Request for Comment: Personals Section

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Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by analsexonly » Sun Dec 11, 2016 8:09 am

A recurring question has been why we don't or if we can have a personals section on the forum—a sub-forum just for the purpose of people posting about themselves and signaling that they're looking for a relationship or for friends and are open to being contacted by other people via private message or other offsite means.

In general, I've been fairly resistant to anything resembling a dating site, or turning this site into that, but this particular idea of just having a subsection of this site for that purpose and only those who want to participate doing so, keeping the actual dating-type communication beyond the profiles in private doesn't seem as bad to me.

So, I'm putting it to the forum membership—is this something you support, or would you rather not see it? A lot of the people here are married or in long term relationships, and so it may not interest you, but there are a lot of single people into anal only as well, who have a very hard time meeting others interested in it. Maybe this wouldn't work any better than anything else. But perhaps it's worth an experiment?

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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Haunter » Sun Dec 11, 2016 3:37 pm

I think this subsection is a wonderful idea. Also considering it an experiment is good. I'll be the first to sign in :) (I remember you all I am still virgin but don't believe in monogamy, at least at the moment. And this absolutely does not mean I will meet anyone just for the sex, it's almost the opposite I think!).
I mean: we are a wonderful community of intelligent people sharing an interest that's unluckily rare and not easy to talk about in public, so... As I said before, it's our own responsability trying to preserve our race! Let's do it! :D
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by FarmerDan » Sun Dec 11, 2016 6:13 pm

I don't see any reason not to do it but people who post there should be gently warned that they have a better chance of being struck by lightning.

Those who post here are literally sprinkled across half the globe (US, UK, Europe, Asia, Australia, NZ, South Africa) and at least half appear to be in stable monogamous relationships, so the odds of coming across someone in your area let alone someone who is prepared to meet someone else on the basis of a shared love of anal sex are long.

Not saying it can't happen, but you'd better not be holding your breath!
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by amorous945 » Wed Dec 14, 2016 10:34 am

I have no objection, but I think that FarmerDan sums it up quite well. Also, I don't claim to speak for women but, in my experience and observation, finding women who are looking to hookup with someone for anal sex would be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I think it's fair say that most of the people in this group who are in anal only relationships got that way over a period of many years of being in an otherwise healthy relationship. It also seems to me that many of the younger members have a porn-mentality, believing that what they see in porn is representative of everyday, practical sexual experience. Every time someone here says, "Where can I find anal women?", it indicates to me a very short -sided and narrow understanding of relationships. Good sex is an acquired skill. We don't "fall out" of bed being great lovers, much less finding"ready made" anal women who live for nothing else than to have someone fuck their asses . If an orifice is all that a person is looking for in a relationship, paying a prostitute for that privilege would probably be the quickest, easiest route. Anything good is worth all the waiting and nurturing that may be required to secure it.

I realize that I may sound a bit preachy here, and that I have exceeded a simple yes or no answer to the question asked here, but I just think that too many people are looking for the quick fix here and, unfortunately, anal only relationships don't usually happen that way.

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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Haunter » Wed Dec 14, 2016 6:04 pm

amorous945 wrote:I have no objection, but I think that FarmerDan sums it up quite well. Also, I don't claim to speak for women but, in my experience and observation, finding women who are looking to hookup with someone for anal sex would be like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I think it's fair say that most of the people in this group who are in anal only relationships got that way over a period of many years of being in an otherwise healthy relationship. It also seems to me that many of the younger members have a porn-mentality, believing that what they see in porn is representative of everyday, practical sexual experience. Every time someone here says, "Where can I find anal women?", it indicates to me a very short -sided and narrow understanding of relationships. Good sex is an acquired skill. We don't "fall out" of bed being great lovers, much less finding"ready made" anal women who live for nothing else than to have someone fuck their asses . If an orifice is all that a person is looking for in a relationship, paying a prostitute for that privilege would probably be the quickest, easiest route. Anything good is worth all the waiting and nurturing that may be required to secure it.

I realize that I may sound a bit preachy here, and that I have exceeded a simple yes or no answer to the question asked here, but I just think that too many people are looking for the quick fix here and, unfortunately, anal only relationships don't usually happen that way.

Hi amorous945, thank you for your input, but I would like to answer, since some of your meditations might apply also to me. I admit with no veils that my practical experience is almost 0 so far, but (at least I speak for myself) I am not at all seeking a woman for any of her orifices. It happens that I am very excited by anal, but please do not suspect me not be looking for true love. Looking for women sharing my taste is simply a logical move, how to confute this? I am not looking for bare sex: just the idea of someone fucking me (say, a prostitute) pretending to feel good while it is false instead, powerfully turns me off, so much. I would not have sex with prostitutes even if they wanted to pay me! Then about porn: I know, or at least presume, that real life is much different from such a thing, but this observation doesn't change that some porn videoclips turn me on, that's quite natural. So, summarizing, I think I have not a narrow-minded view. And maybe others are like me even if one might think the opposite at first glance. Maybe my experience is limited, ok, but as I said I am almost the opposite, almost romantic eventually. And this is not in contrast with the human and logical desire of meeting women sharing my preferences. I'm not attracted to everyone, but putting the tougher filter first is more intelligent in saving time, you will agree I think... And this forum is the living proof that, despite being rare (unfortunately), such "needles" do exist :-) .
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by FarmerDan » Wed Dec 14, 2016 9:56 pm

My best ever AO relationship (although it didn't start that way) was with a girl who had never even considered anal sex when we first met.

Although she was about 34 years old and sexually active she had never had an orgasm. But she had one almost instantly when we tried anal sex! Sadly I had to relocate a few months later.

Very few girls obsess about anal the way you do, Haunter. But on the other hand most girls (in my experience and in the experience of others around here) will consider anal once you have won their respect and trust. Then it's up to you to introduce them to anal in a way that will make them just as keen as you :-)
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Sgt_Valk » Thu Dec 22, 2016 3:45 pm

I wouldn't mind a personals sub section on these forums. I honestly believe that the AO personals could lead to something great for some people. I mean, at the very meeting of one another, two people would already have a common interest, and a very powerful one at that. At that point you would just focus on getting to know one another instead of bumbling about in confusion of 'when should i bring up anal. What if the other person isnt receptive to the idea? Do they have any past experience? When is the right time to have this talk?'
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Haunter » Fri Dec 23, 2016 3:52 pm

Sgt_Valk wrote:I wouldn't mind a personals sub section on these forums. I honestly believe that the AO personals could lead to something great for some people. I mean, at the very meeting of one another, two people would already have a common interest, and a very powerful one at that. At that point you would just focus on getting to know one another instead of bumbling about in confusion of 'when should i bring up anal. What if the other person isnt receptive to the idea? Do they have any past experience? When is the right time to have this talk?'

Good man :D You are among those who use their brain, I see... Thumbs up!
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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Michks50 » Fri Dec 30, 2016 2:22 am

It woud be a good idea if the topic came up when using a search engine. Free anal only dating. I wanted to try other sights but have been told it's impossible to get them to stop re billing your credit card once they have the info. Back page is for escorts and I really want a relationship not paid sex. We need more like minded visit this site. More women too!

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Re: Request for Comment: Personals Section

Post by Sgt_Valk » Fri Dec 30, 2016 3:16 am

There are actually a lot of women on this site, but the vast majority of them are in a relationship already lol.
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