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Well, I was looking for a butt plug and ended up here:)
Actually, I was googling how long I could leave a plug in and found this fascinating world of AO.

I am in a committed, long term relationship and have done anal in the past with a different partner who was on the small side.
My BF is LARGE and LONG. It has always been a resounding NO when he tries.
You see, I don't like pain or submissive play.
I do love anal play but in 8 yrs together I've been to scared to try with him. Before, I had to have the cock out as soon as I came, it just became too uncomfortable for a long, deep pounding.
The BF doesn't quit know how to be soft and slow. He is a rough and tumble man and likes to pound me, even when he tries to finger my ass it has never been slow enough or with enough build up.
I've come to the conclusion that I really don't enjoy vaginal sex as I am "supposed" to. It can be painful and I have to have a LOT of clitoral stimulation, most of the time I just end of giving him a blow job because I don't want it in my vag. So things have fizzled and become strained between us. Sex is more of a chore now than pleasure which is sad because we both have high libidos.

About a year ago I bought a set of dilators with the intent to train myself to accept his large shaft. I didn't get very far and they sat in the closet until yesterday. I never told the BF for a couple reasons: 1) I didn't want him to push the issue and me not be able to take him. 2) he has never liked the idea of toys, he thinks it "ruins" the woman and her sensitivity.
That may be true for vaginal/clit play but I am sitting here with the medium plug in my ass having a continual orgasmic contractions.

So, after finding this site last night I started playing with the smallest of the three plugs, 3in x 1 1/2. ( I kept it in all night The idea of getting past the pain of anal opens a new world! My ass is so sensitive, I am extremely orgasmic anally, with no clitoral stimulation needed. In the past though, once I cum I've wanted it out of me as it becomes very uncomfortable .
I know with time and stretching I can do this. As I said, I'm sitting here clenching the medium sized trainer, 4in x 3 1/2.
It feels amazing, full, I can do kegels and it sends exquisite shocks of lightening through my ass and all around.

My plans is to teach myself to relax and take the large one ( 5 1/2 long x 6 around!) before I tell him what I am doing. I just don't want to rush and to his defense he REALLY wants to fuck my ass.

He would love to be AO and the thought of him taking my ass at anytime makes me drip...but I can't handle the pain.

So....any tips of training myself? The trainers I have are cheap and smell of plastic. I would love to have a plug in all day while out or at work. Which ones are the easiest to retain? How long do I try to open myself before I let him try?

Also, and this is a bit TMI. I have trouble with constipation (another reason I didn't want his huge cock ramming me). I've done all the dietary things...lots of water, fiber etc... it's a life long problem. I think an occasional enema may help.

Lots of info and lots of questions Who knows, we may end up AO!

The key to training is to quit whenever you feel any significant discomfort. Training your ass is a lot like training a nervous animal - if you frighten it, it will take a while to forgive you! On the other hand if it feels only pleasure during the training, you and your BF will have a 'friend' for life.

Training with plugs is a great idea but get that plug out when it doesn't feel so good, and then wait a day before resuming. An alternative to regular plug wear is to take the largest plug and slowly work it in (this will take 30 mins or more at first). Then take a break for a day or two.

You'll know you're there when your butt starts to spasm at the thought of taking a cock!

Constipation's a tricky one. Are you taking any medications that might contribute to the problem? If not it might be time for a chat to your GP.

I've read it in a post in the advice section that the trick to becoming good at something is to do a lot of practicing in a relatively short amount of time. Nobody has become good at something by doing something half assed a few times a year, spread over that year. So best to maintain a regular training regime. Set yourself a goal (plug size X) and work yourself gradually up to it. And consider each time you can take a bigger plug as a moment of victory.

I remember there was a time when the first insertion of a dildo would still hurt, even after I had gradually worked my way up there with some butt plugs, but nowadays, never. It's amazing what the human body can get used too, as long as you do it gradually but steadily.

Hello bluej34. I know almost nothing on butt plugs by myself, but anyway I give you my welcome here

Welcome, and I hope you enjoy your stay here, and lots of anal adventures.
I'm a big toy girl, plugs, and dildos, with the dildo winning out cause I like depth too. I've been playing with huge dildos for many, many years, and I was kind of a natural at it.
The advice in the upper two replies is good. Practice often. I'll just add, that when moving up a size, think of it as a challenge. I move up enough that my new toy makes me question wether it will fit, and really makes me work at it. It's gonna hurt. I work past the pain, because the toy will go, and as it suddenly slides in, the pain disappears, and a sense of fulfillment, and peace flows over me (an a big ass orgasm usually too).
Playing with dildos the size I like did not come overnight, but for you to take a big penis size one should not take long.
My money saving trick- If you think you're ready to move up, but not sure, or you just want to try one size bigger for a while. Put a thick sock (or two) over your plug or dildo, and put a condom on it. LOL, not good for long term wear, cause you'll have half a sock hanging out of your ass!
Advice from an experienced girl- It's almost impossible to hurt yourself using any degree of common sense. You will not rip or tear your ass, because the toy just won't go. If it doesn't go in today, it will tomorrow.
Just for an idea of the size, I can put a coke can on a chair, and sit right down on it.
Have fun. Remember it's mostly mental. Good luck.

