My wife and I have been together for 11 years. Our first sexual experiences were anal sex, and although we were not only anal after marriage, anal sex was always prevalent and protagonist in our sex life. She seemed to enjoy anal sex more than me and this was obviously very exciting.
However, after a health problem in which she had to withdraw from intercourse for a few months, her sex life declined. The treatment lasted almost a year and today she is fully recovered, but her preference for anal sex has been lost. She acknowledges that she has lost her nerve for anal sex.
If before she used to beg or take initiative to have anal sex, today I need to insist and sometimes even plan a future date to do it as if it were something extraordinary. Even so, the penetration usually lasts only a short time at her request.
She had the "open mind" to deal with our unusual sex life and that included our exciting preference for anal sex. She vigorously defended the practice for her friends by trying to convince her married friends to open up to anal pleasure. Today she says that the vagina is the appropriate and natural organ for sex. It looks like another person and I feel slightly frustrated. In our conversation she thinks I should accept that the vagina was made for sex and that it is not normal to have anal sex every time several times a week.
I must say she did not become frigid or averse to sex, but it seems that the anal horny was completely transferred to the vaginal side. I just want to share a little of my grief and frustration with you.
I do not think I should find help here, but I accept any tip that can help us get back what it was before ...
I am willing to answer any question anyone might want to ask about our past or current life.
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