Anal Only Lifestyle Forum

Hi guys,

So I just found this site and although I don't consider myself "anal only" I thought it would be a good place for advice since I've seen other women post. My name is Brenda and I have done anal. I do enjoy it. I honestly prefer anal sex to vaginal but I still need some vaginal stimulation to orgasm and do love when guys go down on me. I've only been doing it for about a year. I have several thoughts about why I enjoy it but I guess I can save those for later.

I guess the questions I have regarding anal only is that it seems impractical. I do get sore back there if I do it too much. I am not sure if that is a common problem or not. Hygiene is also an issue. Also I am not a fan of letting men cum in my ass. We've tried condoms but that seems to take away some of the fun of anal. I generally have no problem swallowing but ass to mouth seems sketchy. Also, some of the posts here seem to veer toward the "alpha male" type which is a put off. I don't consider myself sub.

Anal is not exactly something I can talk to with friends so I thought here would be a good place to discuss my feelings openly and hopefully get some quality feedback as I explore it more myself.

Anyways, thanks and I hope to hear from some of you.

Welcome!

BBells wrote:I guess the questions I have regarding anal only is that it seems impractical. I do get sore back there if I do it too much. I am not sure if that is a common problem or not.

This is not uncommon, but it is something that many people seem to be able to get past with practice. I'm sure everyone can still overdo it, but they can increase the limit of what they can do without getting sore over time. Large amounts of vaginal sex can make people sore for a day or two after, too, of course.

BBells wrote:Hygiene is also an issue.

With a healthy, high fiber diet, many people are able to have regular anal with minimal hygienic issues without resorting to enemas. It can be hard to get over the idea of it for some, and there may be occasional accidents if you frequently have anal sex, but it seems to be pretty uncommon.

BBells wrote:Also I am not a fan of letting men cum in my ass. We've tried condoms but that seems to take away some of the fun of anal. I generally have no problem swallowing but ass to mouth seems sketchy.

It's understandable if someone is unwilling to try ass to mouth, and that's always going to be a very personal choice. There are men who find it appealing, and some women who find the idea to be a bit of a turn on as well—though I'm not sure how much if that is the act itself and how much is getting turned on by pleasing their partner. When cleaned out thoroughly with an enema beforehand, it's not too big a deal, but it's very understandable why someone would be hesitant otherwise.

There are plenty of other places to cum, however. Out of curiosity, what aspects of having someone cum in your ass do you dislike?

BBells wrote:Also, some of the posts here seem to veer toward the "alpha male" type which is a put off. I don't consider myself sub.

We have a lot of different members who approach the idea of anal only from different perspectives, ranging from dominant/submissive relationships to couples in loving relationships who simply see it as a way to be even more intimate and simply prefer how anal feels. All are valid (as long as they're consensual) and welcome, even though not everyone may find everything appealing.

I guess the questions I have regarding anal only is that it seems impractical. I do get sore back there if I do it too much. I am not sure if that is a common problem or not. Hygiene is also an issue. Also I am not a fan of letting men cum in my ass.

For hygiene, I recommend purchasing a toilet bidet or a washlet. They make hygiene a lot easier and a lot more simple. With a bidet or washlet you can wash the cum right out of your ass, hands free, while sitting atop the toilet after a sodomy session.

As for soreness, I understand it gets easier and becomes less of a problem to not a problem at all as your anus is increasingly conditioned for anal intercourse.

I generally have no problem swallowing but ass to mouth seems sketchy

I agree.

My name is Brenda and I have done anal. I do enjoy it. I honestly prefer anal sex to vaginal but I still need some vaginal stimulation to orgasm and do love when guys go down on me. I've only been doing it for about a year. I have several thoughts about why I enjoy it but I guess I can save those for later.

You seem like an average woman. That said, I welcome you to the fold of both anal lovers and as a member of analonlylifestyle.com. I agree with you; while a lady's anus is a wonderful thing to enjoy, a pussy is a terrible thing to waste....

Thanks for the replies guys. I guess the soreness will go away with more experience. I just really wanted to e sure it wasn't something bad.

