New and curious: Ask_B

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Ask_B
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New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Ask_B » Fri May 05, 2023 12:01 am

Hi

I have been looking for a community where I can share and perhaps be accepted with my way of approaching sex. Maybe I have found it here?

I am a Norwegian heterosexual male in a sexless marriage. Still, I have a fairly large sex drive, so I have used porn and satisfied myself that way for a long time. Anal has been a part of it, and I have practiced it as a part of my personal satisfaction.

I am not sure if I am ready for anal only, but I am curious about it. I have never "gotten off" by anal alone, but still I have had solo sessions were anal exploration has been the only activity.

I would define what I do as solo anal play, and I hope that is a good start for the forum and being a friend of the lifestyle, even if I may never get to the "only" part myself. I am new to the forum, and will approach it with care to get the feel for both written and unwritten rules.

Backdoorlover
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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Backdoorlover » Fri May 05, 2023 12:14 am

Can I ask why your marriage is sexless ?
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“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Ask_B » Fri May 05, 2023 12:28 am

Backdoorlover wrote:
Fri May 05, 2023 12:14 am
Can I ask why your marriage is sexless ?

We are not quite young any more (married for over 20 years), and my wife simply does not get turned on for sex any more. I am loyal and faithful by nature, and I like her as a person, friend and partner. As long as she is faithful (and I have no reason to suspect otherwise), I will stay with her.

It is my choice to stay, and it is my choice to love myself by venturing in solo anal play.

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Backdoorlover » Fri May 05, 2023 1:14 am

No judgement here. I was just curious cause many times asexuality is the cause.

Love is more then sex alone and it’s good you found your own way to enjoy sex. Better then what I’ve been through with my ex wife. Sex was okay but she was mainly thinking about her lover while I fucked her 😂
Backdoorlover’s quote:

“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Ask_B » Fri May 05, 2023 1:21 am

Backdoorlover wrote:
Fri May 05, 2023 1:14 am
No judgement here. I was just curious cause many times asexuality is the cause.

Love is more then sex alone and it’s good you found your own way to enjoy sex. Better then what I’ve been through with my ex wife. Sex was okay but she was mainly thinking about her lover while I fucked her 😂

Thank you for the acceptance and for sharing. What makes humans great is our capability to adapt and find solutions. :)

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Colt1911 » Fri May 05, 2023 8:42 am

Would your wife be willing to find ways to improve her libido? My wife started taking hormone therapy more than five years ago and it was incredible how much it improved her libido.

Birth control meds also kill libido. Just looking for ways you can enjoy sex with your lifetime partner. If she loves you, she should at least consider addressing her loss of libido.

This is a private matter between you and your wife but I thought I’d offer something that worked very well for us. My wife is so glad she did because it led to anal sex and the incredible anal orgasms she craves. Welcome to the forum.

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Ask_B » Sat May 06, 2023 9:18 pm

@Colt1911 Thank you for your advice. She herself do not miss her libido. That is a problem, and we have had it ever since our children were small. The topic has been exhausted for our part, I think.

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by semi-normal » Fri May 12, 2023 11:34 am

Mr. Ask_B,
There is ONE (1) main reason men get married. If she is not fulfilling her obligation she is breaking her marital vows. You say you "like her as a person, friend and partner" but you can have that with your male friends. She gets all the benefits of a marriage but you don't? You have a roommate, not a wife.

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Re: New and curious: Ask_B

Post by Backdoorlover » Fri May 12, 2023 1:15 pm

@semi-normal says it very frankly, but it’s a fact that sexless marriages only work if both are not sexually active. You are and I think in time this will not keep working for you @Ask_B
Backdoorlover’s quote:

“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

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