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New to the forum? Introduce yourself to the other members of the community. Share a little bit about yourself and your anal only experience and motivations.
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Lookiwolf
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Hello

Post by Lookiwolf » Wed May 31, 2017 12:38 pm

Hi! It's not my first time here but I couldn't find my old account, and I felt like starting over from scratch anyway. I feel like a different person. I still love anal, but the way I enjoy it has changed too and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with that.

In short, I'm tired of men assuming that I'm submissive because I like anal. Specially since the idea of being dominant with men becomes more appealing to me every day lmao.

Anyway coming back here might be a mistake, or it might be the best thing I do. Who knows!

I'm female and from europe :)

Update: I've made a tumblr to follow anal-only blogs. Find me here so I can follow back! https://cherryblossomface.tumblr.com/ (Ignore the url, i went with one of the suggested names...)
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Parasite87
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Re: Hello

Post by Parasite87 » Wed May 31, 2017 12:54 pm

Why would it be bad?? If you love it, take it!!

Buttwoman
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Re: Hello

Post by Buttwoman » Wed May 31, 2017 1:02 pm

I don't agree on women enjoying anal as submissive. When anal is on the table, the woman has ALL the power.

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Lookiwolf
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Re: Hello

Post by Lookiwolf » Wed May 31, 2017 3:13 pm

Buttwoman wrote:I don't agree on women enjoying anal as submissive. When anal is on the table, the woman has ALL the power.

Well, power really depends on the scenario, and the roles each partner agrees to. I don't think there's power inherent to anal, but there's nothing inherently demeaning in it either. However, society seems to feel that way.

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Haunter
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Re: Hello

Post by Haunter » Wed May 31, 2017 5:14 pm

Hi Lookiwolf, welcome to this second life for you here! (Which was your former username? Some people happened to vanish sometimes, it makes me a bit sad. Ot would be good news recognizing you "from the dead" :D )

By the way you told that the way you see AO has changed. May I ask "How?"
Think, it's free ;-)

rita_b
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Re: Hello

Post by rita_b » Wed May 31, 2017 6:21 pm

Hi Lookiwolf! Welcome back to the forum. We also just joined.

I have been having anal sex for most of my sexual history and I am not submissive at all. In fact, when my husband and I were still dating, he said one of his biggest turn-ons was that I would take the initiative and remove him from my pussy and work him into my ass. I didn't ask for permission; we were fucking and I was getting mine!!

Wanting anal is not inherently submissive at all. Asking for it - or initiating it - is assertive. I am a proud feminist (not that a woman can't be a feminist and a submissive), but anal is not me submitting to my husband's desires. It's me doing what feels good for me. Also my husband loves it and I love him and satisfying him, and blah blah blah. But there's nothing dominant/submissive happening here. We're just anal loving soulmates, hahah :lol:

bmasteri
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Re: Hello

Post by bmasteri » Wed May 31, 2017 9:45 pm

I think this submissive side in male/female related anal is strongly attached to bdsm lifestyle. That's where the subs will please all doms needs etc. I have to admit that there is a little dom in me BUT I also find it very interesting and exciting when women are strong and they know what they want, and are the initiative part regarding anal. Good for you Lookiwolf!

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Re: Hello

Post by Sgt_Valk » Wed May 31, 2017 11:35 pm

In D/s anal relationships, it is normally the dom that initiates it, but shouldnt if anal isnt at least an interest, and should be talked about first to agree on a very flexible plan of approach. But anal itself is very reciever controlled IMO. I am a dom and anal is just one of those things where i wont move faster than my sub is willing to go. She has most of the control and for good reason. I have been AO for 3 years and i still feel that even with my experience, there is nothing that puts me in full control of anal. There is a process to it. That is controlled by the reciever be they top or bottom. There are quite a few anal only dommes in the kink community. At that point thier subs would be considered service bottoms. In other words they would be doin anal in service to your needs. I am a fellow kinkster so I'm up to conversation :) DM me if you wanna know anything.

And of course, welcome back :D

P.s. What was your usrname previously?
The Sgt

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Lookiwolf
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Re: Hello

Post by Lookiwolf » Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:48 am

Thankyou all for your warm welcome. It's reassuring to hear level-headed thoughts and attitudes. Mainstream porn can really wear one down, and for a while it was the only frame of reference I had. I'm glad that's over.
Haunter wrote: By the way you told that the way you see AO has changed. May I ask "How?"

I'm much more casual about it now, in a way. I don't really mind if I go for a while without stretching, I don't look at it as a challenge, but as a thing I just enjoy every now and then. And I'm not that interested in trying to achieve anal-only orgasms anymore. For a while it was a fun challenge, but in time I realized I'm happier using my clit and that's the way I do things now.

I can't remember my old name, but I think I had very few posts. I'm sure they're around here somewhere though.

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Lookiwolf
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Re: Hello

Post by Lookiwolf » Sun Jul 09, 2017 11:49 am

Hey everyone! I wanted to let you know that I have a blog now, and if more people from this board have blogs, I'd love to follow them!

Mine is here: cherryblossomface.tumblr.com

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