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[Colt1911]

@Analwife15 as someone who helped my wife enjoy anal play and sex, I’d say you should plug and penetrate your ass as often as you can tolerate. Pain is a good indicator and a sign to stop.

We started our journey with smaller plugs and dildos. As she adjusted I’d increase the size. I’d say it took two months of anal play before I attempted to fuck her ass. I’ll never forget that day and she came had a huge anal orgasm minutes after I penetrated her. But this was with anal play once or twice a week. If you practice daily, as your body allows, I think you should be able to be in good shape for anal six weeks from now.

So, from a dude’s perspective who doesn’t receive anal, my advice is to practice frequently with smaller toys and work your way up. Also, if you can estimate the diameter of your husband’s cock, you say want to buy a dildo with the same diameter. I knew my wife was ready when she was able to take a 2” diameter glass plug (it has a thick neck to help the stretch) because my cock is a little more than 2” in diameter. For many years she swore her hole would never take my cock, but here we are.

Again, from a male’s perspective, associating sexual pleasure with anal penetration was key. Play with your clit while penetrating your ass with plugs or dildos. It will help you relax and open up. She still enjoys using a vibrator during anal sex, but tosses it aside when her anal orgasm approaches. She wants to feel the full body, POWERFUL orgasm.

You’ll know you’re making progress when you push and thrust your ass onto the plug or dildo because you WANT it in your ass. My last suggestion is to fuck your ass with a plug. This way your hole is expanding and contracting more frequently with each movement. Start with a small plug so you get used to the feeling.

Anal changed our sex life in such a significant and positive way. I’m happy to share our experiences and advice with those exploring the pleasures of anal. It’s awesome and has brought us closer together because of the intimacy and trust involved. Practice makes perfect and what a fun way to practice! Keep us posted on your progress. Best!

[Backdoorlover]

I want to chip in on one thing. @Colt1911 hates me saying this. But when a woman plays with her clit untill the very last moment and then stops when her orgasm is comming, she is having a clitoral orgams. For an anal orgasm women have no need for clitoral stimulation.

My girlfriend does it the same way as colt’s wife. Before her rubbing makes her orgasm, she pulls her hand off her clit and let the orgams happen. But we consider it as clitoral orgams, cause they only happen with some serious clit stimulation.

We tried for years for my girlfriend to reach pure anal orgasms and sometimes she comes so close, yet never manages to go over the edge. But hey, we just keep trying and who knows.

[Colt1911]

@Backdoorlover I don’t “hate” when you say that, I simply disagree with your assertion. When disagreement is equated to “hate” it is impossible to achieve effective communication.

@Analwife15 is seeking advice on how to train her ass to receive anal more comfortably. If using a vibrator or rubbing her clit helps her achieve that goal, I think that’s a “good” thing.

The “debate” whether an anal orgasm can ever include stimulation of the clit is a separate subject and one best answered by the ladies in the group.

Congrats, by the way, on your engagement!

[Backdoorlover]

The rubbing of the clit to make anal sex more enjoyable has been proven over and over. Especially for newbies.

No debate there.

But @Colt1911 , I see my women have orgasms the exact same way your wife does. Difference is that we don’t consider it anal orgasms, cause no matter what we try, they never happen without stimulating her clit. And believe me, she came close numerous times but she can’t get over the edge without her clit being used.

[Analwife15]

Absolutely enjoying this last few weeks of training my ass. I’m really proud of myself honestly. Taking my dildo has been a lot easier than I imagined but I’ve also been plugging whatever I can which I love. I see my husband in a week and cannot wait to take him in my ass. I’m not sure we will leave our hotel next week. Maybe I’ll have to share a bit of the fun!

Has anyone traveled with toys through TSA? I want to dress up and leave my plug in my ass when I see him.

[Backdoorlover]

As long as it doesn’t have metal in it, the metal detector will never go off.

So wear a silicone plug.

[Colt1911]

Absolutely enjoying this last few weeks of training my ass. I’m really proud of myself honestly. Taking my dildo has been a lot easier than I imagined but I’ve also been plugging whatever I can which I love. I see my husband in a week and cannot wait to take him in my ass. I’m not sure we will leave our hotel next week. Maybe I’ll have to share a bit of the fun!

Has anyone traveled with toys through TSA? I want to dress up and leave my plug in my ass when I see him.

Haha! Great question. Yes, we’ve traveled with toys in my carry on suitcase. My bag was selected for a search and agents could clearly see her stainless plug, a huge silicone dildo, a stainless cock ring, and a rechargeable vibrator. Mrs Colt was mortified but I simply smiled when making eye contact with the TSA agent!

She doesn’t/won’t wear a plug when flying. Her favorite stainless plug weighs 16 ounces so I’m pretty sure it would trigger the metal detector!

I hope you’re able to show your husband the joys of anal sex. Let us know how your sessions go. Nice job training your ass to take toys and plugs. Enjoy!