Hello as a new member

[Issyvin]

My second child’s birth was complicated and since then because of needing stitches and whatever I don’t have the same feeling there I once had. Also, as I mentioned I’m simply just not as tight there anymore.

My bf has bought me a couple of plugs and been encouraging me to wear them more regular. I just couldn’t work out how the stem bit really makes much difference as it is relatively small after the broad bit of the plug. I get that by wearing one before it will make me more ready and turned in for the real thing. Especially if I put it in later in the afternoon at work say so I really start wanting the real thing for when I get home.

I definitely would like my clit pierced I think. I like to wear things that dangle from my belly piercing so something similar or kinda matching or themed to that which dangles down across over my pussy I think would look lovely. As for having my pussy lips pierced I kinda like the idea of maybe just one each side and seeing what that feels and looks like. I do like the idea of my pussy looking prettier with jewellery and unused. X

[Colt1911]

I also wanted some advice on anal plugs to understand them better. By wearing them and and for longer does it actually open you up more and make it more and more easy to take a man there? I ask because once the wife bit is in then the actual stem isn’t so big. So is it the actual regular insertion that makes it become easier and more open or is having one inside me going to make me more open anyway just from the stem?

There are many different butt plugs. We love them. My wife’s favorite is a large, heavy, stainless steel jeweled plug. It’s like jewelry for your ass. Plugs made of glass and silicone have wider necks and can help stretch a little. Plugs made of metal have thinner necks. We have all types but my wife’s favorites are the heavy metal plugs with thin necks.

For her, the heavy weight of the plug (30 ounces/.88 kilogram) is a constant reminder of something large and heavy in her ass. It turns her and makes her very wet. She doesn’t wear it all day as many enjoy, she wears it for several hours before sex. I recommend you purchase quality toys for your ass. Avoid glass plugs with thinner necks because you don’t want the plug to break in your ass! Also, purchase plugs with a base that’s as wide or wider than the head. During heavy anal play years ago, a smaller stainless plug disappeared entirely in her ass. Fortunately, she was able to squat and push it out avoiding an embarrassing trip to the hospital.

A vendor in France offers high quality, beautiful stainless steel butt plugs and anal toys. Here is a link to their website and her favorite plug I bought her for our “analversary”

https://rosebuds.net/en/classic-collect ... 6-o-197_in

Let me know if you have more questions about plugs. We love them.

[Issyvin]

Thank you so much for your message. It is really helpful and some of the things you mentioned I really hadn’t considered. The information on the risks of a glass plug and those where the base isn’t as wide or wider than the plug itself to avoid it going completely in is really so helpful.

I can understand why having something heavier would make me more aware of it and add to the excitement. I have had a look at the website link you sent me they are really beautiful and as you say are very much like jewellery for my bottom!

I am looking at the ones slightly bigger than the girth of my bf. I am hoping that something larger like that will result in me being able to take him there more and more easily as it becomes more natural to have something that size in me for prolonged periods and regularly.

May I ask how much wearing your wife found was needed to really start to see the difference when taking you there?

[Backdoorlover]

I buy my girlfriends plugs off Ali express. Different size available and about €10-15 a piece. I even bought a trusting anal plug which looks like a cock for only €25 (retail here €85) It trusts and vibrates.

She sometimes uses it while she’s giving me a blowjob, so her asshole is being fucked while she sucks my cock. And for long wear the plugs need to have a base which sits nicely in your butcrack. Her favorite is thin and comfy. And has a remote to let it vibrate. In time you will go to thicker plugs because you can accept bigger without discomfort.

[Colt1911]

Thank you so much for your message. It is really helpful and some of the things you mentioned I really hadn’t considered. The information on the risks of a glass plug and those where the base isn’t as wide or wider than the plug itself to avoid it going completely in is really so helpful.

I’m glad you like them. It’s best to buy quality as the less expensive metal plugs are plated with a very thin layer of chrome which may not be “body safe”. The nickel in the plating can irritate your bowel (NOT a good thing) and I’ve even heard the plating has flaked off creating a serious danger of lacerating the inside of your rectum. The plugs from the vendor we use are literally works of art and made from SURGICAL stainless steel. Nothing “butt” the best for my wife’s ass!

You are exactly right… buy a plug slightly larger than your husband’s girth. Inserting and removing it will obviously stretch you open but you both can play with the plug as well. I enjoy slowly pulling it from her ass as I watch her hole open up and see the large plug head “crown” in her ass. Very erotic. This will open you up enough to comfortably take his cock with ease. Remember, his cock is not as hard as stainless steel, so it will be easier for you to take him than inserting and removing the plug.

From personal experience, my wife strongly prefers my cock to any plug or toy. She can orgasm from anal play, but penetrating her with my cock must turn her on mentally as much as it does physically.

You and your partner have made a wise decision to go anal only. I hope you enjoy MANY anal orgasm as you explore what we believe is the best sex possible. Believe it or not, I could care less about her giving me oral sex. It’s all about the ass. My best to you on your anal journey!

[Issyvin]

Thanks for the reply.
I have posted a big thank you as a new topic to you and others who have replied to my introductory message when I joined the site.
From the new thread message I’ve posted yiu will see we have ordered a plug from France. My bf liked the thought of something thicker than he is and quite heavy so I’d be aware of the weight in me as had been suggested. Having something that big in me and seeing my bf’s excitement at me being AO and having such a plug in me daily really turned me on.
I do orgasm from anal but I think you’re right about the mental bit for sure. Just having a plug in my bum and AO and just having sex in my bum is like taboo. If my female friends new I liked anal and wear a plug I know they all be gossiping and call me a slut if not more. But it’s the fact that in my head it’s a slutty thing to do is exactly what turns me on so much about it. The thought that I will only be fucked in my bum now is so slutty feeling just the thought makes me so wet and when I am full in my bum when I think of what a slut I’ve become I cum in seconds.

[Colt1911]

@Issyvin my wife and I are still amazed at how anal changed our sex lives in a most positive way. It’s mental and she loves the taboo aspect of it. Five years later and it gets better every time. Like you, she’s so turned she orgasms within minutes of penetration. She often has a second orgasm, and occasionally a third. This forum give me an opportunity to discuss and share experiences I can’t talk about with friends or family. Our anal “discovery” occurred later in life which makes it even better. For us the experience is so different and better neither of us have any interest in vaginal penetration. Nice to know others on the forum are enjoying the anal experience as much as we are.

[Backdoorlover]

Yes @Issyvin my girlfriend tells her friends she’s anal only with me and none of them get it. None of them will even consider anal while my girlfriend gladly gave up pussy sex.

[Rimmer]

But it’s the fact that in my head it’s a slutty thing to do is exactly what turns me on so much about it. The thought that I will only be fucked in my bum now is so slutty feeling just the thought makes me so wet and when I am full in my bum when I think of what a slut I’ve become I cum in seconds.

Yes, I relate to this from our previous years of AO. You don't have to be the dictionary definition of slutty, to enjoy the kink of feeling that way