pussy fucking and she can orgams more easily since we started. Her mantra does a ton of work!

We practice absolute pussy denial which she gets really into it. All arguments for why ass is the superior sex organ does make sense for her and since that she feels really different about analsex. We call her asshole her new pussy so she learns to see it as her normal fuckhole.
Im really satisfied how things are developing. Also: Im started to train her best friend to become our submissive slave which will live with us but thats another story.

I put a lot of afford in this mantra to make it wholesome and perfect for her. Im curios for suggestions, though. Im not a native english speaker.
Our names are included in this mantra but i wil leave them out.

I feel like reborn
you are transforming me into a real woman
Real women get fucked in their asses and orgasm only from anal
You are my dominant sir and gift me with powerful orgasms
My pussy is tightly under your closure
You control my wet pussy
You control all of my orgasms
Allow me to explain why my asshole is my new pussy
My asshole is tighter than my cunt - your dick needs it
My asshole is more erotic than my cunt - I feel more feminine
My asshole is more exitable than my cunt - I can orgasm easily
My asshole allows me far more powerful orgasm - I feel absolut bliss
My asshole is my new pussy
My goal is to get more exited by anal penetration than I've ever felt with pussy fucking (imagine vividly)
I feel, sense and perceive anal sex with my whole buddy more intense than every before (imagine vividly)
My asshole is my ultimate center of lust
My asshole offers >everything< we need for perfect sex
I want to be exclusivly be penetrated in my asshole by you (imagine vividly)
I only have the right to orgasms from anal sex
As a real woman I say:
My cunt is forbidden and tightly under your closure (imagine vividly)
Anal Only!!

I guess I used my whole brain on this one.

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Post by MoMa » Wed Aug 19, 2020 10:59 pm

Very nice!

I hope you have so much fun together. My girlfriend seems to like anal more and more and nowadays it's almost always in our sex routine. I usually come in her ass, which feels very natural to me.

Thank you for the inspirations. I might do something similar to go towards AO.

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Post by Biscuit11 » Fri Aug 21, 2020 5:32 am

OMFG that affirmation is one of the hottest things I have read. If you have more, I would love to read them. And if you write erotica, please post a link!

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Post by Lisalovesanal » Fri Aug 21, 2020 5:36 am

It is a really hot affirmation. I love it.
You had me at anal ;)

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Post by CuriousKitten » Mon Aug 24, 2020 10:02 am

It's going to be the unpopular opinion here, but I really don't like the mantra at all. From the standpoint of an experienced submissive, I just don't understand why you wrote the mantra for her rather than tasking her with writing her own mantra about her thoughts on the topic to make it more personal for her. I personally believe that if she had to think about it herself and come up with her own thoughts and feelings and conclusions on it and as to why it would be the best for the both of you, it would feel like more of an accomplishment, especially if her writing made you proud, and it would be easier for her to commit to memory. Again just my unpopular opinion.

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Post by crowquill22 » Tue Sep 01, 2020 6:34 pm

@CuriousKitten Eh, I guess I'm in the unpopular club, then. If I had AO as a goal during my last D/s relationship, I definitely would have had her do the writing herself. She did writing as tasks on other topics fairly often, and I feel like it always helped her internalize things and become more easily motivated. And I was always very proud when she did especially well with her writing.

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Post by CuriousKitten » Fri Sep 11, 2020 3:09 pm

crowquill22 wrote:
Tue Sep 01, 2020 6:34 pm
@CuriousKitten Eh, I guess I'm in the unpopular club, then. If I had AO as a goal during my last D/s relationship, I definitely would have had her do the writing herself. She did writing as tasks on other topics fairly often, and I feel like it always helped her internalize things and become more easily motivated. And I was always very proud when she did especially well with her writing.

I'm glad someone understands my perspective 😊

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Post by Trog » Mon Sep 21, 2020 7:11 pm

Same... I think I am on the unpopular side :-). Even if I think that the mantra sounds really hot...

I would not call me experienced in D/s... what experienced means ? 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, a full life... different people, different relation to D/s / M/s .....
But I am convinced by the following: if you have some goals you want your sub to reach. There is 2 very different ways:

1) Impose them.
2) Make your sub/slave truly wanting to reach them.

I think the first is easy and the second is horribly difficult... Because you have to put the seeds of what you want and let them grow, sometimes it will go in the direction you want and sometimes not really, showing/correcting the path is the hard work of a Dom/Master.

Letting your sub/slave decide her mantra, decide her training, decide her priority can look like a bit as topping from the bottom (at least i have heard it very often). But what I have seen is that this way make you sub/slave "progress" faster, and often faster than expected. And you will be surprised that in fact the sub will probably think about more strict training/mantras/priorities/rules than you as a dom/master you would have think to be fine to impose... To gives you a example: currently my little toy is in quite strict anal dilatation training. Me I was thinking of about 20-30 minutes every two days (in addition to our sexlife for sure :-), which is 99.99% AO ). Instead to impose this, I suggested that training would be a good idea, it took around 3-4 weeks for her to ingest the idea and to decide that 45 minute per day, 6 day per week was a good schedule for her. Also instead of doing is as something imposed, she is doing it because she want to do it, so it make it way easier... It is not her Master who wants her to do it for his pleasure, it is her who wants to do it to be a better toy for her Master.... and this is a massive difference in term of behaviorism as it move from positive punishment (which is known to be inefficient) to positive reinforcement (which is known to be very efficient)...

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