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no clit stimulation

Post by Canassman » Mon Nov 25, 2019 8:58 am

Hello, my wife, Mrs. Canassman, and I have been Anal Only for several years now, but she and I have decided to see how a period of time without clit stimulation goes. Lately we've realized that she can squirt and that's been a fun addition to our sex life. Normally she can have several small squirting orgasms in succession. However, with clit play she can just have one BIG orgasm and then she's done. This period of time is to see if it alters her orgasms in any particular way, in addition she prefers to be a submissive in the bedroom and this allows her to play this fantasy out as well. For our purposes she won't be touching her clit or stimulating it in any way at all. Nor can I stimulate her clit to orgasm either. In her submissive role she has declared that I can do anything else to her.

I'm also looking for some advice though - I love eating her pussy and I don't get enough time for it as far as either of us are concerned. I'm thinking that I can eat her pussy still as long as I don't bring her to orgasm. In fact it could be a lot like edging her pussy - getting her soaking wet and aroused but then taking her ass. On some sessions I'm thinking of eating her pussy but also not touching her clit at all. I feel I'm following the letter of the law in this regard, but wondering if others feel this is ok or is it not fully taking on the no clit challenge? thoughts?

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by analogue » Tue Nov 26, 2019 12:48 pm

Hmm, i am not a big fan of this clit/orgasm denial thing. But I'm curious, to be honest.
Amongst other things we switched to anal only to achieve more and bigger orgasms. And my wife is going for that big ones mostly, helping herself with clit stimulation. Best in doggy position, very long and strong orgasms with full body shaking. Absolutely fantastic!
But we also have gentle sessions where she is super relaxed, only deep penetration , no clit rubbing. There we can hold a high level of arousal over a longer time. Can't say if it's an orgasm or not, but it's beautiful and she loves it.
Maybe we should work little bit more on this method to explore the clit free anal orgasm.

But pussy eating without clit sucking? No way ...
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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by analsexonly » Tue Nov 26, 2019 12:51 pm

Sounds like a wonderful challenge for the two of you, and a great way to unlock greater anal pleasure potential without the distraction of clit stimulation. How long of a challenge are you going for?

As for eating pussy, I guess that's just up to personal preference. Some people consider clit stimulation for edging to be okay but that the orgasms themselves should only be anal, while others avoid any clit or vaginal stimulation entirely. I tend to lean towards the latter, because I enjoy the purity of anal pleasure and orgasms, and I think by completely excluding any stimulation of the pussy for some time it can really unlock the subtleties of anal pleasure on its own. But everyone is different, and I'm sure there can be various advantages and disadvantages to different approaches.

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by analsexonly » Tue Nov 26, 2019 12:57 pm

analogue wrote:
Tue Nov 26, 2019 12:48 pm
Hmm, i am not a big fan of this clit/orgasm denial thing. But I'm curious, to be honest.
Amongst other things we switched to anal only to achieve more and bigger orgasms. And my wife is going for that big ones mostly, helping herself with clit stimulation. Best in doggy position, very long and strong orgasms with full body shaking. Absolutely fantastic!
But we also have gentle sessions where she is super relaxed, only deep penetration , no clit rubbing. There we can hold a high level of arousal over a longer time. Can't say if it's an orgasm or not, but it's beautiful and she loves it.
Maybe we should work little bit more on this method to discover the clit free anal orgasm.

But pussy eating without clit sucking? No way ...

Denial is often misunderstood. In general, it's not about any sort of punishment or true denial of pleasure from someone, though there can be an element of that for the short term in some D/s relationships. Rather, it's about excluding something in order to achieve a more desirable effect or state as a result of other things. Just as we in the anal only lifestyle exclude vaginal penetration because anal and being anal only can provide more intense and intimate pleasure, some find that excluding clitoral stimulation can also help them to end up achieving anal orgasms more easily or get a deeper connection to anal pleasure that clit play was getting in the way of or distracting from rather than enhancing. Additionally, some women really dislike the emotional crash and loss of arousal that often happens after clitoral orgasms, so excluding them in favor of anal orgasms only can keep them aroused and want to keep going or stay in a constant state of happy arousal even after sex. This is a similar reason that some women enjoy edging or orgasm denial so much—they just stay aroused without the arousal ending in an orgasm. With anal orgasms, it's the best of both worlds for women who enjoy such things.

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by Bosshoggg » Thu Jul 09, 2020 5:15 pm

I strongly prefer when a woman doesnt play with her clit durring anal. But i understand its harder to do

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by Katy » Sat Jul 18, 2020 7:44 pm

I tried going without clit play for a month and had the most explosive anal orgasm. I would love to be with a partner who would consider pussy denial (in an AO context obviously).

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by Quebass » Wed Jul 29, 2020 2:38 am

Women should only allow this if you share the same deal. No cock touching for 1 month. Massage his prostate to make him come.

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by clouds » Wed Aug 05, 2020 4:14 am

Quebass wrote:
Wed Jul 29, 2020 2:38 am
Women should only allow this if you share the same deal. No cock touching for 1 month. Massage his prostate to make him come.

I think this topic is misunderstood. It's not about allowing or controlling (well it can be of you're into that). But not using your clit or penis for reaching orgasm can be a lot of fun if you WANT to explore that. If you want to explore it together even better.

In my opinion the whole anal experience is most enjoyable if you're really into it. Maybe you never thought about it and your partner suggests it first. But then you have to be interested yourself for it to be pleasurable. Same goes for trying to reach maximum pleasure through anal! If you really want to see how much pleasure or even orgasm you can reach through pure anal stimulation, it won't be "hard" or annoying to ignore your clit or penis. It will be veeery enjoyable. I can recommend not making Sex about orgasm anyway...

That being said, I agree you shouldn't let yourself be pressured into these things by your partner. If you're really not into something don't do it. And work on a climate where it's easy to talk about it.

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by Samy » Wed Aug 05, 2020 9:27 am

It's all about the communicating vessels principle: if you enjoy anal already, the less you stimulate what's on the front (be it clit or penis), the more you'll get pleasure in the back (anal). In gay porn, you'll notice the bottom's penis generally gets soft when he get fucked in the ass, even when he touches himself, because sexual energy is drained from the front to the back.

So, with anal, there are two paths:

- You still stimulate what's on the front, and then it's all about masturbation, really, and the ass fucking is just an extra thrill/stimulation that gets you hotter and helps you reach a bigger clit/penile orgasm.

- You stop stimulating what's on the front, and then it's REALLY all about anal. If you're unused to it, it can get frustrating at first, but eventually your sexual energy stops bothering with what's on the front, and all shifts to the back, and then it's heaven.

It's like blind people having extra hearing.

You can add entire clit/penile denial to that, even out of sex, so that the only orgasms you get are anal orgasms, and then you'll get permanent arousal and complete sexual availability, always. Even out of "punishment" or domination or BDSM play, this does bring a couple/people closer together.

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Re: no clit stimulation

Post by LuvMyWifesAss » Wed Aug 05, 2020 8:24 pm

Samy wrote:
Wed Aug 05, 2020 9:27 am
So, with anal, there are two paths:

- You still stimulate what's on the front, and then it's all about masturbation, really, and the ass fucking is just an extra thrill/stimulation that gets you hotter and helps you reach a bigger clit/penile orgasm.

- You stop stimulating what's on the front, and then it's REALLY all about anal. If you're unused to it, it can get frustrating at first, but eventually your sexual energy stops bothering with what's on the front, and all shifts to the back, and then it's heaven.

So well put. One of the best explanations of the appeal of no clit stimulation I've read.

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