It was hard to find such stories, but back then google still showed it all, as long as you did the effort to scroll 8 pages far.
One fine day I found an article about how anal sex can become a succes for both partners. And the key factor was, it said “if the heart says no, the ass says no”, meaning that if the receiver was not fully into it, the spincter would not relax enough to make the assfuck enjoyable. The giver then was the one who had the task to make the receiver want it. Not demand it or just take it, no, make her feel wanted so much her heart told her she wanted his cock in her asshole.
I remember how reading that suddenly made anal sex the most romantic kind of sex in my mind. The notion that only a truly trusting and relaxed woman could let a man use her asshole in the most satisfiying way for both, changed my whole view on the matter.
So much that I basically stopped trying to have anal with my then wife, cause she clearly could not trust me enough to give it to me. I tried hard to make her truts me and relax. It never happened. She kept clenching. It kept being too painfull.
Now after almost two years of anal only with my sweetheart, it’s so clear what the remark in the subject meant. She - just now - took me in her ass dry, her asshole relaxes and I can easily shove my cock in. This is pure trust. This is real love. This is what I wanted. And now I have it
