I recently stumbled across this whole lifestyle (I was lost deep in the world of internet porn lol) and find it rather intriguing. I have no desire to have a completely anal lifestyle... But I find something oddly arousing about becoming somebody's very own private asshole ... Like that's all they would ever use me for when we spend time together and that my ass would be off limits to anybody else I may date.
I've had anal and liked it ... But not many times .. And it wasn't "earth moving" lol ... So I'm honestly not sure why I'm so turned on by the idea of this. Perhaps it is more about the submission ... Idk.
Do people who practice this lifestyle still have oral sex? Rimming and vaginal ... I could never give those up lol ... Even temporarily ... I love having my pussy and ass eaten toooo much.
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Hi Ana, welcome to the forum and thanks for taking the time to learn more about it even if it doesn't fully interest you! Your own take on it is quite interesting, and I'm not sure it's one I've encountered before, so thanks for sharing! It does sound like it is driven by submission more than anything, though I think that most people can come to love it more and more with increased experience and practice.
I think most people who identify as anal only still very much include oral sex. Some may replace cunnilingus completely with analingus, while others still do cunnilingus just as much as well, only replacing vaginal penetration with anal, but not external stimulation. Most AO women still include clit stimulation, I think, though some choose to avoid that as well for a variety of reasons, including pursuing pure anal orgasms instead.
If it isn't interesting to you, I wouldn't suggest it, and you might want to add anal into the mix a bit more often to get more experience with it first too, but I usually recommend that people who haven't tried AO before but are curious give it a spin for a month or so just to see what it's really all about. Often they find that they don't miss vaginal intercourse as much as they thought they would.
I think most people who identify as anal only still very much include oral sex. Some may replace cunnilingus completely with analingus, while others still do cunnilingus just as much as well, only replacing vaginal penetration with anal, but not external stimulation. Most AO women still include clit stimulation, I think, though some choose to avoid that as well for a variety of reasons, including pursuing pure anal orgasms instead.
If it isn't interesting to you, I wouldn't suggest it, and you might want to add anal into the mix a bit more often to get more experience with it first too, but I usually recommend that people who haven't tried AO before but are curious give it a spin for a month or so just to see what it's really all about. Often they find that they don't miss vaginal intercourse as much as they thought they would.
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Anal sex by itself brings lovemaking to another level of intimacy since as a rule you wouldn't do it with just about anybody; there's generally the need for a deeper trust in your partner so, as a consequence, the whole experience tends towards a more uplifting atmosphere.
That, of course, will depend on the extent of the value you may or may not attribute to the act. The more you value, the better the experience, so anal only will be a level of added intimacy due to the sacrifice of the ordinary pathway (by ordinary I don't mean demeaning or necessarily less valuable, just referring to the general occurrence and symbolic terms) in favor of another one, unconditioned by nature or facility, dirty, exclusive, more intimate, etc.
When you add to this exclusivity the refusal of your own clitoral play, for instance, you increase yet another level, bringing the whole fulfilling of your desires, love, lust, etc. to be necessarily attached to the one you're making love with. If you add complete denial of clitoral play, then another level, bringing the whole experience to be necessarily mutual, i.e., it can only happen with the other and for the other, while the other is doing just the same for you and with you (opposed to reciprocal ones, e.g., blowjob/cunnilingus, in which there's no need to be directly engaged in the act with the other for the act to be complete); it takes a lot of deliverance, surrendering and bonding to achieve this with somebody.
Kissing and intercourse are the only sexual acts that can ever be mutual, maybe that's why so many prostitutes won't kiss (since they can't deny intercourse)... but I think I overextended myself a lot, actually.
Hope it shed some light on your issue
That, of course, will depend on the extent of the value you may or may not attribute to the act. The more you value, the better the experience, so anal only will be a level of added intimacy due to the sacrifice of the ordinary pathway (by ordinary I don't mean demeaning or necessarily less valuable, just referring to the general occurrence and symbolic terms) in favor of another one, unconditioned by nature or facility, dirty, exclusive, more intimate, etc.
When you add to this exclusivity the refusal of your own clitoral play, for instance, you increase yet another level, bringing the whole fulfilling of your desires, love, lust, etc. to be necessarily attached to the one you're making love with. If you add complete denial of clitoral play, then another level, bringing the whole experience to be necessarily mutual, i.e., it can only happen with the other and for the other, while the other is doing just the same for you and with you (opposed to reciprocal ones, e.g., blowjob/cunnilingus, in which there's no need to be directly engaged in the act with the other for the act to be complete); it takes a lot of deliverance, surrendering and bonding to achieve this with somebody.
Kissing and intercourse are the only sexual acts that can ever be mutual, maybe that's why so many prostitutes won't kiss (since they can't deny intercourse)... but I think I overextended myself a lot, actually.
Hope it shed some light on your issue
