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It can be challenging, especially when his hesitation is based on strong convictions.
Have you had a conversation with him about what specifically he thinks is wrong about having anal sex or being anal only? Perhaps doing so would be fruitful, and telling him that you're his wife and he's still having sex with you, you're bonding and giving each other pleasure, it's just with your ass, not your pussy, and there's nothing wrong with that. You can always still use your pussy if you want to get pregnant, it's just also a great and natural form of birth control for when you don't want to get pregnant. If anything, a religious person should recognize the value of such an elegant design where women have a hole for regular fun pleasurable sex and a hole for getting pregnant.
For example, Leviticus 18:22 says: You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination
... and a bit further again in Leviticus 20:13: If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act
Those sentences imply that a man can have sex with a man in the same way as they have sex with a woman. Since men can only have anal and oral sex with eachother, that then implies that these are also things a man can do with a woman. Otherwise it would not be possible for a man to have sex with another man in the same way as he would with a woman.
You could also throw in 1 Corinthians 7:5: Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
This says that married spouses should not deprive one another lest Satan would find a way to leverage that deprivation, for example by tempting you to seek fulfilment of your sexual needs outside of marriage which would of course be sinful.
The epistles of Paul contain a number of further references that a married couple should provide love for one-another. Since he likes it and you like it, it would only be just and good that you give each-other such loving pleasure.
Edit: I assumed he is Christian, sorry for that if he is not. Judaism and Islam have practically the same rules though, and other religions I know of don't have any restrictions on anal sex either.
Colt1911 wrote: ↑Fri Nov 06, 2020 1:39 pmIsn’t God more concerned about the love between two people? I’m lucky because my wife loves anal sex. My wife is lucky because I love making her cum. Have you had an open and honest conversation with him about your desires? Since he likes anal sex, I think it will “end” well for both of you!
I can't find the reference now, but I think there is something in Romans where Paul writes that intimacy between married spouses should be loving and consensual. If she loves anal and he loves it too (even if he feels wrongly guilty about it) then this is what God has deemed good according to Paul.
I think complimenting him in the right way when he does anal is key.
When he is sober minded, it might not be the best to bring it up. Stick to when he is aroused and encourage him... slowly make the vagina time less and less...
You might say things as "babe can you change holes now..." and after he changes to your ass "wow, you feel amazing in there, it's so much better..."
Or "I feel you so much better when you are in there.... it's like we are connected".
These kinds of things said at the right time may have a really positive effect.
Then eventually it will be every time you have sex and then eventually just say "babe, just put in straight in the back please... "
Jess for anal wrote: ↑Mon Nov 09, 2020 8:25 pm@SydneyAussie , you are right. I have started using that approach and is working wonders. Just yesterday I told him his dick feels huge in my ass and he liked that comment. After foreplay, I positioned my body ready for anal and he took it with no question. I will get my way one way or another. Also after sucking his dick hard, he looses all rational thought and his religious beliefs are forgotten. I am denying him pussy without telling him for now and it’s working. I will see if I can do the no pussy November challenge the whole month and update you guys on how it goes this month. I think my pussy us getting jealous, it’s getting more wet now that it’s getting neglected. Screw you vagina, I never get orgasms thru you, so I am giving anal a chance to take over, can’t wait to start getting anal orgasms.
He's a lucky man, who wouldn't want a woman like you! No doubt he prefers anal if you've gone straight for it...