About clitoris and female orgasm

[Backdoorlover]

For me, after 25 years with a woman who kind of demanded her orgasm, it’s incredibly liberating to be with a woman who is rarely focussed on her own orgasm. Her focus is aimed on our MUTUAL pleasure, the sex as a way of bonding and feeling eachother.

So many times I hear, see and feel her approach her orgasm, but then suddenly it goes away while I do cum hard, because I anticipted her to cum too. So sometimes I feel like I’ve let her down when that happens. But she always ensures me she feels great anyway, just by making me cum so hard.

So with her it’s like maybe 3-4 orgasm on every 10 I get because of her perfect asshole and mouth. I can not even start to express how much I appreciate her for this. For the mental, emotional and sexual freedom I experience in this relationship.

[ChrisW]

For me, after 25 years with a woman who kind of demanded her orgasm

That's got to be exhausting and suck all the energy out of the relationship. Respect for giving it 25 years...

So many times I hear, see and feel her approach her orgasm, but then suddenly it goes away while I do cum hard, because I anticipted her to cum too. So sometimes I feel like I’ve let her down when that happens. But she always ensures me she feels great anyway, just by making me cum so hard.

It sounds like the "I've let her down" is still a hangover from the programming by the ex. By the sounds of it you've got someone special now, which I can relate to. But it's funny how in our case it was going AO that really unlocked that side of her more caring, unselfish nature.

[Backdoorlover]

Yes @chrisw , a woman giving up pussy penetration is making a huge statement, imo. She commits to sex with the sole purpose of pleasure.

[sana]

You havent let her down because she didnt orgasm.
Remember her vagina orgasm is not the same as your penis orgasm.

What r the first sexual acts between a boy and girl other than kissing?
Its almost always a handjob followed by a blowjob.
Naturally she wants to make the penis feel good.
The guy fingers her pussy a little to get her in the mood. But usually its about making the dick cum. Thats the natural goal, and the girl is satisfied she helped provide this pleasure.

[ChrisW]

@sana that's a good observation. When the man cums the sex act is over. BUT that doesn't mean everything is over. That's usually the time couples begin kissing, cuddling and enjoying their partners naked body close to theirs and letting the love wash over you both. Even when my GF didn't cum she's super affectionate after, asking if it was good for me, how much I enjoyed it and if I came hard. Those are always the first things on her mind. Back in the day when we had vaginal sex, she was not the same, being way too focused in getting off herself (which usually didn't work btw) and left her frustrated.

[sana]

@sana that's a good observation. When the man cums the sex act is over. BUT that doesn't mean everything is over. That's usually the time couples begin kissing, cuddling and enjoying their partners naked body close to theirs and letting the love wash over you both. Even when my GF didn't cum she's super affectionate after, asking if it was good for me, how much I enjoyed it and if I came hard. Those are always the first things on her mind. Back in the day when we had vaginal sex, she was not the same, being way too focused in getting off herself (which usually didn't work btw) and left her frustrated.

Yes. Goal is achieved. It doesn't mean you have to stop kissing and hugging. Trying to force a vaginal orgasm after the man cums is distracting from the real desire and love she is there to share. Its masculine for women to aim for the same goal as men. And it not their fault. They have been taught this and society and been teaching this more and more for generations now.

Thats why we now have a generation of girls who actually spend more time playing with their vaginas and clits than me do stroking their cocks. I know of virgin girls who masturbate 4 or 5 times a day... they wont find satisfaction behaving like boys.

If women were supposed to get off the same way, we would have a penis too. And maybe balls. Take the female hyena for example. They have a penis. Same with the spider monkey. Their penises are bigger than the males. And their behaviour is very dominant to get the satisfaction they desire. I was not born with a penis, I do not believe i was supposed to treat or use my vagina and clitoris the same way a man uses his penis.

Its like condoms. Its a barrier. Your not really experiencing the connection. You may as well just masturbate or use a dildo.

[DirtyWife]

There is alot more to sex then orgasm.
The brain is a chemical machine and gets all kinds of unique chemicals and hormones released during all parts of sex not just orgasm.
The most important for females is the connection being formed during afterglow/pillow talk or after sex cuddling.
The man is supposed to make sure the whole experience last long enough to satisfy the female so she feels bonded to you.
It doesn't have to be mind-blowing every time for a female so long as it is satisfying.

Look at 40yr old divorced ladies... they cry on tik Tok about how lonely they are and they just want a hug. You know they got all the dildos that simulate the real thing but their are 2 major things missing.
The pheromones she is inhaling while being held after sex the connection that builds for that man, and the contact with ejaculate.
Woman don't create the same hormones as men so this might be our only way of getting boosted by these chemicals and hormones.

I know I feel great after being cummed on or in. Not as great otherwise and if I orgasm with out getting him off I feel drained like I haven't eaten all day.


Sorry @sana I didn't read any of those articles but I did read a guys blog on fuckblogging I think. It was about the effects of cumming in his wife's ass and I believe him...it's good for her.
Some say we grow a taste for what our bodies need and I really grew a desire for cum in my ass lol
I think my body needs it

[sana]

My clitoris was very long before. About 1.5in. Its only 1cm now. Almosy flat as i need yo pull the hood up hard to expose it. It doesnt get hard anymore. Arousal is felt more deep in abs. Not much sensation if not any in the clitoris.

[sana]

Have other girls experienced this too?

[DirtyWife]

I never had a very prominent clit but I am also very sensitive. I do know that more blood flow= growth and the more you practice something the better the electrical connections become in your brain... So the more you use the inner parts of the clit through your ass,the bigger those connections would become and if you exercise a muscle it gets stronger and bigger so maybe with out "exercising" the tip of your clit it could be encouraging it to grow down towards you ass instead.
I know my anal orgasms are way better the more anal I have
Practice makes perfect ...while not using will divert energy elsewhere making that area stronger