We've been together ten years now, married for 5. Our relationship was rocky for a while. Off and on, typical dumb kid stuff, but somehow even when we weren't together we'd maintain an intense sexual relationship.
Sadly, life has a way of making other plans, and over the past few years we fell into a real boring routine. Too much work, not enough time together, not enough passion...
Oh, and we had our first kid! So that complicated things.
At any rate, its been a struggle for me over the past several months specifically. She'd managed to convinced herself that 5 or 6 years years of 90% Anal and a solid 18 months of AO was something she'd only done out of low self-esteem...
So, about a month ago I told her we needed to have a serious talk. It wasn't just about anal... it was the way the natural dynamic of our relationship had devolved. I'd stopped being a good, dominant, exciting husband... and she'd started trying to fill the void... and we needed to change it.
Man, I wish I'd brought it up earlier! We're not exactly back at the full-on intensity of a few years ago, but we're getting there. A little wiser, a little smarter... and maybe a little bit more realistic about what we both crave.
So, anyway, thats the short and clean version, lol. I'm looking forward to taking part here. I've lurked off and on for a while. This is definitely my sort of place.
I'm also exploring my new sense of being a dominant/sadist and trying to learn the ropes there too... Not sure if thats really a good fit here or not, but I imagine theres a lot of guys going through the same evolution.
Thanks!
-B
