Guess its my turn to say hi

[antoinegt]

Hi Everyone,

An introduction as suggested to me when I signed up.

I've been in the anal only or mostly anal only lifestyle (depended on partner) for 35 years, since the beginning of my 20's. It has been quite a ride (pun intended ). Introduced to me by an older fellow student who preferred it and its staying power over PIV, it quickly became the best way for me to give and receive pleasure with my partner. Combined with other kinks, where desired, has always been a bonus.

I've seen a lot change over the years. Back then, it was something very hidden and found in backroom chatboards/newsgroups (I had internet back in the 80s when most folks didn't know it existed, I'm one of those geeks/nerds who used to build whole sections of it back then). Anal was something that was not welcome to be openly talked about, let alone let on to the rest of the world you enjoyed it... so backroom it was. By the end of the 90's, it finally was something you could be more open about, and on early dating sites, was something you could hint at easily.

These days, it may not be the taboo it was, but now so many mainstream things want image-clean that they go as far as removing them. So I've looked around for a community to meet others that is like minded. Finally, after so much hit and miss, I've come across AOL.... and a bit of reading later have found it is a great community. Now to just find an equivalent for the dating world too.

Always welcome questions and comments, I'm pretty well an open book on my experiences.

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[Canassman]

Welcome. Perhaps you could tell us about where your interest in anal came from, and what has been your experience in AO relationships, as you mention in your intro.

[antoinegt]

Sure, I can do that.

It started with the girlfriend. Her experiences had taught her that she hated PIV because that is the selfish hard-wired thing. Its built in target being to orgasm to impregnate.... that there is any pleasure for the woman was beside the bio based function except to make you want to follow through. So the target was thus whoever did the driving did so using a strapon to the other. That had staying lingevity far past bio function and was good for learning to read and control what you give.... Anal to me, anal and vag to her. After working through getting to a useful size, that first orgasm followed by second and third were the only convincing I needed. Been hooked ever size and have combined with kinky play when I can. As I also had wildy varying T levels even back at the beginning of my 20s, this worked to my advantage for incredibly stimulating/enjoyable play.

Through the years its been hit and miss in terms of enjoying it with my partner. I have come across those who don't, but try and enjoy, those who don't at all.... and sadly, two marriages that did up to being married then cut off everything. Along the way though, Ive met some truly polyamorous folks who really enjoy their AO, but, are so bottom-y that they arent a good match as I really need a switch. I can do the top only if I need to, but then I don't get much out of it.

Anything in particular you would like to know?

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[Rimmer]

Hi @antoinegt,
yes back in the 80's we were educated that anal sex was something gay people did, it was called 'bumming' It wasn't really spoke of or considered that men and women might do such a thing - obviously some did though. When I was 14, I saw a hint of it in a film, not a porno, a war film. The idea turned me on like nothing else. It was in fact a girl that instigated my very first anal sex experience in the flesh. I hear what you are saying, my wife, years into our marriage discovered she likes to be submissive, but then sometimes she will Switch and be Brat, which is interesting to handle (you will understand these terms, though we don't actively pursue a bdsm lifestyle, it just works out that way a bit sometimes, so I may as well apply the terms). It works for us though as she can be top as they say sometimes.

[antoinegt]

Hi @antoinegt,
yes back in the 80's we were educated that anal sex was something gay people did, it was called 'bumming' It wasn't really spoke of or considered that men and women might do such a thing - obviously some did though. When I was 14, I saw a hint of it in a film, not a porno, a war film. The idea turned me on like nothing else. It was in fact a girl that instigated my very first anal sex experience in the flesh. I hear what you are saying, my wife, years into our marriage discovered she likes to be submissive, but then sometimes she will Switch and be Brat, which is interesting to handle (you will understand these terms, though we don't actively pursue a bdsm lifestyle, it just works out that way a bit sometimes, so I may as well apply the terms). It works for us though as she can be top as they say sometimes.

My first inkling that this existed was due to something old eastern european: birth control using anal. It was still talked about by the adults of the time as the alternative to modern condoms or the pill. Of course, us kids would listen in to anything we weren't supposed to By the time I was introduced, being top and bottom interchangeably was the rule of the day, as each was pleasuring the other.

[Rimmer]

Hi @antoinegt,
yes back in the 80's we were educated that anal sex was something gay people did, it was called 'bumming' It wasn't really spoke of or considered that men and women might do such a thing - obviously some did though. When I was 14, I saw a hint of it in a film, not a porno, a war film. The idea turned me on like nothing else. It was in fact a girl that instigated my very first anal sex experience in the flesh. I hear what you are saying, my wife, years into our marriage discovered she likes to be submissive, but then sometimes she will Switch and be Brat, which is interesting to handle (you will understand these terms, though we don't actively pursue a bdsm lifestyle, it just works out that way a bit sometimes, so I may as well apply the terms). It works for us though as she can be top as they say sometimes.

My first inkling that this existed was due to something old eastern european: birth control using anal. It was still talked about by the adults of the time as the alternative to modern condoms or the pill. Of course, us kids would listen in to anything we weren't supposed to By the time I was introduced, being top and bottom interchangeably was the rule of the day, as each was pleasuring the other.

Yes, makes much more sense than paying Pharma for pills and condoms