I'm sadly not AO (yet), but would love to be. Anal has been a slow progression for me during the course of me and my husband's relationship. I didn't even want to try when we first got together, then one night he slid a little too close to the 'wrong hole' and apologized. I realized I was actually sort of interested, and told him I wouldn't have minded if he did end up in the back door. So we tried and I liked it enough to say yes the next time he asked. Then it just went from something I was ok with here and there to something I actually loved and craved.
His interest in it has grown much slower than mine, so now I play a lot with plugs and vibrators. I have a hard time coming with a partner, so most of the time I get off it's by myself. I always use an anal toy, but have never been able to come without clit stimulation.
Honestly, I didn't think anal orgasms were real. Anal feels soooooo good, and turns me on so much, but it's never even gotten close to getting me off until today.
I have a thick necked plug that I put in as a motivator when I need to get things done. The thickness of the plug is a huge turn on, but I don't let myself come until after I've finished whatever my task is. I work from home a lot, and use it often to meet deadlines and such. I usually sit on a rolled up towel or something that will put some pressure on the base of the plug to make it even better. I had it in today and was just kind of lazily rocking back and forth while I was working and I realized that I actually had that building-up-to-coming feeling. So I rocked a little harder and a little faster and... Wow. Anal orgasms are amazing
It was truly the best orgasm of my life. I could feel it through my whole body, and it's totally true that the arousal doesn't fade at all. I probably could have kept riding that plug for hours if I had the time today. Next time I get the opportunity, I'll keep going and see how many anal orgasms I can have in a row.
How nice to know that you managed to find that wonderful experience for yourself. I hope you will soon be able to share it with your husband. Maybe let him know either through non-verbal clues or by telling him how you want to do it so you can reach an anal orgasm with him. I am sure he will enjoy that too. Seeing and feeling a woman come purely from anal is an amazing moment also from the partner's perspective.
I think you simply need to tell your husband how much you do anal masturbation and how you love it. He might simply be slower so help him to get where you are.