Thanks for the welcome and the good advice.
I played with the medium yesterday, kept it in for a few hours even tried thrusting in and out. It was great!
This morning as I was running out the door to work I decided I'd tried wearing one in, then remove it.
Wow, talk about going back to size! I was a little niave thinking the small would slide right in after using the medium yesterday. I thought for sure I'd take it out as soon as I got to the bathroom, but the walk in and a few squeezes later it felt great!!
It is a distraction though. I'd rather focus on my ass right now. I've been wet and horny all day. Looking forward to getting home and having time with my man.

I need to think about length, that's what scares me.

Length takes care of itself. When he 'bottoms out' tell him to push slowly, and your colon will open up, and his penis will go in. That's where the orgasms are. This doesn't require practice, or training. Just some slow going, and determination. You will know as soon as he's in there.

Thanks for the great advice! I don't think I could jump straight to the large plug. That thing is huge! it's my goal but I'll work my way up.

I've talked to my GP about the constipation issues. Like i said, it's an on going problem that many, many women have. For me it's mostly cyclical, increasing during my cycle as estrogen rises. I was wondering if anyone else here has had to deal with it? It's uncomfortable enough, how do you prepare for AO??!!

Oh , but how I DO already spasm with the thought is a cock in there. Or when I have a plug in..... over and over again. It really is an amazing discovery.

FarmerDan wrote:The key to training is to quit whenever you feel any significant discomfort. Training your ass is a lot like training a nervous animal - if you frighten it, it will take a while to forgive you! On the other hand if it feels only pleasure during the training, you and your BF will have a 'friend' for life.

Training with plugs is a great idea but get that plug out when it doesn't feel so good, and then wait a day before resuming. An alternative to regular plug wear is to take the largest plug and slowly work it in (this will take 30 mins or more at first). Then take a break for a day or two.

You'll know you're there when your butt starts to spasm at the thought of taking a cock!

Constipation's a tricky one. Are you taking any medications that might contribute to the problem? If not it might be time for a chat to your GP.

Anno~ your post gives me hope!!! And all others that say with time they have no pain. Im committed to trying and I look forward to those rewards!!

AnnoMundi wrote:I've read it in a post in the advice section that the trick to becoming good at something is to do a lot of practicing in a relatively short amount of time. Nobody has become good at something by doing something half assed a few times a year, spread over that year. So best to maintain a regular training regime. Set yourself a goal (plug size X) and work yourself gradually up to it. And consider each time you can take a bigger plug as a moment of victory.

I remember there was a time when the first insertion of a dildo would still hurt, even after I had gradually worked my way up there with some butt plugs, but nowadays, never. It's amazing what the human body can get used too, as long as you do it gradually but steadily.

What an inspiration! I'll keep on training. I've got some shopping to do as the three I have are the stinky plastic ones.
What do you recommend for depth? The harder toys scare me, I want something smooth and soft to start.
I totally get the "fulfillment and peace" state. It is euphoric, I just wish it wasn't replaced with pain and fear!!

Buttwoman wrote:Welcome, and I hope you enjoy your stay here, and lots of anal adventures.
I'm a big toy girl, plugs, and dildos, with the dildo winning out cause I like depth too. I've been playing with huge dildos for many, many years, and I was kind of a natural at it.
The advice in the upper two replies is good. Practice often. I'll just add, that when moving up a size, think of it as a challenge. I move up enough that my new toy makes me question wether it will fit, and really makes me work at it. It's gonna hurt. I work past the pain, because the toy will go, and as it suddenly slides in, the pain disappears, and a sense of fulfillment, and peace flows over me (an a big ass orgasm usually too).
Playing with dildos the size I like did not come overnight, but for you to take a big penis size one should not take long.
My money saving trick- If you think you're ready to move up, but not sure, or you just want to try one size bigger for a while. Put a thick sock (or two) over your plug or dildo, and put a condom on it. LOL, not good for long term wear, cause you'll have half a sock hanging out of your ass!
Advice from an experienced girl- It's almost impossible to hurt yourself using any degree of common sense. You will not rip or tear your ass, because the toy just won't go. If it doesn't go in today, it will tomorrow.
Just for an idea of the size, I can put a coke can on a chair, and sit right down on it.
Have fun. Remember it's mostly mental. Good luck.