Male London 40
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Backdoorbart
- Posts: 1
- Joined: Sun Nov 15, 2015 11:26 pm
- Gender: Male
- Location: London
Male London 40
Hi People. Nice to feel like I'm not a complete outcast. I've always struggled having an overwhelming preference for anal sex. Subsequently finding an AO partner was more difficult than finding someone who I am compatible on all other levels. I have met some really amazing women but my anal cravings have always caused an early end to the relationship. I have only had 1 brief relationship which was AO and it ended because we were not compatible in other important ways. I was always sure I was not alone in this predicament and see from this site that my suspicions were right. Looking forward to joining in the discussions and let me take the opportunity to congratulate all you lucky people who have found the AO life of your dreams.
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amorous945
- Posts: 151
- Joined: Tue Dec 24, 2013 8:56 pm
- Gender: Male
Re: Male London 40
Hello, Backdoorbart, and welcome! Your frustrations aren't unique, however, I think that too many people who are seeking an AO relationship are going about it the wrong way. Setting out to find an AO partner "right out of the gate" is highly improbable. I think you'll find that "most" "of the people here who are in AO relationships evolved into that after many years of an otherwise happy, compatible relationship. The best advice I can give you is to find someone you are compatible with and really enjoy spending time with. There are early, tell-tell signs or indicators of whether or not someone is a good candidate for it or not:
1. Love is the most important aspect. In my opinion, when two people love one another they are willing to make realistic concessions and compromises. Anything, within reason, is possible between two people who love one another.
2. A partner who enjoys sex, generally. A partner who isn't very sexual, has sexual hangups, is out of touch with their own body, has a false sense of natural vs. unnatural, considers certain parts of their body nasty and to be avoided, or brainwashed by religious or other rigid belief systems is probably not going to be a good candidate for even occasional anal sex.
My wife and I have been married for over thirty years. It wasn't until about 15 to 17 years into our marriage that anal begin to take a predominant place in our sexual repertoire, In my opinion, if you'll put more attention on finding someone you can at least work towards having just occasional anal sex with (and enjoy other levels of the person/relationship as well), you'll be much better off than trying to find an AO partner.
1. Love is the most important aspect. In my opinion, when two people love one another they are willing to make realistic concessions and compromises. Anything, within reason, is possible between two people who love one another.
2. A partner who enjoys sex, generally. A partner who isn't very sexual, has sexual hangups, is out of touch with their own body, has a false sense of natural vs. unnatural, considers certain parts of their body nasty and to be avoided, or brainwashed by religious or other rigid belief systems is probably not going to be a good candidate for even occasional anal sex.
My wife and I have been married for over thirty years. It wasn't until about 15 to 17 years into our marriage that anal begin to take a predominant place in our sexual repertoire, In my opinion, if you'll put more attention on finding someone you can at least work towards having just occasional anal sex with (and enjoy other levels of the person/relationship as well), you'll be much better off than trying to find an AO partner.
