I’m a middle aged woman living in a D/s relationship since many years. My husband is my Master and he’s in charge of most parts of my life - of which sex is one.
I found AOL on Tumblr a long time ago and immediately became interested in this lifestyle. My husband hasn’t been willing to give up my pussy though. Until a month ago, that is. Suddenly he declared that my pussy and clit was now off limits! Quite unexpected to me.
Since then we only have anal and oral sex. We both love it!
I’m here now to learn more about training my ass in all aspects. I’d like to stretch it in order to manage somewhat larger toys as well as increase my stamina so to speak. I’d like to be able to wear butplugs for a longer time (hours). I easily get sore. We have to be quite gentle all the time and I dream about being able to receive harder pounding once in a while.
My guess is that there are a few experts here
I’ll start by browsing old threads for tips...
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Congratulations on finally achieving your goal of anal only and welcome to the lifestyle! It sounds like it's going very well for the both of you!
How frequently are you having anal sex currently? If you're getting sore, the best thing is to generally establish a routine where you can do it without getting significantly sore and then over a period of several weeks, working up to doing it more and more frequently, and that gradual ramping up and warmup will tend to work well.
Additionally, wearing a plug between having sex or on days that you don't have sex also helps to more passively maintain your anal relaxation and comfort long term, which makes it easier to do it more frequently with less or no soreness and keep building your routine from there.
As for training in general, in addition to the above, anal masturbation with dildos can be quite effective. Start with a size at or slightly above what you're comfortable with and go up in approximately 1/4"/6mm diameter increments as you get comfortable with each one. With butt plugs, wearing it as long as it's comfortable and then trying to push that to a little longer at regular intervals can work well. It's also possible that the shape of a plug can contribute to it not being comfortable, so if you just can't make it work for you, try another with a more ergonomic design.
Im into anal since i can remember, i always had my anus involved in masturbating and started to shove in different things when i was a teen. I loved it and so i started to use different things like knobs of furnitures. Used vaseline to have it slippery to avoid getting sore and started long time wearing. Today im wearing ergonomic plugs as mentioned by analsexonly
Great to hear from someone else in Sweden!
My best advice for you is to buy an inflatable butt plug.
It is easy to insert when deflated.
Then you can pump it up while masturbating with a vibrator, preferably with a Magic Wand.
When you come, your pelvic muscles will push the plug outwards, dilating your anus without any discomfort, only pleasure...
After a while, you can do it all...