Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

New to the forum? Introduce yourself to the other members of the community. Share a little bit about yourself and your anal only experience and motivations.
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OnClaude9
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Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

Post by OnClaude9 » Sat Jan 16, 2021 7:51 pm

I’m a newbie to active participation in this community, but my wife and I are not new to anal. A little bit about us:
We’ve been happily married for many years, and have enjoyed a robust and varied sex life for pretty much all of it. We consider ourselves blessed in this regard; over the years, we’ve learned to trust and communicate with each other some of our deepest fantasies, fears, insecurities, and desires. Our bedroom is a safe space and we feel like we’ve plumbed the depths (pun intended!) of our shared sexuality. There’s always more to explore, though! 😉

Anal has been part of our repertoire from the beginning. But for most of our lives together, it was a spicy treat, not the main entrée. Pussy sex was our bread and butter, and anal was a fun occasional alternative – an indulgence, as it were. It’s been many years since we learned how to ‘do it right,’ without pain or mess or shame. I’d say we are equally big fans of butt sex. When one of us wants it, it’s rare that the other isn’t happy to oblige.

So, here’s the interesting thing: we have wanted it. More and more. Over roughly the past year, we’ve found ourselves asking each other to go anal in more and more of our sexual encounters. And I’m not taking about ‘a little in the butt, then business as usual, in the pussy.’ No. Increasingly, we’ve been wanting our romps to be anal only – with the usual oral warm-ups. The more we’ve shifted to a steady diet of anal, it seems, the hungrier for it we have gotten. And yes, I use the first-person-plural here because we’ve talked about it (oh, have we!) and it’s very mutual. And that is a mutual turn-on in itself!

We’ve wondered why this is (we’ve even considered that maybe being more house-bound due to covid has something to do with it!), but neither of us is quite sure. And neither of us is really all that concerned about why. It’s much more about when, and where… and how much!

We stumbled across anal only lifestyle quite by accident. We happened to be web surfing for good and hot anal porn (together) to see where that might lead us, what we might pick up by watching pros, and whether our own backdoor coupling would be further enhanced by viewing it together. (This has, hit-or-miss, been the case for the role of porn in our sex life prior to our… preoccupation… with anal.)

Anyway, I guess we were trying different search terms and somehow that lead us to this website! I’d like to be able to say we were searching for porn that was ‘anal only,’ but I actually don’t really recall. In any case, we were sorta dumbfounded to find this site, this community, this fount of solid info on anal and a legit, supportive, real-people community vibe. So, over the course of months, we’ve read through the Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle. Wisely, we took it a little at a time – reading together, out loud: sort of a XXX bedtime story. It was a wonderful way to cap a late-night session of vigorous butt-fucking, on many an occasion. You can tell, I fondly reminisce – even though it hasn’t been long since we did this. We found it wonderful and informative and, well… it just keeps getting better with anal, between us. We are continuing to surf the blogs and share threads that we find hot or intriguing or interesting. We are grateful. And happy.

So… why join up now? Well, we are contemplating moving the needle further toward the ass-end of the spectrum, further from the front-end, so to speak. No, we’re not ready to take the ‘anal-only plunge’ <insert bad pun here>, and we may never be. Not having pussy sex as an option hasn’t seemed like, ummm… a compelling value proposition, you might say – at least to date. But we want me to be in her ass, more and more of the time that my cock rams home inside her body. It’s just…steamy, and dreamy, and lovely. Like I said, we do count our blessings.

Along with that trend, we’ve realized that there are certain anally-related sexual activities that we might be ready to explore, other than penis-in-rectum penetration. And seeking information about those activities is the specific thing that motivated me to sign up and sign in. (No, this is not scat-related!)

And here I (we) am (are). I look forward to engaging with the cool folks that seem to take this lifestyle and this forum truly to heart. I will post more about those specific activities soon. Meanwhile, this is getting way too long and so I’ll leave it at that, for now. Thanks for being here; my wife and I have already benefited a lot from this website’s existence. Now, on to the next level…! :)

-Claude

Ace of Fours
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Re: Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

Post by Ace of Fours » Sun Jan 17, 2021 9:15 am

Very interesting read and you spund like a very well matched couple.
I have had a somewhat similar journey with my wife the last two years and we have ended up not "anal only" but "anal always"..... which for us is the best of both worlds :-)
Enjoy your journey!

OnClaude9
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Re: Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

Post by OnClaude9 » Sun Jan 17, 2021 11:54 am

Thanks. I’d say we’re well matched now but it took years to get to that place. We both had some growing to do, personally, before we were able to share deeply without shame or fear of rejection. It hasn’t always been easy, and there were dry spells for the usual reasons - kids, jobs, sometimes boredom, taking each other for granted, sometimes anger making either of us sullen.

I’ve always felt that the true tenor of an intimate relationship is revealed in the sex. Sometimes, I can feel like it’s almost a roadmap to the underlying feelings or energy between us. This recent thing with wanting anal all the time seems to me to be a reflection of us being in a very good place with ourselves and each other. Don’t get me wrong - that’s not to say that each day is paradise. We get mad, get hurt, get frustrated with each other, get distant, get distracted by a zillion things. But our lovemaking, whether slow and tender or a hard fuck session, has for some years been a portal back to being present with each other. The anal thing just amps that up, because it takes sensitivity and trust and communication and presence to do it how we want it to be. When that’s happening, I feel free to ‘get as nasty as I wanna be’ without being worried about how, or where, she’ll be in response. It’s a dance, ya know!

I’d be interested to hear more about your own journey. I wouldn’t be surprised if we end up where you are: not anal only but anal always. What was your path to the place you are now, and how was it along the way? And are there any new sexual frontiers that you and your wife see up ahead? There are a couple that we see and want to explore, and I will write more about them, soon.

Ace of Fours
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Re: Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

Post by Ace of Fours » Sun Jan 17, 2021 3:46 pm

Your additional background sounds very much like our path.
I wrote a long thread on our maturing sex life here:

viewtopic.php?f=6&t=18859

As I say, quite a lot of points in common!

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Re: Hi! I’m Claude and I’m new here

Post by amaizeg » Sun Jan 17, 2021 4:47 pm

This sounds a lot like the experiences I have also made, that mutual hunger for more anal as things develop until it becomes the only thing you end up doing.

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