New to anal nd AO concept

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GreenEyesGoddess
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New to anal nd AO concept

Post by GreenEyesGoddess » Tue Nov 14, 2017 3:11 pm

Hi,
I met someone unique, he’s into anal and he would love to have AO relationship. I have attempted anal in past and it was a complete fiasco. Would love to know from women point of view how AO suppose to be better then normal sex. Thanx

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by AnnoMundi » Tue Nov 14, 2017 3:41 pm

Not a woman, but I think it would help getting the right answers if you gave more information. You said you attempted anal in the past and that it was a fiasco. In what way was it a fiasco? Did you use enough lube and proper warming up and it still hurt? Or did he just go in straight away, porn style? The former could be a problem, the latter a clusterfuck that was inevitable. But which could have been avoided.

Anyway, welcome here!

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by GreenEyesGoddess » Wed Nov 15, 2017 4:20 am

Well my ex took time, didnt brutally entered, played with it for weeks before the attempt and nothing. Pain was horrible as I am very tight. Now I met this guy and I think I really like him and he was honest that apart from making a baby once we marry he’s not interested in conventional sex and want marriage based on AO approach. To be honest I don’t mind but I think anal prolly is not as pleasurable as vaginal intercourse and when I see him trying to oversell it to me I start doubting in his intentions and think that he’s an egoist. That’s why I have asked for a female point of view..

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by AnnoMundi » Thu Nov 16, 2017 4:16 pm

Well, again, I'm not a woman, and I hope some of the ladies here will chime in with their POV, but methinks if you're relatively new to anal your expectations will probably be a little different then most of us. Again, I'm not a woman, but I've been in to anal since discovering my first porn mag as a young teen and learning 'you can do that too?' That made me real curious and eager to experiment. And also determined to not give up when things went bad. And there were times where I did some stupid things. So I can imagine that when you're new to this, this curiosity and drive will be absent.

When it comes to these things you have to really want it yourself. You can try it for a while to see if its something you like. And I encourage you to give it an honest try. But ultimately if its not something that you enjoy yourself you can't go through life having anal sex with a guy just to please him. Anymore then I could go through life with a woman who does not want do anal. You can for a while, but it will not bring you any happiness.

As for the guy being selfish, I don't think so. Contrary to what the mass media and #metoo have drilled in our collective conscience, most men are decent human beings, who derive great satisfaction from making others happy. Making your woman happy makes us happy too. But like I said, if this guy is as much of an anal lover as I am, then life is too short to be in a relationship where its not on the menu. In which case the Holy Grail for us men is a woman who loves anal as much as we do.

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by MrsCanassman » Sat Nov 18, 2017 8:23 am

Hi GreenEyesGoddess
It’s unfortunate that your anal experiences have not gone well..
Here’s a female point of view. When I met Canassman, I was an anal virgin butt it didn't take him long to pop that cherry. It hurt the first few times because we were young and stupid and rushed into it without ample lube, butt we soon learned. He was amazing at helping me get comfortable with my rosebutt and anal stimulation - helping me get over the taboo of ass fucking and dealing with the poop issue. He would bathe me and incorporate ass play; join me in the shower and clean my fun bits and spend some extra time cleaning, playing with, and licking my ass hole; when worshiping my pussy he would also play with my ass and rosebutt; when we fucked he would fuck my pussy until I came then impale my ass because at this point I've gushed so much that entry was pretty easy and this usually made me cum again. I actually found that it took me longer to cum by pussy fucking alone than ass fucking. We bought various sizes of butt plugs and we just increased ass play and anal fucking. It didn't take us long to get into a pattern of start with fucking my pussy just to get revved up and get slicked up then slipping his cock into my rosebutt to rock us both into amazing orgasms. So... 20+ years of this and then, 3 years ago, he proposed anal only August and then no pussy November. During those months, we took the time to learn what feels good - for both of us. We had many discussions about how ass fucking made me feel because I love my pussy played with and I didn't want to just shut that little hole up to be forgotten. After all, me and that little gal have been best friends for a long time. Butt daaaamn....getting fucked in the ass feels soooo good! With much assurance that little Miss Pussy would not be neglected but would continue to be worshipped... he proposed..... ;-) that we go AO and I said YES of course!

