HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

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Fernand
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HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Fernand » Thu Jan 19, 2023 11:30 am

Hi everyone

I come to tell you about the great progress that I have had with my partner in anal sex (long post warning).

I previously told you about myself in the following post:
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To describe it briefly: my partner and I have been in a relationship for 10 years. Almost from the beginning, she started taking birth control. Over time, her libido was lowering and she began to take an apathetic attitude about sex, seemed not to be very interested in it and felt like she was doing it to keep me satisfied. This was a situation that brought our relationship to the edge on some occasions. During that period of time anal was something that was only a possibility on my birthday or Valentine's day and honestly I was content if we at least had sex.

As I told you in my previous post, she had to stop contraceptives in November due to the side effects they were causing. This marked a turning point in our sexual life, since almost immediately we noticed a drastic increase in her libido. Her desire for sex skyrocketed, we went from having sex 4 times a month to 4 times a week. She began to take initiative, she had a hornier attitude and even had thoughts about sex during the day. And then we discovered that the contraceptives were the cause of the problem.

Due to her increased desire and interest, this seemed like the perfect time to try to introduce anal into our sex life. On the previous occasions that we had tried it, I was impatient and did not take enough time during the preparations so she ended up a little sore the next day. When I proposed anal to her, I told her this and promised her that this time I would do it very carefully and we would start little by little: first with caresses, then introducing my fingers and finally we would try penetration. Although she was not totally convinced, she decided to give it a try.

On subsequent occasions we began with vaginal sex. Once she had at least one orgasm and she was really horny, I would suggest to try anal. I prepared myself by buying a silicone lube. As I was giving her oral sex, I would start slowly inserting a finger into her ass, waiting for her to feel comfortable and only going deeper when she said so. Then I did the same with two fingers. If at this moment she felt comfortable and without pain, I began to try penetration. Despite the fact that I have read publications where they say that it is possible to reach orgasm only with anal, I did not want to be impatient and took the safe bet: I always stimulated her clitoris. This brought her to mind blowing orgasms EVERY TIME. She felt an explosion of pleasure that seemed to have no end, where I noticed her blank eyes, shortness of breath and trembling legs.

By doing it this way we achieved two main goals: that she would enjoy it and that she would not have pain the next day. I also made sure to follow the advice of some users, giving her positive reinforcement every time we did it. I would tell her how special the moment had felt, how much of a connection we felt, and how it represented a very pleasurable practice for both of us. Once this barrier was overcome, we had two incredible weeks with an anal always experience. In this time we discovered that her anal orgasm was so intense that it left her totally exhausted with no energy to continue, so we left it as our grand finale.
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Re: HUGE Adcance in Anal Sex

Post by Fernand » Thu Jan 19, 2023 11:30 am

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However, the holidays arrived and we traveled to see our relatives. Because we were at someone else's house, we didn't feel comfortable having sex, so we lasted two weeks without it. Upon returning to our house, she had her period and due to the discomfort she had, we lasted another week without sex.

When we had sex again, we only did anal three times and then she didn't want to do it anymore. Among the reasons she told me were that she missed having sex only through the vagina, that she didn't feel comfortable doing it all the time, that she wanted to let her butt rest because it felt weird, and that we should reserve anal only for certain occasions. Even if I don't show it to her, I feel a little angry and disappointed. I felt that it was a big setback for what we had achieved up to that point. However, I agreed to their requests. The first few times after this I unconsciously did it with less passion knowing that we would not have our grand finale. However, she noticed this and told me that she did not feel comfortable with this situation, so I tried to get the idea of anal out of my mind and enjoy the moment. In the end, the truth is that in the course of a month we had more sex than in a whole year when she was taking the contraceptives. So I didn't want to push her.

However, yesterday the magic happened with two big surprises! At night while we were watching a movie, she suddenly mounted me and started foreplay. Once we were really horny, she told me "I want to do it..." she took a little pause and then continued "I want to do it in the ass". This was the first big surprise! We did it with a lot of passion and finally she had her amazing orgasm again.

When we finished, we hugged and talked for a while. She told me that the last few days she had been thinking about how much she enjoyed anal sex, that it felt just as good as vaginal sex, and that she hadn't been feeling any discomfort when it finished. Even, that during the day she had thoughts where she wanted anal. On the other hand, she told me that she had been working on changing her mind about the idea that anal is a weird practice or that it could harm her. Finally, she told me that she was comfortable doing anal two or maximum three times. Although I am left with the idea of the two incredible weeks that we had previously had, I gladly accepted her proposal. So I said to her "Three times a month is fine for me" And here came the second big surprise of the night. She replied "What are you talking about? I mean three times A WEEK"

When I heard these words I felt in heaven, you can't imagine how surprised and happy I felt at that moment. It seems that what they say is true, anal sex unites couples in a way that cannot be described.
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Ozzy
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Re: HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Ozzy » Thu Jan 19, 2023 1:30 pm

Wow! Great story. Thanks for sharing.

When people talk about contraception, and even with the awareness of how bad artificial contraception can be, with all its ill consequences for women's health and problems for couples, it's very rare that the subject of anal as a means of contraception is ever mentioned.

