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mook
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need help w girlfriend

Post by mook » Thu Jun 28, 2018 7:46 pm

Hello all, i am a 24 yo male in the USA,
i want to ask about my girlfriend,
I am looking for help i guess, i found this site after hearing her talk about having an AO relationship with her ex, she is 22, we have been together for about 6 months..in our relationship, we have mostly vaginal and oral sex, we have done anal several times and it was awesome.. i definitely prefer it..The problem is in her relationship with her ex witch was her only real relationship before us, her boyfriend was a little abusive it sounds, she has told me that he made her have Anal and oral sex with him like 95% of the time all the time they where together, he rarely touched her vagina if at all and would not allow her to either.. he also tied her up and hit her and such. she crys when she talks about it,.. she didn;t start to tell me all this until recently.. it is hard to hear. it also leaves me confused. on one hand i was looking forward to more anal sex, and i definitely noticed that she seemed resistant to it at first, but on nights when i was naturally more aggressive or drinking or whatever, she would let me, then seem really really Into it, like way more then normal witch left me with the impression she really liked it..I love her, i do not want to do something she does not want, but at the same time it almost feels like she likes it subconsciously but can not ask for it.. figuring out girls is crazy ! does anyone have any advise for me ?

AnnoMundi
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Re: need help w girlfriend

Post by AnnoMundi » Wed Jul 04, 2018 2:50 pm

The smartest (and also most callous) advice that I've come across is to never get involved with a woman like that. Not that she is bad, or doesn't deserve your help, but just that down that road lies a metric fuck ton of problems that will mess up your life as well. Since you already are involved your first priority should not be about getting anal nookie, but sorting out the mess in her head with her. Because if you don't it will fuck you up eventually.

Huntermax
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Re: need help w girlfriend

Post by Huntermax » Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:13 pm

I have to agree that this is a damaged girl that you don't want to let yourself get too close to. She enjoys drama. Zero, to very women enjoy real abuse, but many of them do enjoy the drama that goes with the abuse, and some enjoy abuse itself. It sounds like she is reliving her time with her ex when you become more aggressive.

It's also true in general that many women will act submissive, but only when you act dominant. They may even want to act submissive, but are wired to push your buttons and your boundaries and to do confusing things. They are wired this way to throw you off and see if you are a man, or a boy, or something less. So she acts like she doesn't want it, and maybe she kind of doesn't it, but she likes aggressive dominant men and so when you act that way, she does want it and lets you have it.

This is of course an immature woman. Most men would want a women that will just be honest, and consistent. One you can talk openly with about what you want and what she wants. Instead what you have is a drama queen whom puts on you, the bad things her ex did to her. The bad things that she allowed him to do, and that part of her probably enjoyed, while the other part of her hated it and hated herself for enjoying it.

Long story short, this girl has the wiring to become a stripper, porn star, cam girl or escort. But she's not going to make a great long term girlfriend or wife material. And you thought you were on here to get anal only advice. That said, I'd still go anal only for a little while with her and then move on.

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