Greetings from Lily

[LilySS_122]

I am female, mid-40s, married but in a sexless marriage (despite it, I love my husband with no intention of leaving). All my sexual life, I've craved anal sex though I admit to not having a great deal of experience. On my horniest days, I wish for an anal-only lover who could satisfy my desires while not jeopardizing my life (which is otherwise very happy). I love anal porn. It's the only type I get turned on by. In fact, a good "scene" can make me cum, hands free! I'm going to enjoy the forum and discussions (if you'll have me) and live vicariously through all you lucky folks "living the dream". - Lily

[Mmmmm]

Welcome to the site and of course we are happy for you to be here.
Hope you the help you are looking for

[amorous945]

Welcome, Lily! Does your husband know about your desire for anal, and has he ever obliqued you anally? I guess age really doesn't have any bearing on it, as life is full of many twists, turns and variables, but you just seem awfully young to be in a sexless marriage. Is this something that can be corrected and, if not, is there any possibility that your husband would consider an open marriage, just for this one thing? I realize that this may be totally out of the question, but it is something to consider, anyway.

[LilySS_122]

Our marriage is sexless because of a medical condition and while I'm sad that things have taken this turn, my union is otherwise very loving and happy.

I'm not sure what his opinion would be of an open marriage. I've always assumed that something discrete and careful would be doable.. if not flaunted. Then again, I've never been remotely close to that possibility so I'm not sure. The idea of meeting the right person, who shares my preferences for AO along with everything else that must fall in place is pretty unlikely. For the time being, I find a lot of exciting gifs on Tumblr and I keep myself well-satisfied (or at least as best I can)

Thanks so much for the welcome. I'm enjoying myself here so far and expect I'll continue to do so.

[Dreamer]

Welcome!
I'm new as well and we seem to be in a kind of similar situation...
Maybe we will find solutions here!

[amorous945]

Lily, you are living that union between two people that far exceeds the physical aspect. I applaud that. I also understand the "seeming" contradiction of loving someone so fully and not wanting to change that dynamic for any reason, and also having certain needs that go unfulfilled causing personal frustration and "almost" constant yearning and longing. I hope that you can find the balance in your life, and a solution but, until then, keep talking and sharing. You aren't alone.

[TheHeart]

Hi Lily,
Sorry to hear about your sexual situation, glad to se you are here. I think all of the participants of analonlylifestyle.com emphasise with you
I'm curious if you´r drawn to anal sex because of the depravation of sex in you and your husbands marriage, or if it´s something, some urge or just your sexuality that has always been there?

[LilySS_122]

I've always been interested in anal sex. I also have a light BDSM bend (nothing extreme). I've had the opportunity to enjoy anal sex a few times and was always very orgasmic. I've only recently become interested in porn and I find that anal porn is the hottest and most likely to get me off. I don't know that I could ever "take it" the way it's show in those movies.. but I'd sure like to! I always thought there was something very wrong with me wanting what I do. It's been a revelation how prevalent anal sex is in porn - makes me think I'm far from alone. (being here helps that too).

[Alphatype]

You should really have an honest, well thought out and frank discussion about your needs with your hubby.

You never know, with his issues he may be open to seeing you pleasured, it's far more common than you think and for you to be under nourished sexually, might be something he is disappointed with, but afraid to bring up.

Take it slow with discussions, add a bit, then a bit more, because if you don't it will eat away at you and he will sense something is wrong.

I know a couple where it started our with the wife having to keep eye contact with the hubby, while she's fucked. He was so conflicted he liked her being "shared" at first, but now she has 2 regular guys who please her.

It took years to get to that place and it took finding out what he wanted from it, which is too complicated for here.

But write down your thoughts everyday, on your phone/tablet/computer and work up to having the discussion.

Your sex life could be amazing.... For both of you xx

[Alphatype]

Fuck!!!

Didn't mean to put the xx.... Schoolboy error!

Good luck.