I'm keen to make it work, but maybe dip back into her pussy in a couple of months time and see if we have proven anal is better.
Starting 2015 Anal Only
Starting 2015 Anal Only
My wife and I agreed last night to begin the year AO two month's comittment. I told her how much I wanted it and the practicality - her vagina usually hurts with penetration, anal usually has no pain, every time we have anal we have massive and she has multiple orgasms, she could go off the pill and have better body function and fitness.
I'm keen to make it work, but maybe dip back into her pussy in a couple of months time and see if we have proven anal is better.
I'm keen to make it work, but maybe dip back into her pussy in a couple of months time and see if we have proven anal is better.
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Re: Starting 2015 AO
That's great Urabus! How long have you gone anal only in the past? Hopefully this will help her feel totally comfortable with frequent anal sex and she'll realize the greater pleasure it affords you both.
Of the couples I've talked to over the years, most who followed my recommendation of a month of anal sex only either continued to have only anal sex, or start with vaginal and end up finishing anally virtually every time. Of those who would start with vaginal and finish anally, most transitioned more and more toward anal, some even going anal only after a while.
I know the only regret my wife and I have about out anal only lifestyle is that we didn't go anal only earlier. Even though we had anal sex virtually every time we had sex after discovering our love of it a year into our marriage, it seems like the past 8 years have been the best sex, and the most intimate of our 25 year marriage.
I wish you the best of luck!
Of the couples I've talked to over the years, most who followed my recommendation of a month of anal sex only either continued to have only anal sex, or start with vaginal and end up finishing anally virtually every time. Of those who would start with vaginal and finish anally, most transitioned more and more toward anal, some even going anal only after a while.
I know the only regret my wife and I have about out anal only lifestyle is that we didn't go anal only earlier. Even though we had anal sex virtually every time we had sex after discovering our love of it a year into our marriage, it seems like the past 8 years have been the best sex, and the most intimate of our 25 year marriage.
I wish you the best of luck!
Re: Starting 2015 AO
Well done - keep us posted on how it goes - best of luck!
Re: Starting 2015 AO
Thanks guys.
We have gone AO for one month a few months ago.
Actually one thing that made her feel better about starting this year with two months AO was my talk of this forum. I told her about the topics, people and the lives you lead. It makes her feel more comfortable that people do it with pleasure for many years.
We have gone AO for one month a few months ago.
Actually one thing that made her feel better about starting this year with two months AO was my talk of this forum. I told her about the topics, people and the lives you lead. It makes her feel more comfortable that people do it with pleasure for many years.
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Well done. I knew from what i read that she would agree. If you can do a couple of months i know you won't want to go back. My girlfriend and me are now about the 2 year mark and anal has been better in every way. The practical reasons give you a good starting point for her but in the end its something you'll both grow to love more and more.
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Update.
AO has been diluted with some vaginal. The AO session we had was uneventful for her. I'm trying to convince her to give it another go, this time with clit play. Given we have sex once a week at the most and its a challenge anytime to get her interested, I'm starting to think we are losing our promise.
AO has been diluted with some vaginal. The AO session we had was uneventful for her. I'm trying to convince her to give it another go, this time with clit play. Given we have sex once a week at the most and its a challenge anytime to get her interested, I'm starting to think we are losing our promise.
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Re: Starting 2015 AO
Urabus,
My wife & I only have anal once a week also.
I can't say my wife's sex drive is overwhelming but it is still a low simmer after all these years together (24).
What is different about us is that we never have spontaneous sex anymore - this has been the norm for us for at least the past 15 years.
The reason I mention this is that it may help you & yours with her lack of desire.
I think my wife felt put upon if I could try to initiate sex at any time.
She wanted to know exactly when we would have sex so she could prepare for it.
At first I was resistant to this new paradigm but after awhile I began to see the advantages it afforded both of us.
Since we have been AO for appx, 20 years, knowing beforehand when we are going to have sex allows her to prepare for the event, and, as you know, preparation is one of the keys to a mutually satisfying anal experience.
We have our "date" on the same day and the same time every week.
We like to sit together beforehand, sharing some wine and talking.
Then we shower, she prepares herself while I put some soft music on.