As for hygiene, I was referring more to the fact that you need to prep for it. Or at least I do. It's not something that is really spontaneous. I tend to be careful and Have avoided any major incidents but still. I'm still in school. Buying a bidet is not exactly in the cards lol.

I do enjoy "pleasing" it's just that I can't get over the idea of ass to mouth. Like, is it bad for you? Does it taste bad? I'm not unwilling just skeptical I guess?

Like I said I've only been doing anal for about a year and it's not an everyday thing so maybe with time it will get better. Plus there is still some negative stigma to it. At least among my friends.

Regarding the soreness: if it's a similar sort of soreness as after a workout and only lasts two or three days after having a lot of anal sex, that's perfectly normal, and does fade over time. If it's more of a sharper, stinging pain and lasts longer, it's probably more of a small tear rather than muscle soreness, and while not entirely uncommon or dangerous, it may mean you either need to use more lube or spend more time warming up beforehand.

No it's more a soreness like its been through something not really pain. And it fades after a day or so. Again it's only if I do it a lot that week and I try to be generous with lube. I don't want to injure myself and so far (thankfully) I think I have been good.

I usually use a small plug I have to warm up and relax myself if I have a date or something.

You can get a toilet bidet for under $30 on ebay or amazon which will install on almost any toilet. On the same sites you can get a portable bidet starting at $10 which you can use anywhere. With a toilet bidet you can irrigate to clean both off and out before and after sodomy in just a few moments while sitting atop the toilet. Even as a student a bidet is within your reach. You'll wonder how you lived without one, both sexually and otherwise, once you use one...

Hi - good to see other women here!

About ass to mouth, I've done it a few times, but only when I was EXTREMELY clean (like a couple of enemas clean) because my BF at the time asked for it. The only thing I could taste or smell was the lube (flavored) and it made him really happy. It's not something, personally, that I would do unless I was really REALLY sure I was as clean as I could be. Basically, for me, it's not something I'd do willy-nilly.

katie wrote:Hi - good to see other women here!

About ass to mouth, I've done it a few times, but only when I was EXTREMELY clean (like a couple of enemas clean) because my BF at the time asked for it. The only thing I could taste or smell was the lube (flavored) and it made him really happy. It's not something, personally, that I would do unless I was really REALLY sure I was as clean as I could be. Basically, for me, it's not something I'd do willy-nilly.

Thanks a lot. Yeah I get what you mean. I can understand the appeal and why he would want it but it's just... That was in my butt. I guess my bigger issue is clean up. I hate when guys cum on me and when he cums in me it doesn't all come out at once. Swallowing is so much easier but with anal it becomes a big thing.

Hello, BBells, and welcome! There's not much that I can add that hasn't already been said, but I do want to just say just a few things. You will find that people in this group approach anal sex from many different angles. My wife and I approach it as a mutual preference, yet we are still free to do anything we choose at any given time, sexually. The term "AO" is really a non-issue with us, even though 99.9 percent of the time we go straight for anal. If vaginal sex is involved, it is usually as foreplay, but not the main event. This is something that evolved over time with us. Oral sex is wonderful, and we're both always up for that. Personally, I don't really understand the whole preparation idea that so many people feel is so important. My wife and I have never used enemas or any other cleansing agents, and anal sex is often very spontaneous with us. I suppose that I can understand the need for preparation in less committed relationships, but in long term, committed relationships, the fear of and experience of encountering a little "poop" on occasion just doesn't matter. If it happens, it happens, but in my experience it's nothing to freak out over. As far as ass to mouth is concerned, I have always loved the idea of reckless, passionate, blind abandonment when making love, but in reality I would never ask for that and would never expect that from my partner. However, to each his own, and I have no problem with anything that couples mutually agree upon and enjoy together, even if those ideas are far from anything I can personally relate to.

Sort of unrelated, but in the realm of hygiene, I have always found the smell of woman's anus to be very arousing, within reason. Although freshly showered encounters are good and certainly welcomed, I also really enjoy the "natural" smells of woman, sometimes much more than the smell of soap. Again, within reason.