Male, 39, from Finland

MetalMike · Post by **MetalMike** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 12:14 am

Hi everyone,

I'm male, 39, from Finland. As soon as I started to find girls interesting in the sexual context, I have been fascinated by their butts. And not only butts, but their buttholes too. Ever since I started to fantasize about sex with girls in my puberty, I was fantasizing about anal sex with them. It is also worth to note that this was much before I was exposed to porn so the craving for anal sex is built inside me. I would be perfectly happy with going AO and never look back. Female butt is the endless source of excitement for me.

I'm currently in a relationship, but with no anal sex at all. She does not let me even touch her little hole and finds even talking about anal sex disgusting. I find our sex life frustrating because I cannot be "real me", but because we have small children, leaving from the relationship is not an option at the moment. Instead, I have thought about finding an anal sex -oriented woman with whom we could satisfy our needs together in secrecy.

That being said, it would be nice to know if there are any women on this forum from Finland.

Thank you all for sharing your stories and opinions. Now I finally understand that I'm not a freak, but a human being with my own needs.

AssMan89 · Post by **AssMan89** » Wed Nov 11, 2015 3:32 am

Hey,

welcome to the forum!

Sorry to hear that your sex life is not what you want it to be. Have you ever seriously talked to your woman about the way you feel, about your needs?

MetalMike · Post by **MetalMike** » Thu Nov 12, 2015 5:59 am

Yes, I have told her how I adore her butt, how I would like to touch her there, give oral sex to her butthole and if/when she would be ready and comfortable with the idea of anal penetration, make love with her anally. Unfortunately she finds everything anal related disgusting and simply no-go. I seriously doubt she will ever change her mind.

AssMan89 · Post by **AssMan89** » Thu Nov 12, 2015 6:44 am

Sorry to hear that. But I seriously doubt that cheating would be the right thing. You ever thought about ending the relationship and finding someone who has similar needs? What holds you back?

curvesnedges · Post by **curvesnedges** » Thu Nov 12, 2015 11:23 am

We do hope your conversations include things like

What are her pleasures and fantasies
And how you want to fulfill them
And what steps you'd like to take to talk, do, talk

Anal in a relationship comes down, in many cases, to intimacy. You either have it or are working on it. This applies to everything: shared bank accounts, holding their hair to puke, making emergency medical decisions

Face it - partners have to trust each other to do certain things.

Suggestion: focus on trust and intimacy. Ignore where it's getting you. Enjoy the ride. And then enjoy the surprises that may follow

And be prepared to hear no. If you ask a question and don't accept ANY answer, it's not a question - it's an ultimatum

And no one likes ultimatums.