I think it's like the white elephant in the room that everyone pretend is not there, since I just can't figure how people can't remember that there's a hole that can be used for sex with very little risk of pregnancy.

And then comes all the taboo on the topic, it's not seen as natural, lots of women think that if you go throught her asshole you're degrading her to the status of a junkie or a creep or someone not worth to be seen as a human being.

And from lots of guys, an atitude of "I will only put my cock in pussies so I'm a real man".

These people do some sort of "moral shaming" on others, so everybody end up with this idea that anal sex is gross, unnatural and only meant for weirdos such as homossexuals and porn actressess and people like that, "God forbid we be like them".

This thought is so wrong on so many levels. I get some people not enjoying anal sex at all, what I don't get is trying to make others feel embarrassed for enjoying it, and act as if it was something that didn't exist.

Anyway, I digress. Your wife, well, show her that anal is not something that will lower her status as a woman or a human being, it's the opposite, she's a more enlightened person for not going by these stupid rules society tries to impose on us.

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Re: HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Colt1911 » Thu Jan 19, 2023 9:16 pm

@Ozzy we’re convinced birth control impacted my wife’s libido and desire for anal. I’ve read it reduces the testosterone women produce that contributes to libido. My wife went into menopause later in life and went on custom hormone therapy to address sleep issues primarily. We always engaged in anal play but she swore she’d never take me after decades of failed attempts. Less than six months after she started hormone therapy, we had anal sex.

My libido was negatively impacted by statins I was taking for slightly elevated cholesterol levels. It was remarkable how it affected me. I quit taking it and my libido returned about a month later. Search the internet for sexual side effects associated with medicines you take.

@Fernand I’m happy to things worked out as well as they did. Other recent contributors will be encouraged by your success. Anal sex changed our sex life forever in a positive way. She wants nothing else now because of her orgasms. More people should know about the side effects of birth control.

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Re: HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Ozzy » Fri Jan 20, 2023 3:21 pm

@Colt1911 , that's a very serious topic. A person I know used to use IUD for birth control, she ended having cancer and died. I'm sure she went to heaven because she was a wonderful person, but it was a lot of suffering, and it's kind of a reminder that artificial contraception has its very serious problems.

For those who say anal sex is also bad for women's and men's health, well, there's no point in living if you're not allowed to live, everything you do will have the upsides and the downsides.... It's just that I think in most cases doing anal as a form of birth control (it doesn't need to be anal only, since we all know women are not fertile throught the whole cycle) is a better option.

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Re: HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Colt1911 » Sat Jan 21, 2023 11:57 am

Ozzy wrote:
Fri Jan 20, 2023 3:21 pm
@Colt1911 , that's a very serious topic. A person I know used to use IUD for birth control, she ended having cancer and died. I'm sure she went to heaven because she was a wonderful person, but it was a lot of suffering, and it's kind of a reminder that artificial contraception has its very serious problems.

Our daughter just had her IUD removed because she experienced sharp abdominal pain. Fortunately there was no scarring or long term effects. Sorry about the death of your friend.

All medicines have side effects many take for granted. Reduced libido in a younger person could be the result of birth control or other medicines.

Anal sex is absolutely a way people can enjoy sex without fear of pregnancy. Those of us on this forum prefer it to vaginal penetration, which makes anal the preferred choice.

Unfortunately, one of the oldest forms of birth control is safe but undesirable. Condoms can prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases but they dull much of the sensation. I’m curious if the women on the forum can tell the difference during anal penetration when a condom is used.

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Re: HUGE Advance in Anal Sex

Post by Fernand » Mon Jan 23, 2023 4:54 pm

Thanks for your responses.
All medicines have side effects many take for granted. Reduced libido in a younger person could be the result of birth control or other medicines.

Like any medication, contraceptives have side effects that can affect some women more than others. In the case of my partner, after noticing her increased libido, I investigated about this specific side effect in public and medical forums. In medical forums I read that contraceptives could cause drastic mood swings and low libido but since it is a "subjective" effect, they don't take it into account.

On public women's forums, the number of women asking if anyone else had their libido lowered by birth control was staggering, and the vast majority said they also felt it with ANY hormonal birth control. However, they mention that it is an effect that does not occur immediately, but that it occurs slowly over time and for this reason it is not so noticeable. They even joked that the real contraceptive effect was not to stop ovulation, but to kill any desire for sex. This is why my partner and I are convinced that this side effect was to blame for his low desire.

@Fernand I’m happy to things worked out as well as they did. Other recent contributors will be encouraged by your success. Anal sex changed our sex life forever in a positive way. She wants nothing else now because of her orgasms.

Thank you very much for your good wishes. At the moment I am happy for the great progress I have had so far with my partner. I don't know if we'll ever get to the AO, but for now I'll enjoy the moment and it would be great if eventually she would always agree to me ending up in her ass after vaginal sex. As I mentioned earlier, I first make her orgasm through her vagina before moving on to her ass. Yesterday, we talked for a while after having sex and she told me that she compared the two orgasms and she definitely prefers the anal orgasm. Maybe this will make her want more anal over time? :D

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