Greetings

[Marquis]

Hi Everyone,

I'm a 31 year old American male living in Asia. I've been practicing AO or mostly AO for most of my sexually active life and have seen a definite trend towards AO throughout. I'm really fascinated to find others like me here and look forward to seeing this board and the discussions around AO develop.

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[marcus]

Hello.

AO for most of your sexual life? Have you had good luck? Most people find it hard just to find that one special person.

What do you mean by trend? Is this yourself or others?

[Marquis]

In my first long term relationship, we did start having anal sex fairly early on and she was my first. I wanted it a lot more than she did, and hence we had much more vaginal sex than anal, although quite a fair amount of anal as well. In my next long term relationship anal was introduced much earlier and there was more of it. I would say we were about 50/50 between anal and vaginal. In my third and last long term relationship we had anal sex on our first date and the majority of our sex was anal. We still did vaginal sex quite often (we had a lot of sex), but our routine typically involved starting with vaginal before finishing anally. If I had to guess, I would say 80% of my ejaculations over the course of our 4 year relationship went into her anus.

Since then I haven't had any long term relationships, but have had multiple short term friends with benefits type situations and most of these have been either mostly anal or anal only. I suppose I have gotten more insistent on my preference over time and my partners have either rolled with it or not. I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term, although there were of course also those who thought it strange or unacceptable.

[marcus]

I suppose I have gotten more insistent on my preference over time and my partners have either rolled with it or not. I have been really surprised by how many women were ok with it, at least in the short term, although there were of course also those who thought it strange or unacceptable.

Having been married for a long time and somewhat older I've been "out of the field" as it were, for a long time. Are younger women, as I hear, more accepting of anal? On the other hand, I've also been told many times (and have good reason to believe) that older and more experienced women are the more willing. Either way, it is pleasing to hear that there is more of a trend towards anal, so that while still practiced less is becoming thought of as something normal.

[Marquis]

I think women in general these days are very aware of the omnipresence of Herero anal sex, to the point that those not into it typically have long and well articulated reasons on why they don't do it.

[French Lover]

Hello Monsieur le Marquis, and welcome here
I think you're right on anal and the reasons why they don't do it.
My fiancée, it is because "it is painful". And this reason is convenient.

[marcus]

Marquis, I hope you don't mind discussing it here, but I was reading your post at http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=966326 and your reading of AO as "fetishization of pussy denial".

I can't speak for everyone, just as I'm sure there are many reasons for pursuing an AO lifestyle, but I don't think that in itself is a common or dominating factor. My own reasons are a lifelong interest in that part of the female anatomy (right from my sexual awakening) and always a corresponding lack of interest in female genitalia. Simply put, the vagina is not capable of giving me much sexual excitement and so vaginal sex was always unrewarding. Conversely, anal is both arousing and also has the benefit (for me) of also being more physically pleasurable.

[mogashim]

I feel differently. I have to say that term "fetishization of pussy denial" resonates with me at least. I prefer the sensation of penetrating her ass but I do like the female genitalia a lot. My favourite anal sex positions involve being able to see the pussy.

[Marquis]

Marquis, I hope you don't mind discussing it here, but I was reading your post at http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=966326 and your reading of AO as "fetishization of pussy denial".

I can't speak for everyone, just as I'm sure there are many reasons for pursuing an AO lifestyle, but I don't think that in itself is a common or dominating factor. My own reasons are a lifelong interest in that part of the female anatomy (right from my sexual awakening) and always a corresponding lack of interest in female genitalia. Simply put, the vagina is not capable of giving me much sexual excitement and so vaginal sex was always unrewarding. Conversely, anal is both arousing and also has the benefit (for me) of also being more physically pleasurable.

Hi marcus, just so I'm not taken out of context, it seems the comment you are referring to is:

"I think this is a really interesting point. It seems to me from reading the posts in this community and looking at their corresponding porn tumblog that for a lot of these folks it isn't just about preferring the asshole, but a fetishization of pussy denial."

While that may not be the case, for you, it certainly does seem to be the case for many here and I look forward to understanding their perspectives better.

I feel differently. I have to say that term "fetishization of pussy denial" resonates with me at least. I prefer the sensation of penetrating her ass but I do like the female genitalia a lot. My favourite anal sex positions involve being able to see the pussy.

As I mentioned in the lit thread marcus linked to, I don't think 100% AO would work for me long term as I wouldn't want to lose the option of fucking the pussy when I want. I do have my moods where I prefer the pussy at times, actually, although it's been so long since I've been having regular sex that I almost can't remember what it's like.

Although I don't take it to the extreme of never wanting pussy, ever; I can relate to the excitement of pussy denial. I think one of the pleasures of anal for me is when a girl will let me fuck her ass because I want it, even (or especially) if she would prefer it be in her pussy. I think a woman who loves anal is incredibly hot but I also think a woman who doesn't like anal but will do it for me anyway is also incredibly hot! I realize this may not resonate with all of you, but my sexuality is heavily influenced by BDSM and sadistic and dominant desires permeate my sexual practices.

[French Lover]

The definition of "anal only" is to be complete. Still, I see that a lot of us are like you (and me) : we have a great preference for anal sex - but still have no reason to "forbid" the pussy forever. But as anal would be the main intercourse, instead of vaginal, it could be a long time with no vaginal, like other couples may have a long time without anal.