Hello Everyone

[BBells]

You will find that people in this group approach anal sex from many different angles. My wife and I approach it as a mutual preference, yet we are still free to do anything we choose at any given time, sexually. The term "AO" is really a non-issue with us, even though 99.9 percent of the time we go straight for anal. If vaginal sex is involved, it is usually as foreplay, but not the main event. This is something that evolved over time with us. Oral sex is wonderful, and we're both always up for that.

Hey, thanks so much. I know which is why i joined. I was merely stating that I know there is this alpha, domination, and even humiliation aspect that some like which is what I personally find unappealing. I am not sure if 99.9% of the time is for me, but the rest sounds like something i would like.

As for the rest, maybe it comes with age and being comfortable with your partner, but the idea of not prepping is actually horrifying to me. I don't really do enemas but still, I wants a clean experience. I know its not 100% gauranteed but I would die if something happened that I feel like I could have prevented. Does that make sense?

[amorous945]

As for the rest, maybe it comes with age and being comfortable with your partner, but the idea of not prepping is actually horrifying to me. I don't really do enemas but still, I wants a clean experience. I know its not 100% gauranteed but I would die if something happened that I feel like I could have prevented. Does that make sense?

Yes, it makes perfect sense, and I do completely understand your concern there. You're right, the key is being comfortable with your partner. I've been married for a little over 30 years, so I guess in light of that my comments about that particular fear are probably a bit unrealistic for some. I have always felt that anal sex (because of some of those very things you've mentioned), carries with it a level of trust and intimacy that goes over and beyond all other sexual acts. If I'm fortunate enough to enter into that place of another's intimacy and trust, then I am more than willing to accept the consequences.

[taylork]

Hello brenda. Honestly we aren't all alpha types. Me and my gf are just a regular young couple and we don't go in for any of this dom stuff either.

About the soreness the others are correct. My gf used to suffer a bit but it gradually went away over time and the more we did till it just isn't a problem now. She did also have a few issues with after sex but that mostly cleared up too. I don't think at first her body reacted well to having me cum in her ass but seems like her body adapted or gotten to recognize it or something.

You won't need to do enemas or any of that stuff if you don't want to. We are always nearly clean during and after but it helps to be prepared and get to know your body. My gf always visits the bathroom to be sure but often feels to need to go before sex anyway. I guess her body gets to know or something.

[myttia]

often feels to need to go before sex anyway. I guess her body gets to know or something.

same here - sometimes just thinking of my boy even when he's away makes me have to go heh heh.. i guess my body knows what im up to!

[Robert]

often feels to need to go before sex anyway. I guess her body gets to know or something.

same here - sometimes just thinking of my boy even when he's away makes me have to go heh heh.. i guess my body knows what im up to!

Snap!!! I've noticed this! I find it pretty arousing tbh, when she's doing her thing - thinking about how she's clearing the way - for me!

[mardobolo]

As for the rest, maybe it comes with age and being comfortable with your partner, but the idea of not prepping is actually horrifying to me.

It might be an age and/or experience thing. At a certain point you think of a little mess occasionally as just part of the deal. An easily-misinterpreted analogy I would give is to that of owning a dog and freaking out about cleaning up after it on walks. After a while you get used to it and think of cleaning up dog poop as just part of the experience.

Regarding ATM my wife and I never do that, but I don't think the taste itself is necessarily unpleasant.

[Fins]

hello, i am from Belarus, sorry for my english

[urabus]

BBells, welcome! Post as much as you like and don't be concerned about what you're asking. Most of us are happy to discuss things that may have already been discussed in depth.

[luv2play45]

I guess I'll jump in on this discussion BBells altho you have already received much good advice.
With 20+ years of AO I may be able to help with your concerns about anal sex.

First the cleanliness issue.
It's perfectly understandable why you would have reservations about that. This is a very common issue with newbies to anal sex.
I have had anal with a fair number of women and only once did a partner have an enema beforehand and that was so she could surprise me with an ATM (my one & only - more about that later).
A few times I did get some poop on my dick and once, after vigorous & multiple anal sex sessions with a one night stand, she ended up pooping the sheets.
With my wife of over 20 years we have worked out a cleaning routine that works well for us.
BTW, she is a nurse so the sight of poop doesn't faze her at all but she does not want it on my dick or on the bed.
She says it irritates her anus if there is poop on my dick and nothing dampens the mood more than smelling poop while you're having sex.
My wife goes to the toilet before and then she will tell me she may not be all cleaned out and the "Plumber Man" may have to make an inspection (she likes me to assume various manly roles during sex play).

I start out by gently massaging her anus and telling her how beautiful she is.
She does not like me to insert any fingers at this point but other women have not minded a bit of finger foreplay.
I then gently push my dick against her anus until the head is just barely inside.
She likes to control my movements at this point so I have to be very gentle.
After I'm in I give a few slow strokes and then she asks for an inspection by the Plumber Man or whatever role I'm playing that evening.
I lube up my index & middle fingers and, pushing up inside her, I feel around for any "intruders".
It is easier to detect stray fecal matter with the fingers than with the penis.
If I feel anything I tell her and she goes to the toilet again.
I may wash my penis at this point if needed.
Then we do another inspection, and 99% of the time this takes care of any problems.

I know this sounds weird but we have developed an intimacy over the years and this is what works for us.
She would never consider an enema, saying they take too long and are messy.
We are now free to enjoy a lengthy anal sex session with no worries or surprises.
I have learned to enjoy the extra time this takes and the intimacy it affords.

You mentioned that you did not like cum in your ass.
My wife doesn't find it too much of a problem as long as we're not headed out the door soon afterwards.
If we have an evening engagement she does not want me dripping down her leg or having to make frequent trips to the bathroom.
On these rare occasions I do the "porn star cum" by pulling out and cumming on her anus, then pushing back into for a little post coital intimacy.
I have a feeling that once you begin to enjoy anal you will find the feeling of your man cumming in your ass to be very pleasurable. Many women have commented how they prefer their partner to cum inside them over at the Hip Forums anal discussion group.

As I said I have only had ATM once and to tell the truth it was no big deal.
I would never ask a woman to do that as I think it is degrading and very possibly dangerous.
Don't ever believe you have to do it to please someone.
Most anal porn includes some ATM for the "wank factor" as it is made mainly to appeal to adolescent men.
It does not appeal to me.
It is difficult to find good anal porn that does not include scenes where the man is abusing the woman in some manner, choking, yanking her hair, commanding her to "taste your ass" etc.
It's really pretty sickening IMHO.
My wife does not even allow me to lick her ass though other women have enjoyed it.
Being a nurse she is aware of how many diseases can be spread via fecal contamination.

Hope this has helped,