Boredom / How do they do it?

Tell about your own experiences with the anal only lifestyle.
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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by marcus » Sun Sep 07, 2014 12:16 pm

DanishCouple wrote: I just pointed out that Marcus, in concluding that everybody gets bored from vaginal sex, is wrong

Where did I say "everyone"? I said "they" but did not quantify it. I have no idea of the numbers, but a casual perusal of any media related to sex indicates a huge demand for things to spice up peoples sex lives. If all was hunky-dory in vaginal sex land, then there would be this obvious demand for any of these added extra's, would there?
DanishCouple wrote: I also said that I don't like the anti vagina mentality that Marcus often express in his posts.

And again this.

I make no secret of the fact that I feel no great sexual attraction to vagina's, nor the thought of vaginal sex. That is a fact which I happily admit to.

I don't have any particular "anti vagina mentality" above and beyond above. I don't hate them, or their owners, and neither am I disgusted by them. Nor do I hate women. Since you quite clearly do not feel this way I don't know of any other way that I can explain this in a way that you'll understand.

Would you say that an asexual person, or a homosexual male, had an "anti vagina mentality" because, for reasons totally beyond his control he had no interest in them?

You know, I often read on these forums about BDSM, or dominant and submissive relationships. I'm completely perplexed by them. But though I struggle to understand them I do not jump to the conclusion that they are "anti equality" or hate women, or whatever.

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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by KeepItReal » Sun Sep 07, 2014 1:30 pm

marcus wrote:If what you say is true

Please explain why you think it wouldn't be true ;)
it still fails to explain why it was being humorous. I'm just not laughing.

That's because your sense of humour is not as well developed as your love for Anal! :D
But your basic premise is flawed - I've already given you an example (marmite) but here's another one: I try to avoid soap-opera's, so by following your logic I must therefore hate them, which is of course absurd. I am uninterested, indifferent to, and bored by them.

You actually reinforce my point dude!
I can't stand soap operas either - but if we were to say this to the makers of a soap opera... we both know they wouldn't be thrilled and would probably argue against us! ;)
I do not understand how it is possible to debate with you when you base your arguments on things which people have not said but instead your own subjective assumptions and an unshakable conviction that everyone must conform to a specific and rigid way of thinking that fits with your own personal world view and experience.

I haven't said nor even implied anything of the sort - you accuse me of putting words in peoples mouths... then go ahead and do the same yourself! Your audacity is highly invigorating bro!
Can we please turn this around, back to what people have said, rather than what we would have preferred, or imagined that they said.

Good idea! The fact you ignored my questions speaks volumes... let me try again to avoid any assumptions!

As you're a Moderator here, perhaps you could answer a couple of quick questions to clarify where we are headed:

1) Would it be better if this place had more female members or would it be better if it had less?
2) Would it attract more female members if it was perceived to be Pro-Anal or would it attract more if it was perceived to be Anti-Vagina?
3) Judging by some of the reactions on this thread, do you think the perception is purely Pro-Ass, or potentially showing elements of Anti-Pussy?
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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by mardobolo » Tue Sep 09, 2014 11:32 am

In fairness to the "vaginas are boring" group, this IS a site dedicated to the "anal-only lifestyle". The "only" could reasonably imply couples who have no interest or ability to have vaginal sex.

That said, we should recognize that many of the contributors here are not anal-only in their sexual practices. My wife and I for example have anal nearly every time we have sex, but we aren't anal-only. So I personally won't be preaching much hate for the vagina. I do prefer anal but the bottom line (ha ha) is, whatever gets my wife off is something I enjoy. Right now that's a combination of vaginal and anal, and that works for us! Hopefully over time we can evolve to a more exclusively anal arrangement.

I propose that different views can coexist here, and that what unites us isn't so much a dislike of vaginal sex, but a love of anal sex and a desire to put it at the center of our sex lives. Plenty of other sites talk about "how to do anal" but they focus on how to do it the first time, not how to make it the sexual foundation of a relationship. It's the advice and ideas on the latter that I think is unique about this forum.

"Pro-Anal Lifestyle" or "Anal-Centric Lifestyle" might be more inclusive names for who is participating here. But a name is only a name. Under any title I'll participate because I learn a lot from all of you and see you as kindred spirits.

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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by amorous945 » Tue Sep 09, 2014 3:50 pm

Very well said, mardobolo! I couldn't agree more! You and your wife's experience and present practice pretty much mirror ours. In fact, I'd never heard of an "anal only" lifestyle until I found this site. The reason I love this site so much is because it's one the only places I've found where you can actually find intelligent conversation about anal sex, without "porn speak" and other shallow perspectives.

I will most likely always prefer anal sex above all other sex acts, but once you're reached the place in your life with your partner where you can have it anytime you'd like, the AO factor becomes less important. Personally, I love everything that I man and woman can do together, and I can still thoroughly enjoy vaginal sex, or oral sex. Sometimes, it's more about making love than a particular orifice. That being said, I do respect the fact that this site is about the AO lifestyle, and so in light of that I will always try to contribute those things that contribute to that.

I think that there are a great group of folks here and, while I certainly can't always identify with some of them, I do respect them and their particular lifestyle choice, as long as that choice is mutual. :D

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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by taylork » Wed Sep 10, 2014 5:00 pm

I also think vaginal is boring and i don't care what people here or anywhere else think. Its like some just want us to lie about how we feel. How does that make sense? I know, could the site admin have got the name all mixed up when he set this up? :evil: :roll: Why don't all the haters go find somewhere else to talk about their love of pussy?

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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by DanishCouple » Wed Sep 10, 2014 11:25 pm

taylork wrote:I also think vaginal is boring and i don't care what people here or anywhere else think. Its like some just want us to lie about how we feel. How does that make sense? I know, could the site admin have got the name all mixed up when he set this up? :evil: :roll: Why don't all the haters go find somewhere else to talk about their love of pussy?

When people post on a message board like this, they express their own opinion. If you don't agree to their opinion, you are free to express YOUR opinion on the subject. This is discussing, and if you don't want to discuss, you should not post on message boards.,
What you wrote in the post I quoted here is rude, and it will offend other posters!

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Re: Boredom / How do they do it?

Post by marcus » Thu Sep 11, 2014 6:38 am

DanishCouple wrote:
taylork wrote:I also think vaginal is boring and i don't care what people here or anywhere else think. Its like some just want us to lie about how we feel. How does that make sense? I know, could the site admin have got the name all mixed up when he set this up? :evil: :roll: Why don't all the haters go find somewhere else to talk about their love of pussy?

When people post on a message board like this, they express their own opinion. If you don't agree to their opinion, you are free to express YOUR opinion on the subject. This is discussing, and if you don't want to discuss, you should not post on message boards.,
What you wrote in the post I quoted here is rude, and it will offend other posters!

Clearly the quality of discussion took a turn in the wrong direction when assumptions were made about the way certain people felt, and their attitudes, without any supporting evidence.

I've seen no sign that this subject can ever be discussed in a civilised manner while discussing the original point.

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