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discreetly007
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Hello everyone

Post by discreetly007 » Mon May 08, 2023 6:41 am

Good day everyone. I am from Denver, CO and I really and truly love anal. I have been married for 8 years now and I have only had anal once with my wife only almost 2 years into our marriage. She said that I am too big and swore to never try it again, i'm only 7inches btw. I have had anal with 3 other women in my life. One time with 2 of them and countless times with the other. I have always liked anal and wanted to experience a lot of it in any relationship, but my ex was the best every since we did it so much times. I really like her butt and now, I keep regretting leaving her. I watch a lot of anal porn, a lot. This is my outlet to compensate for the last of, well, sex in general and also since I like anal so much. My wife would not let me go anywhere near her butt. I come to forums like there just to live curously through others and the stories that I read, I always think, man, how the fuck are some guys so lucky to have a woman that loves anal. Where were these woman before I got married? Well, I will keep reading and hoping.

Colt1911
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by Colt1911 » Mon May 08, 2023 8:13 am

Welcome. We live in northern Colorado. Patience paid off for me. We’ve been married for 41 years and together for 43. At age 58 my wife started hormone replacement therapy. I always incorporated anal play in our sex life and she enjoyed it. She swore my cock would NEVER penetrate her ass after numerous attempts. The hormone therapy boosted her libido incredibly. The anal play really turned her on to the point I could fully penetrate her ass. She experienced an anal orgasm within minutes.

Also, birth control meds can kill libido. We think that impacted her libido before she reached menopause and the hormone therapy returned her libido to where it should have been when she was much younger. I also learned to really pleasure her ass. With the exception of a handful of times, we’ve been anal only for 5 years. The handful of times she wanted vaginal penetration it was really just to affirm she prefers anal.

I hope my story gives you encouragement that things can and do change. Maybe it was different for us because she experienced orgasm only a handful of times during decades of vaginal penetration. On the other hand, her clitoral orgasms I’d give her orally or with my fingers were always more intense when my finger or small toy were in her ass. I’m strongly suggesting you don’t give up.

semi-normal
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by semi-normal » Mon May 08, 2023 8:20 pm

I agree with Colt1911, please do not give up. Please see this study from last year:

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Start off slow and be very patient and play with her ass. Not only patient with every love making session, but long term patience, progressing little by little. Who knows how long it will take but you will never know until you try.

discreetly007
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by discreetly007 » Wed May 10, 2023 6:47 pm

Thank you for the advice Colt1911. But I do not think that I can wait that long for her to come around. That's years of my life being deprive that I will not get back at all and she may still not come around. I have suggested therapy as well as HRT treatment. But it is gettign frustrated. We just have aex just for her to apease me at this point. For example. We had sex twice in 1 month last weekend. And it is because I took her to vegas, but it was still the same lack lunter performance that I mentioned. All I do is just sit in the bathroom ans jack off to AO porn. I am not addicted, just really deprived.

Thank you as well Semi-normal. I have some good techniques. But it's really just her. Everyone is not the same, but I used really good techniques on my ex and she loved it. I really enjoyed stuffing her ass with dick and cum. But that's in the past sadly.

Colt1911
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by Colt1911 » Wed May 10, 2023 8:02 pm

@discreetly007 sorry to hear. I would push for therapy. If she truly loves you she should participate in therapy. I suppose you’ll have to be honest and tell the therapist about your strong desire for anal. All I can say is I never thought we’d enjoy an anal only relationship and then everything changed. I hope things work out for you. It’s important.

Backdoorlover
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by Backdoorlover » Wed May 10, 2023 9:13 pm

I firmly believe now, through anal experience with 3 women, that a woman who doesn’t like anal will never start liking it more.

Or, for that matter, a woman who likes the idea of anal, but keeps feeling pain, will never suddenly scream out in joy while you assfuck her. She might adapt, that’s all.

For women anal sex is a hit or miss situation. My girlfriend loved it from the first time a finger went into her asshole. Her friends all tell her they don’t understand how she can even like it. For many women anal gives great discomfort at least.

What I want to say is: if she even doesn’t do normal sex while you’re only two years into the marriage, she will never do anal again. For sure.
Backdoorlover’s quote:

“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

discreetly007
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by discreetly007 » Wed May 10, 2023 9:59 pm

Thank you for the response Backdoorlover. I thought the same thing. My reasoning for that was, her mother has the same history of not being sexually active as well, her husband cheated on her numerous times because of this and was blamed for it 100% so I picked up on the same pattern of my wife being the same, except, I have not cheated and don't intend to. Although cheating is broken trust for someone, I do not fault the mothers husband 100%, and please don't think that I agree with someone cheat, but, I just understand the reasoning to an extent. But no matter much times I asked her to seek therapy, she never budged and lost interest in that topic. You are also right on the part when you said that even if she gets remotely interested in the actual act of sex, she will not be interested in anal, which devistates me more. Thank you again for you input.

Backdoorlover
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Re: Hello everyone

Post by Backdoorlover » Thu May 11, 2023 4:22 am

And the next question that comes to mind: does she make your life better ?

I stayed for 25 years with a woman who was so self involved that I often felt like I was the only one pulling the weight. And after many years I discovered that my feelings were right. So I was angry ar myself for sticking with her, dispite her egocentric way of thinking.

So I tell you this from the heart: give yourself time to think this over, but if she isn’t giving you true joy, walk away. Life is too short to spend it with people who don’t even want you there. There is a woman there (maybe more) that will treat you as you desire.
Backdoorlover’s quote:

“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

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