Making it a special weekly event seems to really enhance the experience.
One other tip: my wife takes awhile to reach orgasm so I find that Viagra can be a big help in keeping myself "on task" so to speak.
Do I miss the days of wild, spontaneous sex I had with her and other women?
Certainly I do but one has to adjust to reality.
As you may have heard if mama ain't happy then nobody is happy.
And I still get to have a very satisfying AO sex life with the woman I love.
Spontaneity may be over rated, IMHO.
Best of luck to you
My wife & I only have anal once a week also.
I can't say my wife's sex drive is overwhelming but it is still a low simmer after all these years together (24).
What is different about us is that we never have spontaneous sex anymore - this has been the norm for us for at least the past 15 years.
The reason I mention this is that it may help you & yours with her lack of desire.
I think my wife felt put upon if I could try to initiate sex at any time.
She wanted to know exactly when we would have sex so she could prepare for it.
At first I was resistant to this new paradigm but after awhile I began to see the advantages it afforded both of us.
Since we have been AO for appx, 20 years, knowing beforehand when we are going to have sex allows her to prepare for the event, and, as you know, preparation is one of the keys to a mutually satisfying anal experience.
We have our "date" on the same day and the same time every week.
We like to sit together beforehand, sharing some wine and talking.
Then we shower, she prepares herself while I put some soft music on.
Making it a special weekly event seems to really enhance the experience.
One other tip: my wife takes awhile to reach orgasm so I find that Viagra can be a big help in keeping myself "on task" so to speak.
Do I miss the days of wild, spontaneous sex I had with her and other women?
Certainly I do but one has to adjust to reality.
As you may have heard if mama ain't happy then nobody is happy.
And I still get to have a very satisfying AO sex life with the woman I love.
Spontaneity may be over rated, IMHO.
Best of luck to you
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I'm sad for you that you've not been able to go the whole 2 months as you would have liked. However, these things never go according to plan, and if we set ourselves up for targets we are invariably disappointed. Think of this as having been the trial run of the 2 month commitment. The clit play is definitely the right way to go. My wife would never let me if she didn't get that additional stimulation during anal.
You've both been heading in the right direction for so long I'm sure this is just a minor wobble. Is there anything that she really likes that you can do, during, or separate from your anal lovemaking? Something to make her feel good, positive and appreciated? You'll also have to impress upon her how much going anal only means to you and the difference it makes to the quality of your sex life. Perhaps she isn't aware of the depth of your feelings?
You've both been heading in the right direction for so long I'm sure this is just a minor wobble. Is there anything that she really likes that you can do, during, or separate from your anal lovemaking? Something to make her feel good, positive and appreciated? You'll also have to impress upon her how much going anal only means to you and the difference it makes to the quality of your sex life. Perhaps she isn't aware of the depth of your feelings?
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@ luv2play45
Thanks for your words. My wife is certainly tgis way inclined. The spontaneous situations have dissapeared. I will think deeper about this.
@marcus we have discussed what she might like. I'm always open to anything to bring her greater pleasure.
One thing I think will help is not giving to vagainal sex. I need to be stronger. If there's no anal then I should refuse, even if it means no sex for me. I will just have to take care if myself if it comes to the crunch.
Thanks for your words. My wife is certainly tgis way inclined. The spontaneous situations have dissapeared. I will think deeper about this.
@marcus we have discussed what she might like. I'm always open to anything to bring her greater pleasure.
One thing I think will help is not giving to vagainal sex. I need to be stronger. If there's no anal then I should refuse, even if it means no sex for me. I will just have to take care if myself if it comes to the crunch.
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urabus wrote: One thing I think will help is not giving to vagainal sex. I need to be stronger. If there's no anal then I should refuse, even if it means no sex for me. I will just have to take care if myself if it comes to the crunch.
It's a fine line. On the one hand you don't want to appear to be punishing her, but on the other you can't be expected to continue doing something that doesn't meet your own needs. At least it may convince her how seriously you take this and this isn't just being done on a whim. Many women think this is just a fancy that will blow over, not quite seeing the bigger picture that this is desire can define a persons sexual identity; key to their well being and health.
I feel for you two, I really do. You're on the cusp of something amazing but just haven't found that common understanding.
