Anal Only Lifestyle Forum

Dante here from Phoenix AZ. 35 years of age, black male and 7 years married. Been lurking the boards here for a few weeks after finding this place on a whim. While I'm not hardly AO, I certainly wouldn't be opposed to it, as it is definitely great. I love reading the stories here as anal is a huge turn on for me. Wish I had a equally invested mate or friend in need that was on board with me. Unfortunately, my misses isn't nearly as enthused as I am for it, despite her being able to get off from it more continuously, reliably, with greater ease and with immense more intensity than vaginal or clitoral stimulated ones.

Typically she may cum once during vaginal sex, sometimes just with pure strokes and other times, with tandem stroke and vibe assistance on her clit. She uses the vibe during anal as well to make it more durable, but she has high anxiety, especially for impending and during anal, for some understandable reasons. After about a half dozen successful attempts of it over the past year and a half, she still can't relax too well for it, regardless of how much prep time, slowness, alcohol, massage, foreplay, etc. before or during it. Eventually, after the pain, she'll mildly get into it and then just start cumming hard and easily, but gets really sensitive afterwards. She says she could go without ever doing it again as it's not her thing as she says, but she knows that it's mine. She wants to be better at it, if nothing more my sake. What's a young man to do. I want it at least one or twice a week, but as of now, only get it like every few months.

Hello, and welcome! Hang in there and be patient with your wife. I say that because mine was a lot like yours at first, so there's a chance that she may change over time. Some people just have a harder time learning to relax than others. If she would spend some time playing with her ass and experimenting privately, it would help her very much in this regard. Butt plugs, various size dildos and vibrators can help, but I think that it's more of a mind thing than anything else-learning to be in touch with our own bodies.

amorous945 wrote:Hello, and welcome! Hang in there and be patient with your wife. I say that because mine was a lot like yours at first, so there's a chance that she may change over time. Some people just have a harder time learning to relax than others. If she would spend some time playing with her ass and experimenting privately, it would help her very much in this regard. Butt plugs, various size dildos and vibrators can help, but I think that it's more of a mind thing than anything else-learning to be in touch with our own bodies.

Yeah, the first few times we did it, she did rather prime herself up first with those options, to which she seems to find them to just be "whatever", rather than pleasurable. I think she had the idea that if she just did if once or twice that would sate me enough to never bother her again about it. Boy was she in for a surprise.


She says that she will do better by me regarding this, but knowing her, it'll take forever in a day for that to come to fruition.