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by GreenEyesGoddess » Tue Nov 21, 2017 9:28 am

Thank you, if I had a man like that that took time and had so much dedication I would be very happy. Xox

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by Canassman » Wed Nov 22, 2017 12:38 pm

As the man involved, let me say that my wife is also one in a million too! Worth every minute of time, energy & love.

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by LibertineReprobate » Sat Nov 25, 2017 1:16 pm

Try inserting a well-lubed finger into your anus slowly until it slips past the 2nd sphincter. Then, very gently “hook” the tip of that finger on that 2nd internal sphincter and every-so-gently wipe / loop around the ring of that sphincter muscle while gently-gently-gently pulling outward...

(imagine if you were trying to clean the inside neck of a soda bottle, for example. You’d stick a straight finger into then bottle past the threaded part where the bottlecap screws on, and then you’d hook the fingertip and wipe around the inside of the top of the bottle. Same concept here.)

What this does is simulate the sensations you have when you need to have a bowel movement. The feeling of slight pressure from the *inside* is the important part. Outward pressure there signals to the anal sphincters to open and let the object out of your rectum...and: surprise! Your ass opens right up like you’re a professional anal connoisseur.

Also what it does is teach you the counterintuitive secret to being anally penetrated: *push OUT* to accept something entering INTO your ass.

This is the pro-tip secret: when you press on an asshole from the outside, it subconsciously clenches to keep foreign objects out. When you press on the INSIDE of an asshole, it subconsciously opens to let bowel movements happen. As you train your anus with more practice, toys, masturbation, fingers, or anal sex, this “push out”-while-taking-a-cock/dildo/buttplug-in becomes second nature—you forget that you’re even doing it, and opening you asshole for anal penetration becomes as easy as applying lube.

People who really love anal and have trained to open their anal sphincters sometimes have conditioned themselves to bear down and push out the moment they feel the tip of a penis against their asshole. In this way, the penetrating partner barely even moves while the anal recipient opens up and the anal muscle comes outward slightly over the very tip of the penis head.

Confidence that you won’t actually push out any bowel movements onto your partner is also a HUGE component to relaxing and being penetrated. So if that’s something you fear might happen, go ahead and flush with a lower-bowel enema a few times to clean anything out that might be secretly hiding in there. That confidence and ability to relax is key to having an enjoyable experience, instead of the pain caused by clenching against a thrusting object.

Good luck, and let us know if you have any success or improvement! Or if you need more pointers. Always happy to help.

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Re: New to anal nd AO concept

Post by analsexonly » Wed Nov 29, 2017 11:01 am

GreenEyesGoddess wrote:Hi,
I met someone unique, he’s into anal and he would love to have AO relationship. I have attempted anal in past and it was a complete fiasco. Would love to know from women point of view how AO suppose to be better then normal sex. Thanx

Hi GreenEyesGoddess! Welcome to the forum, and good on you seeking out more information about the anal only lifestyle and considering pursuing it!

I'm not a woman, but I have a lot of experience with anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and would be glad to share my perspective.

Anal sex is one of those things that can be really amazing or really bad, depending on how it's done. If done when unprepared or with an unskilled partner, it can be incredibly painful and unfortunately those experiences often turn off people from trying it again and discovering how much better it can actually be than vaginal sex. Done correctly, it can be the most intensely pleasurable sensation of being filled, drive you crazy and make your empty pussy drip with arousal, and lead to some of the best orgasms possible.

Anal sex is not only more pleasurable, it's more intimate, and can be intensely sexy in a special way to be in a relationship where you're different from most other people and only have sex anally and orally.

I would suggest exploring some anal play on your own and with your partner and learning to discover and enjoy that part of your body at your own pace without any pressure right now to dive into anal intercourse—just learn to relax, open up, and discover the pleasures that await for now.

Good luck! I hope you'll discover how much fun it can be and decide to give the anal only lifestyle a serious try. Do feel free to ask any other questions you have or share any concerns! We'd be glad to answer.

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